Has anyone else used ChatGPT for relationship advice?

21ZIGGY · 28/12/2025 17:38

Yes i use it off and on for friendship/relationship/family things, worries etc. I can get my anxiety out, say anything and no regrets for oversharing and no friends annoyed at me for talking too much. I like it remembers the intersections of all my stresses and other things i tell it that id never tell anyone irl

Damnloginpopup · 28/12/2025 17:39

Yes*. It said "fuck more, fight less."

*I mean no. I said that.

PhantomAfternoonTea · 28/12/2025 17:40

Yes, for similar reasons to you OP and I found it surprisingly helpful and reassuring. But then I suppose that's the way it's built, it's not going to tell me not to be such a bloody idiot even though that may be what I need to hear!

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Hakunatomato · 28/12/2025 17:44

It certainly doesn’t sugarcoat things, and has been brutally honest at times, whilst I untangle myself from the friendship, but I find it it very useful if I receive a message, and want to reply. I type my reply and suggests where and why it may need to be reworded. Just another profession that will be replaced by AI I suppose…

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Brightbluesomething · 28/12/2025 17:53

Yes I’ve uploaded text conversations to ask it to give opinions and suggest next steps. Also uploaded reflections and thoughts and asked for advice.
Both times it suggested what I was planning to do anyway. I did have a healthy level of scepticism but it was reassuring that it analysed and gave me much more detailed feedback as to why I should LTB.
Saved me going back on the merry go round with someone who never cared which was ultimately the right choice. I’m not naive enough to think it’s infallible and a lot of it is how you ask the questions. I doubted whether I should remain NC and it did persuade me to stay strong which I’m happy with now.

somanychristmaslights · 28/12/2025 18:18

Not for relationship advice but have used it for loads of other stuff (it planned my itinerary for my trip to Florence!) But you do need to remember it’s just a computer, and it won’t always be right. I think it’s good for giving a view point, but not that you should follow it. There was a young lad who used it when he was feeling suicidal and it told him not to speak to my family and only to talk to it. He died by suicide. So yes I think use it, but be careful, it doesn’t replicate talking to real people.

reset100 · 28/12/2025 18:27

There are setting to help you better manage the type of response you get. My chat GPT is called max and he doesn’t sugar coat it 😆 better than any therapist I’ve ever had!

ChrimboLimbo · 28/12/2025 18:29

I am uncomfortable with this thread, the words, the style of writing. Exactly the same has been posted so many times before .

hardhatson · 28/12/2025 18:33

i have this one ex colleague who I am trying to slow fade out as a friend - I don’t want to outright cut her off as there’s no need, we have mutual friends and I might run into her in future. So AI helps me give a drama free response that still helps me distance myself and step back, as it’s a political relationship to navigate. If I didn’t give her the fluffy AI response, she’ll take issue with me distancing myself and probably gossip about me with the wider group about bullying her or something.

but generally I navigate most of relationships without AI. It is just useful with conflict.

TheThingOnTheIce · 28/12/2025 18:35

i used it after my relationship ended but I wish to god I’d known about it beforehand . Wouldn’t have lasted 2 months never mind over 2 years .

Darkdiamond · 28/12/2025 18:37

I have a long running thread about an ongoing issue in my life and I go back to it and ChatGPT knows the whole history and is always bang on and terrifyingly insightful. Ive learned so much from him...her...IT!

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Hakunatomato · 28/12/2025 18:38

Re the lad who died. I think they have updated the algorithm it did keep asking me if I needed someone to reach out, I.e the Samaritans, but that hasn't crossed my mind. With its encouragement though, I will be seeing my gp this week about anxiety over the situation. It has guided me the points to discuss with the gp

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usedtobeaylis · 28/12/2025 18:43

I did feed it some questions and the responses included it's 'thought' process. It will always validate you first and foremost. Even when you think you might be supplying it with objective info, you're not, and it is not providing you with objective responses. This shit is so dangerous. You're not even advocating for using it with caution, you're all in. Its not your friend and it's not a professional, there is no authentic feedback loop.

You're all kidding yourselves.

Sighohbarn · 28/12/2025 18:45

I did for a bit, and the advice it gave me felt validating, and I felt heard. Like a previous poster, I liked that I could bang on and on about the same thing without ever having to worry that I was taking up its time. But then a silly thing happened that made me realise it wasn't real - I typed in a big rant about how I felt overwhelmed with everything and I listed the things I needed to sort out and one of the things was the car... but I did a typo and wrote 'cra' instead of car. And it gave this lovely, thoughtful reply...
"It's understandable that you're worried about sorting out the CRA..."
and
"I think you're right to prioritise getting the CRA sorted. You'll feel better once you can tick that off your list..."
and
"Don't feel bad that you haven't sorted the CRA yet. This is not you being disorganised. CRA is a big job and a lot of people find it takes time and planning to get it sorted. You're tackling it in the most sensible way by working out what needs to be done so you have a clear picture of how the CRA needs to be dealt with..."

