In tears with disappointment

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My daughter had her baby two days ago

We planned to drive up to see her tomorrow. A 4-5 hour journey so I'd booked a B&B.

The car needed its MOT today, so we boked at the usual garage, emphasising that it must be finished tonight. At 4:30 he phoned to say he'd been delayed but would be finished by 5:30. At 6:30 DH went to find out what was going on, and the place was locked up.

DH phoned ,and the owner said he'd popped home and would be back and finished by 8pm. Now, at 9:50 DH is back there.

We aren't going, are we? We have other commitments on Thursday Friday and Saturday, so it had to be tomorrow and the next day.

I want to meet my grandchild, and hear how the delivery went.

Have a great visit , so glad it all worked out

Well, it would have been just as silly to book last week, since the baby was late?

I don't see the point guilting the OP. She just had a panic. It doesn't matter. Lots of us could look back and wonder why we didn't do things differently. And she's got a lovely grandchild to go and enjoy!

Congrats! I'm so glad it got sorted.

you have completely missed the point of a new baby! Which is to be kissed and passed around the loving relatives who have eagerly awaited its arrival.

I don't agree with this statement. Yes, relatives visit but a baby shouldn't be passed around and kissed like it was a doll.

A baby is born without defences to the outside environment until they receive their first shots. I always shake my head to the advice on MN to new moms to let friends and family visit, kiss and hug without any type of screening. It amazes me even more the advice that few week's old babies can travel on public transport without a parent thinking how dozens of strangers with colds or viruses can affect the health of the newborn

I'm old school. All my children had paediatricians since birth and their advice was always the same - not public transport until their first shots and restrict visitors until then,

She didn't go to pieces FFS! She is expressing disappointment and frustration over a last minute change of plans which is a normal human emotion. 🙄

Hire a car. This is literally what hire cars are for.

Are you American? It’s not usual for English children to have dedicated paediatricians, unless they have health or other issues.

We have other commitments on Thursday Friday and Saturday,

short of these “other commitments” being a heart transplant, I’d screw them

Exactly

this is all so weird. In the time the op has dedicated to the thread she could has sorted

Am I missing something here? If the MOT is early, surely you just take your c ar back and the garage owner, who screwed up promises he will prioritise it before it runs out.

The other things are related to DH family and were the whole of their family Christmas, as on parent from each family has to work on Christmas Day. They are all Emergency Services.

if I was this family… I’d be imploring you to see your daughter and not to worry about cancelling plans with me.

absolutely alien to me that you do that rather than see you daughter and her new baby.

Why in earth would your prioritise anything over seeing your DD and grandchild?!

absolutely bizarre

Really helpful 👏👏👏

Very new babies have immunity from their mothers. I don't think this is such very recent knowledge? It was certainly well known in my mum's generation. It's rare to find people who don't know of it today.

Did you know that you can read all the OP's posts?
There's been an update.

She has, you muppet!

not initially!!

And fact that was going to prioritise a get together with dh family over this…. Unfathomable

Not sure who is more annoying. The menz trolls or the 'here's my 2 cents' without reading even the OP's own posts. It's a toughie... 🧐
CONGRATULATIONS OP! 💐

Yes, you're missing the update.

But presumably on her DH's side there are grandchildren who are old enough to be disappointed that granny and granddad aren't there? It's not a daft consideration IMO. She's presumably spent the last month or so wondering if she's going to get a call saying the baby's been born; I think my mum would be the same.

My heart was in my mouth reading your posts. I am so pleased you are able to go. As the mother of two distant grandsons (one is DD's one is DS's) my heart goes out to you. My daughter's baby was three weeks old before we got to see him and it was a wonderful time. Enjoy every moment with the family.