What was your proposal like ?

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Christmas day at his mum's house with his family! Everyone was in on the surprise and had been helping him out with various bits and keeping me occupied, I had no idea! Everyone outside for family photos and he had set up a little area on the front lawn...candles, runner on the grass and a little sign will you marry me! No idea it was for me...haha!
My DH is romantic like that, always doing sweet little things.

I'm still waiting 33 yrs on.

Would you propose to him ? And if he asked you after 33 years would you say yes ?

Christmas Eve, in front of a roaring open fire. We had a lovely meal in a beautiful lakeside restaurant, then he got down on one knee - 20 years ago this year ♥️

On a jetty in the sea in the Caribbean. The only person around was the gardener, so we told him 😂. Blissfully happy for over 30 years until he died 😢

Yes, I'd say yes! I've always wanted it but DP hasn't. When redoing our wills the lawyer said we should ...financially.... so DP suggested it but then went deep down incommunicado whilst I was happily organising a small 16 folk gathering but then realised DP did not really want it so after an argument I pulled out. Several months of difficult times. We are still together and love each other but I am still hurt (and furious) with DP who has now said we can do "it" but only if we do so without telling anyone.
I dont want to get hitched by force.

DH had obviously decided that he was going to propose on Christmas Day. So he did, despite the fact our two very small children had chickenpox and I was very poorly with tonsillitis and we'd all only just got over winter vomiting. I croaked "yes" and him and then said it was my turn for a nap and went back to bed.

First was out of character & elaborately romantic/cliche & the 2nd didn’t make any sense - from my now dh, he wrote in my birthday card ‘will you share your birthdays with me?’ I was like ‘no, piss off you’ve got your own birthday, this is mine 🤨, then he explained that I was supposed to infer from that that he was asking me to spend the remainder of our days together in wedded bliss. The marriage has been good to date though, even if the proposal was confusing 😁

He sat on the bed, said I’ve got something for you. I wanted a new badminton racket he produced a ring ……

We were window shopping one day looking at rings and I saw one I liked the style of and said something along the lines of “that one is lovely, but I’ve always wanted a sapphire” He went back and got it made with a sapphire.
Then we went out one day to the village where my mum grew up (she died when I was 8) and we went to the church where my mum and dad got married and he proposed to me there. ❤️

i loved it and would have been mortified with a public proposal or even with a photographer taking along like they do these days.

1st husband-I don’t recall an actual proposal. We were young and planning the future.
2nd husband got on one knee in our hallway under mistletoe last Christmas. I then didn’t put the ring on for 24 hours in case eldest’s boyfriend had similar intentions which deserved more fanfare. Still hoping it’ll be their turn this year.

Mine didn't have an ounce of romance. We'd gone to a friend's wedding. He said "you'd look nice in a dress like that". That was him saying he wanted to get married. The plan was to officially get engaged on my birthday. On the day he had to be at work early. When he got home he said "put your ring on then". These were all signs that I ignored for what turned out to be a not great marriage.

Did I mention that I paid for the engagement ring on my credit card? He was going to transfer me the money. He never did.

After nine years, under a palm tree in Mauritius. We married 12 months later. I still have a piece of the tree 25 years on!

@Mindgardner I’m really sorry - that’s a shabby way for him to behave. You are deservedly hurt. I would be

I was taking him to the hospital when he blurted out « I’ll marry you
He was delirious.
I looked at him in the rear mirror (he was collapsed/passed out on the back seat) and was like 🤨 interesting development

Then when he was better we discussed it and got married at the registry office.

It really is! Mine from ExH really wasn't what I'd wanted, as I didn't want an official proposal at all. For months I tried to have a conversation about our future - I wanted to decide together and plan together and to be an equal partner in the decision. That was romantic and exciting to me! He brushed me off repeatedly and said he didn't want to talk about it, to the extent that I was close to ending the relationship. Cue an out of the blue proposal. It was all very sweetly done, but I hated it being a surprise and the lack of discussion. When I phoned my dad to tell him, it turned out he already knew and had done for weeks. I have a tricky relationship with my dad (which ExH knew all about) and it made me feel so crap that this big life-changing decision had been made by two men without my input.