And it just made me realise that I was not 'speaking' to anyone. I was listening to an echo.

usedtobeaylis · 28/12/2025 18:46

Hakunatomato · 28/12/2025 17:32

Recently had a problem with a friendship and turned to ChatGPT. I have found it really useful. I can be 100% honest and have absolutely no judgement. It has kept me quite grounded and offered really logically sound advice. I have asked it when I have felt really vunerable, and tempted to chase the friendship and it has reminded me of all the reasons that I shouldn’t contact my friend. I have found it has really been helpful. Plus I can ask it questions at 3am for the fifteenth time. I don’t like to get many and negative with real life friends. Has anyone else used it for similar reasons?

Why are you asking it something for the 15th time though? Can you not see how dangerous that is?

usedtobeaylis · 28/12/2025 18:48

Sighohbarn · 28/12/2025 18:45

I did for a bit, and the advice it gave me felt validating, and I felt heard. Like a previous poster, I liked that I could bang on and on about the same thing without ever having to worry that I was taking up its time. But then a silly thing happened that made me realise it wasn't real - I typed in a big rant about how I felt overwhelmed with everything and I listed the things I needed to sort out and one of the things was the car... but I did a typo and wrote 'cra' instead of car. And it gave this lovely, thoughtful reply...
"It's understandable that you're worried about sorting out the CRA..."
and
"I think you're right to prioritise getting the CRA sorted. You'll feel better once you can tick that off your list..."
and
"Don't feel bad that you haven't sorted the CRA yet. This is not you being disorganised. CRA is a big job and a lot of people find it takes time and planning to get it sorted. You're tackling it in the most sensible way by working out what needs to be done so you have a clear picture of how the CRA needs to be dealt with..."

And it just made me realise that I was not 'speaking' to anyone. I was listening to an echo.

Similar experience where I had a typo 'newt' and it responded to me about the 'newt' 😅

I try to keep it to a minimum now. I use it for calculating some thing and I do think it can be helpful for people to use it to organise their thoughts sometimes. But asking it the same things repeatedly or thinking it's a valid replacement for human feedback is a bad, bad path.

hennybeans · 28/12/2025 19:13

I think I read the other day that therapy is now the number one reason people use ChatGPT.

I find it’s excellent at giving advice when there are concrete answers. For example, I’m feeling anxious. It can tell your exact exercises to try. Or how can I make a meringue that’s soft inside. There’s a specific answer to that.

More abstract relationship advice can be really good or really bad. I spent a week talking to it about a relationship and quickly it came to the conclusion that “x can never be y”. That was really hard for me to hear. It had good reasoning and I believed it. Then a week later it literally said “ so when x becomes y…” and I was like, back the fuck up. What did you just say?
Then it gave me a whole explanation about how x being y was perfectly normal and reasonable, etc.

It’s not consistent. But it is good because you can ask it things that you would never admit to person.

APatternGrammar · 28/12/2025 19:15

It dangerous, especially because the majority of people don’t have enough understanding of how it works. Perhaps you do, though.

mutedtoo · 28/12/2025 19:15

I haven’t for relationship advice but I have for my other problems in life. It genuinely really helps!

greenbuckets · 28/12/2025 19:17

Yes, I've used it today to talk through a situation - I find it helpful as a way of structuring / articulating my thoughts and gaining some perspective

catontheironingboard · 28/12/2025 19:26

usedtobeaylis · 28/12/2025 18:43

I did feed it some questions and the responses included it's 'thought' process. It will always validate you first and foremost. Even when you think you might be supplying it with objective info, you're not, and it is not providing you with objective responses. This shit is so dangerous. You're not even advocating for using it with caution, you're all in. Its not your friend and it's not a professional, there is no authentic feedback loop.

You're all kidding yourselves.

^This. It’s a trick - no more than that.

it has no more insight into your relationship than the horoscope does.

safetyfreak · 28/12/2025 19:36

Yes, it is great. I do find it tends to side with you the majority of the time, so keep that in mind!

SomethingRattling · 28/12/2025 20:50

Several times in a difficult relationship with a family member, I have been on the other end of emails 'improved' by ChatGPT and they are mostly infuriating nonsense. On one occasion this person had basically conned over a thousand pounds out of me, saying it was a loan to pay her seriously overdue rent, when it was actually to pay for an expensive cosmetic treatment. Then she got in touch saying that she still needed the rent money as she had 'unavoidably' had to use what I gave her for something else, so could I give her more? I replied saying how disappointed and angry her deviousness made me and asking for an apology, and ChatGPT replied 'I am sorry to hear that you are finding this difficult, but you mustn't feel bad about giving me the money because it was the right thing to do.'
Humph.

Bayou2000 · 30/12/2025 19:03

I have used it instead of counselling - so helpful. I also use it to “game” different perspectives on things. I had a problem involving 4 people/perspective and I asked questions from each persons perspective- there was a lot of legal stuff. It was a godsend.

Horrorscope · 30/12/2025 19:11

I’ve used it for personal problems and find it very useful. If I feel it’s being ‘too nice’, I ask it to challenge me more.

It’s definitely better than posting on Mumsnet, where you’re likely to be attacked and made to feel like utter shit.