16 yo son wants GF to sleep over

[Northmanchester]

He's 16 next week and has always said he would not have sex with his 17 year old GF until it was legal. He has asked for her to sleep over or him to sleep @ hers next week. We are very uncomfortable with allowing this as although we've talked about precautions/bought condoms etc. we think the less times they have sex the less chance there is of pregnancy. We know we can't stop it from happening at all. It's a numbers thing. We know he will not be happy when we tell him. Any advice on how we do?

Parents are involved in their children's sex life, that's part of parenting. How are teenagers supposed to learn about consent, contraception, sexual health risks and pregnancy? A lot of boys learn via porn, because many schools are useless in this respect and their parents don't talk to them at all or often enough and not in enough detail. That is not going well.

Posters here seem to think they can and should reduce the number of times their children have sex, the number of partners and possibly control the type of sex they have. That is naive and dangerous for girls.

Can he stay at hers? Yes if the parents allow it.
Can she stay at yours? No - because you are the parents and you don’t want it!

I am clearly such a prude. I didn't let my sons share a bed/room with their girlfriends even when they were in uni. I don't know why I read these threads. Posts like this just make my head spin.

I don't think you're a prude. It's fine to not want your kids having sex in your house when you're there.

I think it's ok if you set up a second bed in his room like you would for any other sleepover. Keep it natural and avoid awkwardness, that way you are approving the friendship element not the "go on, have a shag" element.
Probably they'll end up sharing but if either or both doesn't want to it will give a little more space & they won't be trapped close together in a single bed at 2am when it turns out one snores and the other is a kicker.

You're trying to control the wrong thing. If your aim is to minimise risk of teen pregnancy then focus on the message about safe sex every time rather than trying to reduce the number of times (which may increase the risk of opportunistic sex without adequate protection).

so he’s 15 she’s 17? When’s she 18?

He wants to have her stay after he turns 16 though.

I would guess he’s in year 11 and she’s in year 12.