Reassure me that not everyone is out having fun!

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Am feeling sad tonight after seeing photos/videos of old school mum friends having a lovely evening together with their kids.

We are in bed at normal times and don't really celebrate NYE, I am feeling like our kids are missing out as we don't have friends like that (they are 13 & 8) and they will grow up thinking that we're boring!!

I know I'm being negative, and am better these days at acknowledging my sadness and moving on, so please indulge me and tell me if you are also having a "normal" evening!

I’m in bed with the flu. Dh kindly woke me up at ten to twelve so that I could count down with him.
He’s annoyingly drunk and I feel rough but I went along with it and now back in bed.

In the USA . Waiting for the football “bowl game” between The Ohio state University and university of Miami to begin. Went to diner after a long day at work. The bartenders and wait staff all dressed so cute in black and sequins but it’s snowing here and I think it’s going to be a slow night for restaurants and bars.

invited to a party but drive right home after dinner because of the snow and road conditions

I ate 3 chocolate covered marshmallows and happy to read other MNers also having a sweet treat.

We’ve been at home (as usual) frequently checking on toddler DS who has a temperature and clearly having fever dreams. We made it to midnight for the first time in several years and after watching the professional fireworks we can see from home DH has now gone to bed while I finish the half bottle of champers. Parkrun in the morning… maybe.

We have been home consoling DDog who doesn’t cope well with fireworks. DD (8) went to bed at 10 after a movie and the baby went at his usual time!

We were in, have a baby DD who I can't leave overnight. All my local friends have small kids and are at home and was too hard logistically to see friends who are further afield. We had some nice wine and cheese and last of Christmas chocolate so not a complete write off! Our dog is thankfully not bothered by fireworks but I think they should be banned apart from official displays.

DH woke me at midnight to wish me a happy new year as I'd fallen asleep on the sofa. I celebrated by putting the kettle on!!

DH is always in a bad mood because he thinks he’s missing out. In the 80s he would have been at his grandmas with loads of extended family.
He thinks if we were in his home town then we would be having some amazing time. Except, most of the relatives he had a relationship with have died. We have spent a few new years there, they were really awful.
When DD is older and has left home I will go somewhere warm for new year, it’s shit because of the weather.

Can"t remember last time I did anything for NYE.

Havent spoken to anyone since Christmas Day.

It's so much nicer to spend NYE at home! It's always terrible weather, crowded, expensive, and celebrating a random countdown to nothing leads to existential despair (maybe that's just me). I like starting new year's day with a clear head.

I'm lying on the floor of my baby's room, hoping the Calpol will help get her to sleep. I did have some fizz with DH earlier, but that's when I expected the baby to sleep well because of her virus... I'll be starting 2026 very sleep deprived, but not for glamorous reasons...

Young adult DD was at her boyfriends so DH, our tween boys and I had a board game evening and it was just lovely. Only ever been out out on NYE once and to friends house parties a couple of times but home is where my heart is.

My kids are all grown and flown, had some nibbles and a couple of proseccos with DH and have left him watching Jools Holland, I'm in bed watching Gogglebox and eating frazzles ☺️ never been much of a one for NYE, have had parties and nights out in the past but now I'm just too lazy!

I'm often at home and prefer it, but this year have a recent long covid diagnosis and am supposed to be getting lots of rest and calm... despite my best efforts with noise cancelling headphones and an eye mask I woke up in a huge panic with the fireworks at midnight and have only just about calmed it all down. I'm not a big fan of fireworks anyway but my already messed-up nervous system just went NOPE.

Haven’t been out on NYE for decades. Load of shite. Enjoy staying home.

I've done being out all night partying on NYE in my youth and now I can't be arsed. I can't even be arsed to look out of the window to crane my neck and see if I can spot some fireworks. I'm waiting up for teen DD to get in safely, MNing and reading.

But, OP you don't have to do anything "out" with the DC, they'd probably find it exciting to stay up and watch it on TV with hot chocolate etc. Maybe an option for next year.

we stayed up to watch Big Ben but kids were in bed at normal times, aged 10, 6 and 6. I feel mean but they don't ask to stay up, and honestly they'd be bloody awful that tired

I spent the evening with an 8 year old suffering from a cold snuggled up next to me on the sofa whilst my 10 year old sat reading and waiting to see the fireworks on television.
Stopped going out on New Year's Eve about twenty years ago, it was always disappointing.

I did party food just me adult DD and DS. Both have severe autism and ADHD they don't even understand about new year. They enjoyed the food and the trifles I made in the knickers bocker glory glasses. But it's just another day to them. They had their usual bedtime drink and tucked up in bed for 10. 30. Usually in bed for 10.

I've done new years eve out in my younger years so don't feel like I'm missing out. 1 year went out with ex for new year after DC came along for rare night out. We ended up in the most boring pub we were only ment to be having 1 drink. We were out with a mate of ex's family who kept buying drinks then when 1 had nearly finished a couple of others would buy drinks which meant everyone else would get drinks and it went like that all night. I would rather have been sat at home. At least we could watch the fireworks.

Yep, stayed in too was always the plan. Kids (12 and 10) have been a nightmare today. Way too many late nights these holidays so they were in bed early. Me and DH watched films and then the NYE programme on BBC1 with a couple of drinks. We're now both scrolling and heading to sleep shortly

You are not alone. Years ago New Year was always a big thing and huge celebration for me but life has changed. Even though I think a lot of people stay in now and don't really celebrate i still can't help feeling really sad. Especially seeing the London fireworks on tv makes me feel like I'm really missing out

Even my DS17 text me to pick him up at 12.02 because he was bored at the party he went to 🤣 He’s gaming now.

DD13 and other DS17 are planning to watch the Stranger Things finale!

We know how to party in this house 😂😂

Stayed up with DS for London fireworks on BBC1 then straight to bed. Perfect!

You’re not missing out. My experience was that they’re better on TV

Usually I'm in but was invited to a party where only knew one person- a relative. People were lovely but you can feel lonely at a party and comparison is the thief of joy. I find myself looking at loving couples and then my very bored husband trying successfully to avoid all conversation and probably really wanting to be at home. NYE is so long as well if you start at 7pm. I don't know. I'm in bed now with my Usual melancholic NYE feeling.
New years resolution...try not to compare, be present, breathe....

I'm sorry, that sounds horrid. Like you, I am better at not hanging on to things, but it still hurts sometimes, doesn't it?

Enjoy your plans with your real friends in the New Year