What was your proposal like ?

[OrangeCatKitten]

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Ha, underwhelming. I inadvertently invited my mum on the walk he was planning to propose on. Instead he got flustered and just asked me while I was getting my boots on. Glad I didn't set too much store by the proposal itself, because we're very happily married 16 years on.

Walking down a street together pushing our 3 month old daughter in the pram. Low key....registry office wedding ... simple. Been together for 37 years and he's literally my best friend and I couldn't live without him. Who needs bells and whistles? ❤️x

We had met 2 weeks previously. Rainy Sunday sitting in his car.. old car with bench seat. I was laying across his lap and he asked.. happily married now 24 years.

Oh, I’m with you, I’d have been VERY unimpressed if DH had discussed it with my parents without me being involved. As I would if he’d chosen a ring without me. We agreed to get married then told the parents a few weeks later at Christmas because we were seeing both families on consecutive days. Then went out ring shopping.

I didn’t have a proposal, we just decided to get married.

We talked about getting engaged & I booked a trip to Paris for his birthday, then he proposed whilst we watched the sparkly Eiffel Tower and chose the ring together when we came back to London.

Mine was pretty normal except that we’d only been dating for 3 weeks, proposed at end of December 79, married in August 1980, so 45 years.

We've been together for years ( and years ) and decided it would make financial sense.
So we did .

I had just had a wee, walked out the bathroom and he was on 1 knee. We were in Vietnam but still walking out the bathroom 😂

He shouted it out of a car window and I never got a ring. I’m still a bitter about it. My friend had the country house weekend and formal bended knee and big bling engagement ring.

Despite the shit proposal we’ve been happily married nearly 30 years and he’s been an amazing husband and father. He’s been the rock to me that I never wore on my finger.

We were together for 36 years and i just booked the registry office and that was that. No proposal for me. :(

It was a lovely day ! :D

We were away for a weekend in a posh hotel, so there was some ‘romance’ there I suppose. But like you, OP, we had discussed it and that weekend we decided.

We did have a nice champagne brunch to celebrate our decision, but there was no getting down on one knee and all that jazz. If DH had asked me for my hand in marriage I would have burst out laughing.

I didn’t even have an engagement ring because I don’t wear rings and didn’t want DH to spend silly money on jewellery.

We had a tiny registry office wedding too.

But we went all out on a honeymoon!

25 years later and all good 😊

He asked me in the garden of his great grandparents house, We spent 3 days not telling anyone except the jeweller when we went to pick the ring. I recently found the photos we took those few days. There is one taken by the door of the loo in front of the the engaged sign, one of those old brass ones. Then one of us in black tie as we had been to a dinner at DH old college on the way down, we dressed up and danced to old records on the record player and had supper with champagne.

Will have been married 26 years soon.

I wasnt expecting it to happen. We were on holiday in Paphos and it was the end of a beautiful day. We sat on a bench overlooking a hill and a few minutes later he asked..

Although I hadn't seen it coming, in my head I had wondered what I'd say if it ever did happen..I had come to a decision I couldn't marry someone who smoked..A sort of premonition of how my dad would later die.of lung cancer perhaps. I'd given up a little before this. So my reply was a condition. I said yes I want to marry you. But I need you to stop smoking. And he did. And we got married. Seems weird looking back now. Ah well..

He's a wonderful guy. I measure every man I meet, even now subconsciously, against my dad ( rightly or wrongly), and I rarely think I meet men who come close. My husband does.

We were talking and he said he'd love for me to have his last name, so I said 'shall we get married then?' and he said yes, let's. He did take me away for our engagement and did the whole down on one knee with the ring thing in our room before a special dinner (I would have hated it in public) but it was already agreed. I'm the least romantic person you could wish to meet so the initial conversation was fine by me tbh, poor DH has now learnt not to bother with romance

We both just sighed when we heard the government were changing the IHT rules regarding pensions and said I suppose we’re going to have to get married now. We then moaned to each other that we couldn’t just do it online and that we had to go in person to sort it out.

We’d been together nearly 20 years and needed to do it to protect DS’s inheritance.

We’ve not don’t it yet as the new rules don’t come in until April 2027.

If you happen to be out and about on 31.03.27 and see someone desperately trying to grab a couple of passers by to come and be witnesses that’ll be us!

We had a rare night off together and were watching standard boring tv while looking to plan the following year as getting leave was really problematic for me. To this day we can’t remember which one of us said it, but it was along the lines of ‘do you think we’d be getting married as that will definitely require some time off’. It then moved to ‘yeah, that would be a good idea, let’s schedule that in, when would be a good time’ (thinking of easiest/likely time to be approved), and then we moved onto the next topic😁. Been married for decades.

Didn’t bother with an engagement as such as I couldn’t wear a ring most of the time and we didn’t want a party, so it seemed pointless. When my leave was approved and we locked in celebrant, venue, we sent a save the date out to people we wanted to invite so guess that’s when we became ‘engaged’ as we got a few engagement presents from people when they received it.

we have a mug that’s like a chalkboard. He woke me up with a cup of coffee as we were going down to London for the day. Gave me the cup, on which he’d written “will you marry me?” and got down on one knee next to the bed with a ring. Perfect!

Haha I posted upthread and your story is almost identical to mine .
We have however done the deed .

I kind of had an inking as my husband would haven't been able to find an engagement ring without me choosing it. That's not to say he is at all useless - far from it - but I didn't want a classic engagement ring in the same sort of solitaire style that most women tend to choose so I sort of had to choose it and then hint!
He knew better than to ask my father's permission (feminist) so no leaking it via mum or dad! 😀

No kids. Do I say yes to a tell no-one registry office event?

My brother proposed to my sister in law right after they’d had a flaming row , as he was planning to do it that night anyway ! Luckily she still said yes 😊

What an earth are his reasons for wanting a tell no one registry office wedding ?

do you really love him ?

bit sure could go through with that
I’d wanna tell him to go to hell
but I know it’s not always that easy

On a walk he helped me climb down some rocks and whispered into my ear at that point. I barely heard