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In tears with disappointment

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forgotaboutmyteeth · 15/12/2025 21:57

My daughter had her baby two days ago

We planned to drive up to see her tomorrow. A 4-5 hour journey so I'd booked a B&B.

The car needed its MOT today, so we boked at the usual garage, emphasising that it must be finished tonight. At 4:30 he phoned to say he'd been delayed but would be finished by 5:30. At 6:30 DH went to find out what was going on, and the place was locked up.

DH phoned ,and the owner said he'd popped home and would be back and finished by 8pm. Now, at 9:50 DH is back there.

We aren't going, are we? We have other commitments on Thursday Friday and Saturday, so it had to be tomorrow and the next day.

I want to meet my grandchild, and hear how the delivery went.

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RampantIvy · 20/12/2025 21:51

Aw. I love a happy ending. Congratulations @forgotaboutmyteeth 💐

bleakmidwintering · 21/12/2025 07:53

🥰

Nantescalling · 04/01/2026 23:44

bleakmidwintering · 15/12/2025 22:35

Do you always go to pieces over stuff like this? It seems a tad over the top.

And a Happy New Year to you Mrs Misery !

Namechange2567 · 05/01/2026 18:00

FlyingCatGirl · 16/12/2025 19:01

You have ruined the relationship by treating your babies grandparents like they are utter shit! You don't have to be so cruel and nasty as to ban them completely from the child's life for the first 9 months! That's barbaric! Did you ever stop to think what that 9 months feels like for the grandparents you are banning from seeing their grandchild! Who does that! It's not normal! Are you telling me that you and your partner have kept yourselves in the house and have never socialised since the baby was born? You need to build bridges before you become a thorn in the side of the relationship between the child and grandparents. I know what's it like to have a mum that causes problems between family relationships and you don't tend to forget or forgive that.

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It is not bullying or nasty. My husband completely agrees and does not want to see them any sooner. Of course we don’t stay in the house! We go out every day, he’s been to Canada, America, Spain, Italy, France and Switzerland. The in laws live a long way away and have a holiday home etc which they go to for the winter and is they reason they won’t see him for a long time but we are not encouraging it by meeting in the middle after their actions. My parents see us 2-3 times a week as they live only 5 minutes away but when you’ve had a traumatic delivery, baby in NICU and a 10 day hospital stay the mother does take priority and everyone we spoke to agreed except the in laws

Namechange2567 · 05/01/2026 18:02

Blogswife · 16/12/2025 22:51

You really only allowed your own DM to see her new grandchild for 5 minutes ? She must have been heartbroken . I understand the need for privacy but that’s just cruel

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why is it cruel? She lives less than 3 minutes walk away. She saw him on day 12, 14, 16, etc etc etc in short bursts

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