Those who have had a termination, do you regret it?

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I'm newly pregnant with our third and I'm overwhelmed with the feeling this would be a bad idea for our family. We have two happy healthy children and a good life and I'm scared to mess that up. With three, we'd be financially and emotionally stretched. On the other hand, I don't know if I could handle the guilt of aborting their sibling. I know it's just a bundle of cells right now but if I did nothing it would grow into a baby. I'd make the choice to cut that life down. Those who have decided to terminate a pregnancy, do you ever regret it? Or years down the line are you happy with your decision?

@EverytimeItry I am so so sorry that you were left with no alternative than to take that step, in your circumstances. I had HG twice. People have no idea what it is like and what it can do.

Please give your body longer to recover before trying again and seriously build your system up so that you are physically prepared, as far as you can be. Get support systems in place for the impact HG can have - we had to do that fast, second time around.

Please also contact
https://pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/

You are not the only person who has been driven to the state of having to terminate, love. Your grief is heavy, but you are not alone.

Hey, sorry a little late but only just have an update. We ended up losing the pregnancy at 12 weeks, a missed miscarriage. Sadness mixed with a little relief. I don't think the pregnancy was ever meant to be. I do think I would have struggled with the guilt if I'd decided to terminate so I'm glad it happened this way.

I hope you ended up making the right decision for you 🩷

Same here. I regret I was not making better decisions in that stage of my life and allowing myself to conceive when I was not ready to be a mother. I am glad I had a choice, and no, I never regretted it.

Sorry, did not realize this was an old thread. Take care OP.