Anyway, we were married for ten years and the lack of openness or emotional honesty became a recurring theme. 🤦🏼‍♀️ So basically, the best proposal is the one that both people want!

Name changed as this will sound very familiar to anyone that knows me. 31/12/1999. Had been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Went to a party and drank lots of fizzy wine. Thought to myself "this would be a great day to get engaged." Moved on to party number 2 with my parents, their friends, met my future SILs parents for the first time. Drank more fizzy wine. Proposed to husband, told everyone, forgot I'd done it, proposed again, threw up in a pint glass. Had to be put to bed. 25th anniversary next year.

Mines embarrassing. So I asked him during a time in hospital when I was in intensive care and thought I wouldn’t make it. He asked what he could do as I was crying and I said I wanted him to marry me 😓. He said he would bless him but that he wanted to ask me . That was in August and so far he’s not asked me since but I know he will when the time is right. If anything that moment made me realise he’s my person and I never want to let him go.

DP proposed to me at an iconic place at sunrise when we were on holiday in September. We were on our own although potentially other people may have heard because it was very quiet. He knew I had very clear ideas about an engagement ring so he got down on one knee with a presentation ring box that lit up when you opened it to show a lucky bag ring with a stone the size of a 2p piece.

The ring was so ridiculously over the top that I laughed uncontrollably for the next minute before remembering that I was supposed to say yes and then I started crying with happiness.

We’ve not told anyone, but we collected the proper ring this week and we’ll announce it at Christmas. It will be a tiny wedding - we’ve decided where but not when, and we won’t announce that either.

We had a conversation about whether we wanted to get married and decided we did.

Ooh I loved mine. It’s outing but sod it.

So we’d bought our first flat and completed on a Wednesday, we were living with my parents and the flat was vacant possession so we went up on Saturday to collect the keys. He was being so bloody mono syllabic the whole journey to the estate agent and I was worried he was getting cold feet about having bought the flat (it was a Reno, there was lots to do and it’d been my dream). When we were at the estate agent he even went outside to ‘look at what they have in the window’ which made me even edgier. We went from the EA to the flat and I got upset on the bus ride over, telling him this was meant to be a big day and I didn’t get why he was being so funny. We got into the flat and it was a disaster zone - the place had damp and having not been inhabited for a few months it now had mould growing on the carpets. We walked in, went ‘oh shit’ and as I was surveying the damage he went ‘this is why I was being so weird’ and next I know he’s down on one knee (in shorts!) on the mouldy carpet. I immediately start sobbing (happily!) and 10 mins later, our damp proofer turned up to give a quote and looked most perplexed by the fact I was tear stained 😂

There may have subsequently been an intimate moment in the disgusting flat (without the damp proofer naturally) but will skip those details…

We then went back to my parents’, who had known all along and we went out to my local Italian restaurant where I’d celebrated my GCSE and A-level results and my 18th and 21st birthdays, before wheeling my dad in his wheelchair to the pub, where we all got a bit tipsy.

That was 9 years, 2 property sales, 4 cats and 2 kids ago. I still adore him.

Oh, he’d gone outside to ‘look at the window’ because he was paranoid he’d misplaced the ring in his rucksack 😂

I got proposed to after a fancy dress party, my now ex was dressed as banana man and after a massive argument (of many) as I was sat on the toilet and he pushed open the door he was down on one knee in an attempt to save the relationship... needless to say that relationship didn't last much longer! Funny story though!

He took me out to a, romantic restaurant and produced the ring and, asked me to marry him during the meal. I understood then why he had been so edgy all evening! I was on Cloud None and will never forget it. We'd only been together 6 months and were married 18 months later. We've been married 26 years with a lovely grown up dc who came along a few years later.

Do you have kids together ? Wow this is crazy, mind you I can get you don’t wanna force someone to marry you