Adult children at Christmas

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How much do you all spend on your adult kids at Christmas? My two are 25 and 27, I’m on my own and honestly they earn more money than me, I’ve got them a £20 gift card each and some chocolates, but it just doesn’t seem a lot, feel I need to get them something else.

You could buy a gift card, that is easier than you thinking about what to buy, depending on where they shop most, etc. about £50 pounds each should be good, depending on your budget of course. I have bought this gift card for my friends since they are into sustainability and organic shea butter products https://www.avielaskincare.com/products/aviela-skincare-gift-card.

We do stockings. Small things that we have spotted over the year that we think they will like, supplemented by nuts, chocolate coins and satsumas. If they are staying Santa delivers them in the middle of the night. We won’t spend much but, as they say, it’s the thought. It is nice to see them open gifts, especially if we got it right and found things they like. Buying something more expensive when they are earning seems silly. That said if one of them really needed something they couldn’t afford, it would be different.

My mam still buys me lots. Maybe 10 presents, £150 ish. Usually a main pressie, and then a few wrap ups, socks, chocolate orange, pen, mascara etc. If it was up to me, I would prefer 10 x £1 presents than 1 x £10 present. My ILs do it the other way where you get 1 present.
My eldest is 16 this xmas and I doubt ill ever stop buying her a ridiculous amount of gifts, unless my circumstances changed and i xouldnt afford it.

I spend between 150-250 on my adult children, and up to £100 each on my grandchildren. It's usually something they've asked for, or I give them the money to put towards something special. This year my daughter in law didn't make a list, and I have had a lovely few weeks thinking of personal presents that I hope she'll like. But presents can be small and thoughtful, they don't need to be expensive. I'm quite happy with second hand books!

Our youngest is 27 and they start coming home for Christmas from later this week. I still do chocolate advent calendars and santa stockings.

This year it’s a special set of cookbooks, ankle socks, perfume for the DD, other bits and bobs that fit in the Santa sack.

they earn more than us but it’s Christmas and it’s guaranteed to arrive every year. I just like everyone to have something under the tree and start buying earlier in the year as things pop up in the conversation they need or like (such as holey socks in the wash when visiting being inspiring). Lol.

i don’t work to a budget as we are a small family, but it’s not unlimited either as birthdays roll around from January onwards (what was their father and I thinking)..

Only one DD and her fiancé and baby - a £100 gift each and a joint £260 murder mystery hotel break with a commitment to babysit while they are away. 2 toys for baby totalling around £60.

Depressing.

Why?

It’s a difficult one as it really depends on your circumstances and what you can afford.

im completely on my own, my 4 dc don’t have much to do with their fathers and im single. My 3 adult dc earn more than me and one lives with me along with dd3 15

my eldest has 5 dc.

tbh I spend less on the older two and they don’t expect it but I do try and buy them stuff I know that they really like but I spend on the grandchildren and then they get money too.

my younger two get a little bit more as they won’t get presents from anyone else, all their grandparents are dead.

True and isn't it pointless.

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Sensible.

That’s the most important present you can have ever given them ❤️

Make them their favorite dessert!