Neighbour keeps taking in our parcels without asking

[StayceGerste]

This is a small thing but it’s starting to annoy me more than it probably should.
Our neighbour takes in our parcels whenever we’re out, which is kind, but she then opens the outer packaging “to check what it is” and comments on it when we collect it. Nothing malicious, just overly curious.
I appreciate the help, but I also don’t love someone knowing exactly what I’ve ordered every time.

My neighbour has a safe space for parcels but they just leave them on the doorstep in full view where they could get stolen. If I see one there and I know she's out I'll take it in and message her. The delivery people never ring her doorbell either so if she is in I'll message her. She doesn't get the delivered notification because they are addressed to her partner. I would never open them.

Don’t “ask her not to”, don’t say “you prefer she doesn’t”, just tell her not to! So very rude.

😂😂😂

Just what I was thinking too! Imagine her asking “what are you going to do with them”?

I would go fucking MENTAL if my neighbour did this.

Are you serious?

In my building we all take in parcels for each other and I find it really helpful. HOWEVER - no-one would ever dream of opening someone else’s parcel to see what’s in it, that’s pretty shocking behaviour! And to then comment on the contents so she’s not even trying to pretend it wasn’t her who opened it? Utterly bizarre.

Tell her firmly to stop it.

Mildred, I don't want to fall out with you here as I really appreciate you taking my parcels in and having good neighbour relations, however you are really out of order opening my parcels, it is an invasion of my privacy and illegal to open another persons post without their permission.

If you really cannot control yourself please tell the delivery driver you cannot accept them and they can either try another neighbour or redeliver at another time. I really hope not to have to have to have this conversation again or need to take further action.

We have issues with a neighbour so don’t want any parcels left there as we would never get them back. You can get a sticker for r letterbox from Royal Mail that says not to leave mail with neighbours. It has their official logo on so the posties will see it. I haven’t found the need to tell any other parcel company as most read that sign and accept it for them as well. I’ve only had one delivery person leave it with a neighbour after putting it on, so it’s a good option.

For extra clout, I would also write on the delivery insurrections not to leave at number X as well.

i just posted to say that in my block of flats we all take each others parcels in and then I read yours. Such a different take! I’ve always been really grateful - means no risk of the parcel being nicked by some random coming into the building. Plus sometimes parcels have to be signed for and if no-one takes it in it doesn’t get delivered. I can see it might be annoying if she’s on the top floor though and you have to treck upstairs.

Stop being so placid. Like a pp said, her opening your parcels isn't mildly inconvenient, it's fucking outrageous.

Just tell her. I've been meaning to mention it for a while - I appreciate you taking my parcels in but I like opening them myself. Please stop opening them.

how many times has she actually opened them?

She's not being helpful. 🙄

Have you actually just asked her to stop opening your parcels?

Does it have to be all or nothing, though? Is there no 'official' way to say by all means leave them with 36, 42 or 44 but ABSOLUTELY NOT with 38?

We have a couple of neighbours we really wouldn't want our parcels left with; but most of the others no issue whatsoever... apart from the fact that I work flexibly from home, so I'm home much more than they are, and it's more often me being asked to take in parcels for them!

£106?

It's be a lot cheaper to just tell her not to open the parcels.

Your neighbour opens your parcels and you’ve never said, “what the hell are you doing, stop opening my post?!”

She’s weird but you’re weird for just standing there gormlessly when she presents an open box.

Yes, it's a bit like the kicking Bishop Brennan up the arse escapade - it's such an unbelievably outrageous thing to happen, you actually cannot believe that it really has happened.

This is a deadly way to put it to a stop without her being all offended/passive aggressive & actually I might start taking this Black Belt Barristers advice.. usually It's clothes or lego so I never really have to worry about breakages but if it was vinyl it could really come in handy

so thanks @FizzingAda

What have you actually said about her opening your mail???

I agree with a parcel box, signs etc, but I'd be tempted to order some joke gift boxes for her to see too!😆

What age is your neighbour, could she possibly have the beginning of dementia as that’s the sort of thing my mum would have done.

I love the ideas of ordering embarrassing and/or passive aggressive products for her to open and 'find out'... however, by far the best thing would be if you could get hold of a large kitchen appliance box, write your address large on the outside, get inside the box yourself and ask a very strong friend to tape it up and deliver you to her house (when you know that she's in), maybe offering to take the box inside to her hall for her.

It'll be a matter of seconds before the excitement gets the better of her, and she can't resist opening it. Jump out with an enormous roar and the next thing that she orders will be super-strength heavy-duty floor cleaner

She's a nosy cf and you need to stop her collecting them.

If she does it again ask her why she's intruding on your privacy by opening what doesn't belong to her.

I'd be so pissed off.

God almighty you’re doing a lot of reflecting without making a lot of sense.

This would be my suggestion too🤣

I don't think a box of dildos would stop her.
@OscillateItsTitsALot

However....
I might mail myself a box that when unwrapped would show the message, Stop opening my god damned parcels, Martha. 😁