Jealousy over diagnosis - thinking of staying off social media

[Silverwhining]

I shared a personal experience about a serious health issue and misdiagnoses on a Facebook group from where I used to live. Many people had wondered why I disappeared for 10 years, and the condition was part of the reason I moved away quietly. Most responses were kind, but one long comment accused me of lying and seeking attention. Some people didn’t even think it was actually me, though others verified it by asking questions only I could answer. The comment was entirely driven by jealousy and ultimately led to my post being removed and me being banned from posting.

To be fair, years ago some people pretended to be me online as a joke, but this was very different. Some people who know me say the Internet is savage and they would not say things like that face to face. This has really affected me and I feel it might be better for my mental health to avoid social media completely.

Slim but not impossible. Last year I posted on mumsnet about an unusual local Facebook billboard post, and two other Mumsnet users had seen it too.

a human need yes, but it needed to be the people that were similar because then they would understand better

You’re not on social media?

I completely agree that people should be more kind and it’s difficult without knowing the full details whether your post was inappropriate or if it could have rubbed people up the wrong way etc.

What we do know is that you left an area 10 years ago and then posted on a group chat to explain.

Either you did not behave inappropriately 10 years ago and therefore there was no need to explain to an entire town about why you moved away - people move away all of the time.

Or you did act inappropriately and felt you needed to apologise/explain - which is great but if you blamed it on a certain condition that could have rubbed people up the wrong way.

I have moved a few times.
Most of the time I have just upped and left and only those that I’m close to know why.
I have never felt the need to write a post years later explaining why I left though.

No I haven’t been for years (unless MN counts).

I have a friend who has never been on it once. She’s 35 so from a generation that is familiar with it.

Nah, the pp has just read between the lines and made it up.

I'm guessing that OP can't see it, no. Probably due to the condition she has.
Hope you are ok @Silverwhining

I suspect you left under a cloud and are now trying to justify why (with a reason totally unrelated to why you left) because you've left somewhere else under a cloud. I don't see why you'd bother trying to rebuild any bridges from that long ago, just move on surely?

This

I can’t think why you would share this in the first place

I mean I get why your upset

but I’m still shocked that people post all sorts of incredibly deeply personal things to people you don’t ever know.

I barely use Facebook and thank god. I made a huge choice as it would be the first thing i opened to the last thing at night and I refused to let that happen and so I stopped…..

please please please be super wary of stuff you post online. Digital footprints are now being used for everything. Jobs…..keeping your job. Police cases. All sorts of stuff.

please refrain from it people.

That you taking action might make it harder for her kids?

sorry can you explain this further please?

Mumsnet is considered social media btw.

You're right. It would be better for your mental health to avoid social media completely. I'm not sure that social media does much good for anyone's mental health, really.

You are an attention seeker. What else but attention were you seeking with the social media post. I'd think it weird if I saw it amongst the missing cats and moans about Evri.

I agree. Empathy from someone for sure

but from strangers on a random website???

not sure that’s the best way is all

I know that I said that I wouldn’t say anything but people do go online and share their experiences all the time including on an anonymous forum like mumsnet it just so happens that I put my real name to it to and chose the wrong place to post

And that’s fair enough!

nobody died….thats what my boss says when I do lots of things wrong. Or I forget which I do often. How she wants me there anymore is beyond me….but anyway.

no one died. You’re grand ❤️

I think you’re getting some really mean replies here OP, a good example of why it’s best not to post things IRL.

I don’t post anything on SM. Nada. The people who you know in RL are the only ones you need to bother with. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.

The woman who attacked you online sounds unhinged.

That's 10mins of my life I won't get back!

Maybe the OP is ND? Maybe she’s vulnerable? Maybe after being out of society for years she as she says “felt she owed people an explanation”. She says her friends were encouraging her to explain what had happened to her as it could help others. I’m assuming she’s talking about informing the people she knew before she got ill? She sounds naive and misguided to me, that’s all.

If she’s been a recluse for 10 years she’s hardly an attention seeker is she?

Some really harsh comments here OP - this comment section is a good example of why it’s not always great to share your problems with strangers who don’t know you. Some people get off on leaving horrible snotty messages behind their keyboards and Facebook/mumsnet/instagram should definitely be avoided unless you are thick skinned.

Speak to your family or people who support you/love you in real life and I really hope you are okay. Well done on getting back out into the world and just be careful about sharing things with people that are personal or sensitive to you

OP are you ok? Not snarky, genuinely your posting that is a bit odd.

Surely everyone who posts on social media is an attention seeker then? Facebook has plenty of personal stories, addiction recovery, weight loss, marriage posts, new baby posts, new business posts, mental health posts. It’s not just missing cats or evri posts. Social media is all attention seeking

Social media is just full of attention seekers. I agree that it is best that you avoid it.