What’s a very fast way to tell if someone is a good person or not ?

[AceKitten]

If you need to decide quite fast

You could be right. Surely a human being interested in the topic would reply to questions and join the discussion.

How they speak to other people can sometimes be quite revealing.

If their words match their actions - that is the fastest test of authenticity.

Eg someone says they treat everyone with respect regardless of their social status, but then talks down and is rude to the waiter

A good test for a narc is this: make an arrangement with them, then cancel it and ask to reschedule, someone who isnt a narc will usually be cool with this but narcs get super angry (due to lack of being able to control you)

(obv not talking about people who constantly cancel/flake here - I mean as a one off)

Most of the posts are suggesting things that would only help you tell if someone had superficially good manners or were a people pleaser.

I guess if a man has female friends they are less likely to be a misogynistic arse.

That’s insane!! Give it a few more years and I’m sure you’ll see him on crime watch!

Ghosts are the worst kind of people. Red flag central.

See how they react when things don't go their way.