How to raise a son to not be a mummy's boy

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I'm 36 week pregnant with a baby boy. I have daughters already.

I'm excited for this new baby but I have moments of dread (which I didn't have with my girls) because all the men I know are such mummy's boys and I find it really nauseating. I hope I can raise my son better but I'm not sure how to do this exactly.
My brothers, father, father in law all have (in my opinion) weird relationships to their mothers and I think my sister who is raising a son is also doing a bad job. By this I mean they all seem to expect their mothers to pamper them and make a fuss of them when their together and seem to lack awareness that this may not be very convenient or considerate to their mothers. Adult daughters don't do this to their mothers in my experience.

I would love recommendations on how to raise a boy to be a man that doesn't look to women/ their mother/ their wife for them to do everything/loads for them that they can really do themselves! Any advice or reading/podcasts much appreciated, I really don't want to mess this up.

A man who chooses to avoid looking after himself and expects women to fill the gap is often that way because his mother/wife has done everything for him. Please don't push the idea that women never do anything wrong.

@SouthernNights59. Do you have any proper research to support your theories about’Mummy’s boys’? Most of the points you make are anecdotal. There is plenty of statistical data that many women in their fifties, and younger, believe that they have the right to be financially supported by men. The number of women not economically employed is growing and the Government is looking for ways to get older women back into work. Is that the fault of mummies and daddies enabling girls to think they don’t have to work for a living? I have no idea. To say that many women don’t work due to parental enabling would be anecdotal.
Please share the statistical evidence for using abusive terms like ‘mummy’s boys’. I just think it is lazy labelling in the way that the racist comments from the seventies were stereotypes. The racist stereotypes were anecdotal stories. Most of them were not based on fact. The same anecdotal laziness is evident on blamey, double whammy, abusive terms designed to belittle men and old women.
I can give you the statistical evidence for women and the workplace if you wish?

Women do lots of things wrong. But they are not responsible for the behaviour of another adult human, even if they are their mother.

Indeed. Any more than men are responsible for the behaviour of an adult woman-even if he is her father.