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Too beautiful

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 16:09

Does everyone else fine their children just too beautiful for words? I’m not so idiotic that I think my kids are actually genuinely extraordinarily beautiful… so I assume other people feel this way… do you? Mine are 2 and 4 if that matters.

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 16:49

Screamingabdabz · 19/12/2025 16:45

Our brains have an inbuilt bias to think our own offspring are beautiful. It’s a bewitchment. That’s why you see new mothers cooing about having the most gorgeous baby and yet it’s usually some snot covered red faced thing with sticking out ears that would never win a Next baby modelling contract.

Yes, I assume this is true…. I wonder does it last forever? (Which is why I included their ages in my post)

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 16:50

LaurieFairyCake · 19/12/2025 16:44

It’s not just evolutionary as one of my children is not biologically mine or my partners and I think her beauty shines out of her.

its like her soul shines out to me (we fostered her and she stayed)

This is so beautiful ❤️

I also wonder if it’s just reflective of a bond we form with a small child xx

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Trentdarkmore · 19/12/2025 16:52

My mum didn't think we were beautiful so it's not everyone.

Lavenderandbrown · 19/12/2025 16:53

My dd is 27 and she is beautiful. Hair features skin smile and her light happy personality Often she is the prettiest person by far in a room.

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 16:53

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 19/12/2025 16:38

I have this when I look back at pictures of them as new borns. They really were little gremlins and to me they were the most beautiful things in the entire world.

I wonder whether will feel different in many years time! Mine are not in the new born ‘ugly‘ stage but still.. I wonder if i’ll look back differently!

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Dontlletmedownbruce · 19/12/2025 16:56

I remember when people told me of this phenomenon I was confused because I actually thought DS1 was really beautiful and not just in a beautiful to me kind of way. I kept telling myself it was a delusion but couldn't see it any other way. Then everyone told me how good looking he was. Older people and even teenagers stopped me to gape at him. He actually was an exceptionally good looking baby and boy, he still is good looking today. With my others I also thought they were perfection and beautiful but I knew they were not necessarily like that for everyone else. I just knew... in the same way that you might find a man really attractive but know deep down they are not conventionally good looking

StudentDays · 19/12/2025 16:56

SimplyBudgie · 19/12/2025 16:43

Does everyone else fine their children just too beautiful for words?
I’m not so idiotic that I think my kids are actually genuinely extraordinarily beautiful

Seems like a contradiction to me.

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This isn't a contradiction. In the first sentence op is describing how she feels.

In the second sentence she is describing what she thinks (or doesn't think).

Basically bursting with feelings but recognises they may not be shared.

I love the idea that for evolutionary reasons your children are the most beautiful humans to you.

mrstambourinewoman · 19/12/2025 16:56

Yep totally get this. Mine are almost teenagers and I still think this

dairydebris · 19/12/2025 16:57

I have one child who is significantly more beautiful than the others... I can see it objectively. But to me all the others are also just as beautiful. Even though I actually know they're not. I tell them all they are beautiful.

It becomes even clearer in photos... so I think its to do with the love you feel when youre looking directly at them 🥰

genesis92 · 19/12/2025 16:59

toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 16:36

The weird thing is, when I look at old photos of them I find them less beautiful. It’s like their present state is just overwhelmingly beautiful to me (which I guess is evolutionarily advantageous so not odd really)

This is exactly my experience too. It’s really strange

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:00

mrstambourinewoman · 19/12/2025 16:56

Yep totally get this. Mine are almost teenagers and I still think this

Ahhhhh! I was wondering whether this feeling might be limited to small ‘cute’ kids! ❤️❤️

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AllJoyAndNoFun · 19/12/2025 17:00

When DS was born, DH and I literally discussed how relieved we were that our baby was genuinely gorgeous and not like the red squashed ones in the hospital nursery. 🤣🤣🤣.

spoiler: he was both red and squashed.

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:03

genesis92 · 19/12/2025 16:59

This is exactly my experience too. It’s really strange

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Is it? I’ve been looking at baby / toddler pics of my eldest (who’s 4) and he’s a cute enough kid but very ordinary. However, I know, at the time I was besotted with how he looked. I took so many pictures of him and I remember thinking how incredibly beautiful he was (which is how I feel about the way he looks now!)

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:06

dairydebris · 19/12/2025 16:57

I have one child who is significantly more beautiful than the others... I can see it objectively. But to me all the others are also just as beautiful. Even though I actually know they're not. I tell them all they are beautiful.

It becomes even clearer in photos... so I think its to do with the love you feel when youre looking directly at them 🥰

Yes I think it’s definitely to do with how they look at the time and your love for them; I don’t feel so biased when I look at old pictures of them, oddly.

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:07

Lavenderandbrown · 19/12/2025 16:53

My dd is 27 and she is beautiful. Hair features skin smile and her light happy personality Often she is the prettiest person by far in a room.

There’s lovely 🥰

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mrstambourinewoman · 19/12/2025 17:09

AllJoyAndNoFun · 19/12/2025 17:00

When DS was born, DH and I literally discussed how relieved we were that our baby was genuinely gorgeous and not like the red squashed ones in the hospital nursery. 🤣🤣🤣.

spoiler: he was both red and squashed.

Love this 🤣

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:09

Trentdarkmore · 19/12/2025 16:52

My mum didn't think we were beautiful so it's not everyone.

Was she a good mother who didn’t tell you you were beautiful? Or was she not. Good mum?

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chickenfucker · 19/12/2025 17:09

Hmm I don't know! I used to but I can look at them more objectively as they get older. My youngest is very good looking though 😁 but you never know if it will translate into adulthood!

Mummyto3ginismyfriend · 19/12/2025 17:22

No I don't think this at all.
I love all 3 dearly and think they are amazing people. But none of them are beautiful.
My DS1 is super skinny but does have a good looking face and seems to attract girls. He is annoying and a typical teen. But occasionally says lovely things that makes my heart swell.
DS2 is a chunky rugby playing lad not at all beautiful to look at but has the most amazing beautiful empathetic personality.
DD is not conventionally pretty at all, but is sassy, independent and kind and caring. Again great personality but not beautiful to look at.

CuriousKangaroo · 19/12/2025 17:24

I think everyone feels like this about their kids.

For me it’s different though, because my DD is objectively the most beautiful child in the world…

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:25

CuriousKangaroo · 19/12/2025 17:24

I think everyone feels like this about their kids.

For me it’s different though, because my DD is objectively the most beautiful child in the world…

😂

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:25

CuriousKangaroo · 19/12/2025 17:24

I think everyone feels like this about their kids.

For me it’s different though, because my DD is objectively the most beautiful child in the world…

😂

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:25

CuriousKangaroo · 19/12/2025 17:24

I think everyone feels like this about their kids.

For me it’s different though, because my DD is objectively the most beautiful child in the world…

😂

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:25

CuriousKangaroo · 19/12/2025 17:24

I think everyone feels like this about their kids.

For me it’s different though, because my DD is objectively the most beautiful child in the world…

😂

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toobeautifulforwords · 19/12/2025 17:25

CuriousKangaroo · 19/12/2025 17:24

I think everyone feels like this about their kids.

For me it’s different though, because my DD is objectively the most beautiful child in the world…

😂

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