What's the most privileged/off the mark post/response you've read?

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I've name changed for this, just in case anyone does an AS and accuses me of getting DM fodder.

Me and the DC had to flee our home several years ago and we were moved into a tiny 2 bed flat temporarily. I made a thread at the time, saying me and 3dc had had a traumatic move and were very overcrowded and asked for advice on how to store our daily stuff in an efficient way.
Several posters replied helpfully, linking shelving units/freestanding storage, but one poster replied along the lines of:

"Your DH must be high up in the army and you have to rough it in officers housing until your 5 bed detached home is ready".

Another poster quoted the above with "This was my immediate thought too! It's so hard OP, but we've all been there".

I found this both amusing and perplexing because a) I would never have assumed the above and b) it was so far off the mark.

There was another thread very recently about food guidelines where the lack of awareness and privilege was quite frightening!

That is very Amanda

“It’s like planning Hakkasan and getting Miller & Carter”

I have undoubtedly got the name of the fancy restaurant wrong. Miller & Carter is a treat for the majority of people.

Only on MN is Miller & Carter a veritable greasy spoon, and nor would they lower themselves to a weekend at Center Parcs - £600 a night is far too downmarket for them!

@HereComesAuntySocial congratulations on 28 days, exactly the same number for me; 4 weeks, almost through Dry Jan, next goal 100 days! Come over to the ‘The continuing support thread for anyone trying to lead an alcohol free life - Spring 2026’ all very supportive & just reading it had been keeping me accountable so it could work for you too.

Yes these threads definitely bring them out. People who cannot imagine being unable to work due to a child's disability and needing to rely on benefits. They think being unable to care for your child's medical needs at night as a lone parent and also have a 60 hour a week high paying career is some kind of moral deficit yet they can't cope when their DH goes away for the weekend. People who don't realise that being poor is not when you're down to your last £100k in savings and wondering about where to go skiing and whether or not to take the nanny along. Or the food threads when people don't know what it's like to be truly on the bones of your arse and still having to feed everyone. They are wittering on about high quality protein and UPF when someone has a fiver to feed everyone in the house for a week. 35p noodles from the food bank it is in those cases. And the house threads where people claim they couldn't live without an en suite bathroom each, driveway, big garden and other higher end housing features when plenty manage just fine in flats and terraces. I admit though that I can't identify with their lives either as I have never known that kind of money and luxury.

Every single thread about inheritance and wills has my jaw dropping.

Especially when the people giving the inheritance are still very much alive.

The presumption that people who do WFH have a desk and a special computer chair in their exclusive home office. And that if they don't, WFH shouldn't be available to them.

Do you remember the days we used to talk about how how people work all their lives and should be able to enjoy their retirement? Now they're the actual devil if the word 'cruise' escapes their mouth if they have living children.

There was on thread the poster was questioning their parents spending and how it may affect her future.
How sad to look at your parents as a walking bank balance.

One of my faves is when people ask for advice as they are short on cash for the month and people suggest they move house. Like it's a quick fix and not expensive at all moving house 😆

Not on this forum, but I was once told that I was selfish and wicked because my husband had put our car in my sole name in order to stop me losing it after his death. (I'm in Scotland where adult children are legally entitled to one third of the moveable estate, including any car or part-ownership of car.)

I had to point out that that a third of a used car wasn't going to do my adult stepkids any use, particularly when they'll only drive a Mercedes Benz.

I've had people in RL suggest this as a solution to the fact that I need to get work done on my house...

I couldn't learn to drive at 17 because my family couldn't afford it. We lived in a backwater of a town with next to no student jobs too (most of the current out of town retail parks, fast food places etc had not been built yet at that point).

I couldn't take lessons until I finished uni and teacher training - my parents didn't drive. (They couldn't afford it.)

Ooh yes, this. My marriage broke down in devastating and totally unforeseeable circumstances. I went from a two income home for my DC to being a single mum on universal credit top ups. UC is designed to be cruel and demeaning and it has honestly messed with my mental health being made to feel like some kind of drain on society. There's always someone with an opinion on what I should/should not be allowed. I can no longer build the future I'd envisaged because I'm not allowed to amass significant savings. My work hours are limited due to lack of childcare, my DC's additional needs and no one to tag team with. My ex meanwhile gets none of the finger pointing and comments.

I have two 😂

Same thing on 'we should have to pay to see a GP' type threads. 'If it was £20 (or however much) surely everyone would be able to manage that.' 🙄

I would say though that ‘swanning off’ is an odd expression to use about someone living where they do because of their JOB

When people come into my house and say "where's the garden" as if it's standard with every house 😭 oh I wish!

'I've also seen many "it's only £20/£50/£100, surely you can put it on a credit card/borrow from someone"'

I see this intermittently on MN. And challenge it when I do. It makes my blood boil. 🙄

That hard to get £10 be as well be £500 if you haven't got it you haven't got it.
I've been poor and it's a tough gig.

A real life one…

As a 19 year old student I lived in a standard scruffy house share. My boyfriend at the time lived with his parents. I was talking to his mum about doing laundry and she was HORRIFIED that we didn’t have a tumble drier. ‘But how do you stop your towels getting crispy?!’ I was just delighted they weren’t growing mould 🤣

… This is the same woman whose kitchen was falling apart but insisted her husband by her a 5k Mulberry bag for Christmas. She was like Hyacinth Bucket incarnate.

I'll stick up for you on this as I also remember it. I remember it well as I suggested on the same thread that people could use milk powder for baking, and you would have thought I had suggested some old fashioned thing that hadn't been available since the war.

‘But how do you stop your towels getting crispy?!’

Quelle horreur!!

Crispy towels dry you off faster and offer superb exfoliation (admittedly in some instances, a 3rd degree burn).

This woman had clearly never experienced the joy of the crispy towel. She should be pitied. Poor unfortunate soul.