Infinitesimal Passive Aggressive acts...

[FridayNightFever]

I have a few little tiny things that give me a little bit of glee in a slightly passive aggressive way...

For eg... We have some nice cutlery and some not quite so nice. When giving it out at dinner time, I will give the slightly less nice stuff to the person in my family who has annoyed me the most. I'm almost certain nobody has a clue (the differences between nice/not nice are tiny) but I get quiet satisfaction from doing this.

When sending an email to colleagues, I'll add them in the 'To' box in the order of current favourite to least. Again, I'm certain they won't notice but it gives me a little bit of pass agg joy.

Does anyone else do things like this?

Throw that fork in the bin. Why have it? It takes mental effort and shows just how spiteful you can be.

I would have said I don’t do this. I’m not really a PA person.

And then I remembered that if DH has spread his towel over the whole towel rail, covering my towel (I’ve asked him not to many times), I will dry my face on his towel and I’m not too careful about whether I’ve washed all my mascara off first. Heh. That’ll learn him.

Still, I’m not sure this is a PA micro aggression. More natural consequences.

"just how spiteful"

Overeaction, much?!

🤣😂😝 spiteful? for giving someone a specific fork?

LMAO

I use one system to run the fix. Once the fix is done, I upload it to the case management system (timestamp one). It then creates an email and sends it out to the mean girls' inbox (timestamp two).

I can run the fix first thing in the morning - but they don't know that (there are no timestamps or audit trails in that sandbox, and it's totally separate from the case management system), as far as they can see, it was fixed and on the system at 1626 and emailed it to them at 1632.

The reality is, I fixed it at 0930 and then sat on it. (I should mention they are the only ppl affected, their turnaround times are generally within 24 hours)

I know that if it comes in after 1640, it's too close to clocking off time and they just let it roll over to the next day, because they can't be arsed - but on or around 1630 means that they get inside the 24 hours so they are motivated to get it out the door, so I have to time it just right.

It is a small, petty thing, but seeing them stop standing up, chatting and packing up their Stanley cups, fancy bags/ phones at 1635 to sit back down and power the case out the door gives me a warm, happy feeling, and it's a small victory on behalf of the people they are routinely rude, dismissive and downright nasty to.

I've got lots of slightly shit cutlery, thank you. No effort. And no spite. Just lovely, secret joy.

Thank you.

And from what you have said, I think your response is completely reasonable 😊

I just want everyone to know that I served my mother in law tea in the worst cup today, for having the audacity lecturing me about carbs. It felt glorious. Thank you OP!

There’s a senior woman at work who drives me crazy with her expensive time wasting tangential ideas- see if we can get the mayor to come to our Christmas party/are we allowed fireworks on our site- can you check the land registry entry sort of bullshit. We sell high end ceramics into restaurants but through third parties, no one is interested in coming to our site!

I used to work directly for her but now it’s more of a dotted line so I always nod and write notes very diligently but the notes always say ‘what the fuck more of this shit’ or ‘how are you still in a job’. If it’s an in person meeting I’m bilingual so I write it in my first language.

‘Shows just how spiteful you can be’ 😅 you’ve made it sound like she’s boiled a pet! If this is the limit of the poster’s spite they sound lovely!

If I have no respect for someone I don't care about spelling their name right, capitals, spelling errors or typos when I email or teams message them. If I respect them, there are no errors.

I was thinking I don’t do this but then I remembered that on the rare occasion that I get in from work first I will put something on tv to watch that I might like watching, knowing full well dh won’t be interested. I only do this as dh usually has something on that I’m not interested in. As he gets in first he is usually half way through a programme so I can’t change it.

My email signature is "Regards, full name". If you're in the good books, before my email signature I'll end the email "thanks K" or just "K"

This has made me so happy!!

... would reporting some of the joysucking posts count as passive aggressive? 😀

I'm gonna start by saying I'm a really nice person and treat everyone really well. Apart from my ex who I have the misfortune of living with (long story, that's a whole other thread!!)

I always stick my fingers up at him when I go up to bed. He can't see me and if I forget I get slightly annoyed with myself.

I do his washing (that can go on the other thread too!) but never fold any of it. If he's really annoyed me then I'll deliberately scrunch it up.

When I hang it on the line I never straighten his out, or turn the sleeves or legs out the right way. If they don't dry properly that's a bonus.

When I put the washing away I just chuck his all in the corner of the room. I'll throw his socks in different sections of the pile of clothes so it's harder for him to find.

If I'm using the tumble dryer I'll put anything of his that says don't tumble dry straight in there.

On more than one occasion I've picked my nose and wiped a bogey on his sheets if I didn't have a tissue to hand.

I know it's all very petty (I know the bogeys are disgusting but so is he) but it gives me enormous satisfaction.

My email signature for the last 25 years has always been Regards. I regard Kind Regards as really PA. Kind or Warm has no place in the workplace. When did that convention change?! No need for any other ending.

I share a drive with two other houses, we are at the road end. The far end are lovely, middle house she is totally batshit.
The drive isn't angled properly so it accumulates moss and algae, so I booked my gardener to pressure wash from our house property line to the road. They asked where to start, and I said from the edge of our front lawn - which aligns with a parking bay on the other side of the drive that on our deeds is ours, but batshit neighbour is a total pain about and says both bays are hers.
So they started pressure washing, and a while later I looked out and noticed they hadn't gone to the corner of the bay, but split it in half so one half is bright green, half is lovely and clean.
I am unreasonably pleased by this each time I look out, as are the nice neighbours.

an elderly neighbour whoes h. had led her a dogs life admitted to me with a perfectly straight face that she had tipped her dead h. ashes into the cesspit. I smile at the thoughts she must have when she flushes, Karma................................dish out shit..........................................

In supermarkets, I don't put a divider between my shopping and the person behind me. If using a self-service till I always make deliberate mistakes.
I put full stops in all of my emails and text messages, and never use text-speak.

Surely, you need to do this the other way round. Tea is best made when water is slightly cooled after boiling. (Disclaimer, this very much depends on the tea you are making).

Why would you make deliberate mistakes on a self service till? Surely that would mean your having to wait for the error to be fixed by an assistant ?

Yeah I dont get this either - that would cause me a huge inconvenience doing this so how would this make me feel better? 🤣

DH insists on buying novelty Christmas crockery that he reminds me every fucking time he gets it out that it can’t be put in the dishwasher. So as the person that does all the fucking dishes, I don’t put it in the dishwasher but nor do I handwash them. I just leave them in a pile untouched ready for him to wash them.

That one is unarguably 100% justified!