What was your proposal like ?

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OrangeCatKitten · 05/12/2025 17:07

Mine was very plain ! Like a descion we both made and talked about

dh just proposed to me at home and tbf we’ve had a very good and nice life together

but I didn’t get swept off my feet to Rome or somewhere

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MrsLeonFarrell · 05/12/2025 17:14

Equally low key, just a question asked on an ordinary evening. I wouldn't have it any other way.

ExquisiteDecorating · 05/12/2025 17:16

Yes, just a question asked at home one day, I’d have hated a formal / romantic gesture type proposal.

elQuintoConyo · 05/12/2025 17:16

We spoke about it like adults and chose a date. Then DH "proposed" during sex. Engagement ring we both loved came off eBay, as did my non-weddingy wedding dress.

We're 27 years in and still on cloud 9 (I know, we're revolting!). We're neither quirky-types, nor trailblazers, we just did what felt right to us. We wanted kids, we wouldn't have them out of wedlock (I'm in his country) which is fairly traditional.

I wouldn't like a big proposal, DH wouldn't like the stress of planning one and I really don't see why only the man should. Meh, each to his own, but I don't regret the route we took to get engaged and married.

AmethystDeceiver · 05/12/2025 17:18

I was breastfeeding, he was cooking, and we both stopped doing what we were doing long enough for him to produce a ring 😂 We'd obviously already agreed that we should marry after. I suspect the low key engagements lead to the longest lasting marriages, and the insta ones are rather more short lived

ImThePr0blem · 05/12/2025 17:19

We were laying in bed talking about how we’d like to get married one day and I said “does that make us engaged?”, we both agreed yes. He did buy me a very pretty engagement ring a year or two after.

That was 7ish years ago and we’re still not married. We’ve had 2 kids since then.

elliesmummy19 · 05/12/2025 17:19

“Shall we get married next year then?”

”yeah, ok”

Then we got married 👍

ImThePr0blem · 05/12/2025 17:20

elQuintoConyo · 05/12/2025 17:16

We spoke about it like adults and chose a date. Then DH "proposed" during sex. Engagement ring we both loved came off eBay, as did my non-weddingy wedding dress.

We're 27 years in and still on cloud 9 (I know, we're revolting!). We're neither quirky-types, nor trailblazers, we just did what felt right to us. We wanted kids, we wouldn't have them out of wedlock (I'm in his country) which is fairly traditional.

I wouldn't like a big proposal, DH wouldn't like the stress of planning one and I really don't see why only the man should. Meh, each to his own, but I don't regret the route we took to get engaged and married.

During sex? Did he pause mid thrust or what?

Iwouldratherbemuckingout · 05/12/2025 17:20

We were in the pub, when a conversation led to a decision to get married. 2 days later he got down on one knee in our garden with the beautiful antique ring he’d just bought me. It was very us, very lowkey but packed with emotion for us both. Perfect

Vicliz24 · 05/12/2025 17:22

He gave me an empty ring box as we were in bed on Boxing Day morning and said I was supposed to ask you yesterday. We then took the box ring shopping and carried it home in it . Still together 31 years later.

ImThePr0blem · 05/12/2025 17:22

I’m so glad to see that low key, private proposals are becoming more common. I hate the big show off “insta worthy” events.

NotMyRealAccount · 05/12/2025 17:23

Paradise by the Dashboard Light, but not in a car and he was the one who asked.

Frynye · 05/12/2025 17:23

I had a very lowkey proposal. More of a discussion about the future, then we set the date. My best friend had a very flashy proposal, helicopters and dream locations!!
Both equally happily married many years later. I don’t think it matters how it happens really

MaybeNextYear2026 · 05/12/2025 17:24

At a shepherd’s hut in North Norfolk. He said “Today’s been a perfect day, let’s have a life time of them” and so far we have.

JudgeBread · 05/12/2025 17:24

Very low key.

When we very first started seeing eachother we went on a hike out to a really nice little hillside, carved our names into a little tumble down stone wall, had a picnic, it was lovely. We go back there every year on the anniversary of that first time, because I think it was the day we both realised we really wanted to be together.

He proposed there, just the two of us and some sheep. It was perfect.

FastTurtle · 05/12/2025 17:25

My now DH of 30 years asked what I wanted for Christmas, I said an engagement ring. He came home that evening with a perfect ring (it was a few days before Christmas). We then booked the ceremony and reception during our time off between Christmas and new year for 9 months later.

skippy67 · 05/12/2025 17:25

elliesmummy19 · 05/12/2025 17:19

“Shall we get married next year then?”

”yeah, ok”

Then we got married 👍

Same!

MrsLizzieDarcy · 05/12/2025 17:26

We were on a weekend away in Wales - sitting in front of a log fire in a quaint little B & B after dinner, and he said "well how about it, then, getting married". No ring, he had one made for me as he said I'd be wearing it forever. No instasham moments here

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OrangeCatKitten · 05/12/2025 17:34

I just admit I would have Hated a public Proposal

I did get proposed to once before tho, with a previous boyfriend of on and off 3 years but I was too young and not ready at all and he wasn’t right long term for me
and he got the arse big time when I said no

but tbh that was a better proposal 🙊on holiday,in an amazing location in the sea lifted me up and asked me

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Wellstonethecrows · 05/12/2025 17:37

I was a bit trepidatious even looking at this thread because I'd expected to be thoroughly irritated by ridiculous ott proposals .
But no. It's really lovely to hear these stories of low key, heartfelt but natural proposals.

GumFossil · 05/12/2025 17:37

A complete surprise to me, very romantic and planned by him. On our own, on the other side of the world. Down on one knee, the lot. It was lovely and a very special memory.

blankcanvas3 · 05/12/2025 17:39

lowkey in the house, there were rose petals and candles involved but it wasn’t flashy. we had a nice dinner and then when we were in bed he got the ring out of his bedside table and proposed. i thought he’d just organised a nice romantic evening, was v shocked

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OrangeCatKitten · 05/12/2025 17:45

also when I was in infant school a classmate said to me when we are grown up we are gonna get married and I said ok then !
and for years I thought we were gonna be married when we grew up and we are still friends now

not sure that counts as a proposal tho…

so really dh’s was the worse ! 😂😂😂😂

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lightningatmidnight · 05/12/2025 17:51

Ironically I was indeed swept off to Rome - our favourite special place, and surprised with a ring in a little garden courtyard. It was romantic but not flashy for the sake of being flashy. I didn’t post on Instagram. Just right. 7 years and 2 children later we’re still very much best friends and in love. As long as the proposal means a lot to you, it’s right. It doesn’t need to be expensive and flashy, but it also doesn’t need to be almost non-existent to be meaningful. Each to their own

harriethoyle · 05/12/2025 17:53

Just the two of us on holiday. But the most special thing was that a couple of days before DM died, DH brought my engagement ring to her in secret, showed it to her and asked for her blessing. After saying yes , my next comment was “I wish DM knew” - and he told me the story above. I rapidly went from pretty tears of joy to full on Slimer from Ghostbusters level of snotty tears 🤣. It absolutely confirmed to me that he was all I needed.