What’s a very fast way to tell if someone is a good person or not ?

[AceKitten]

If you need to decide quite fast

Do they make use of techniques like excessive flattery and mirroring? If so they are hiding their true opinions and thoughts. They might not be a bad person under the facade but they could be.

I would also be wary of lying and as others have said being unkind or rude to people that aren't important such as waiting staff.

If I wanted a quick idea about if I want someone in my life I would have conversations with them about how they view vulnerable groups. That still wouldn't prove they are a good person though. People lie. People also believe they are a good person and say all the right things but can't match their actions to what they know is right. People can be misinformed, especially young people, but still be good people.
Good is also subjective, is someone who is very polite, friendly and follows social norms but never goes above and beyond for someone better than someone who is loud and perceived as rude but a strong advocate for others or someone who is socially anxious but is caring and compassionate towards those they get close to and quietly helps in the background with charity etc? Is someone who works hard and contributes to society financially but treats others with disrespect more good than someone who fraudulently claims benefits but treats everyone they meet with kindness and respect?

But you’re her friend! You clearly spend time with her and have known her for many years. Why would you assume everyone else doesn’t enjoy her company as you clearly do?

Just watch things like traitors and you see that 99% of the time when people go with their gut feelings about people they are wrong.

The worst people are often the ones that think they are good people and want to be seen as good. Sometimes the best people are the ones that seem like arseholes, they are honest about their intentions and they do the right thing even if that makes them unlikeable.

Define "good".

Moral? Reliable? Truthful? Caring? Organised? Trustworthy?

One of the nicest people?that doesn’t make them a good person, it’s about intuition, when you meet someone, it’s how they treat others and speak of others.
No, so apparently Hitler, loved his dogs, that’s not a precursor on how he treated all animals, it’s kind of ridiculous, to think one person who was a dictator, loved his dogs, so other people, who care about animal could potentially be a dictator? Extreme to say the least.
Personally, getting back to op’s question, think it’s important to go on your gut feeling and just how the person is around others and yes that does include all living beings.

I do both of these but sadly I am not a good person. I am not convinced it’s possible for anyone to be good. Jesus Himself said only God is good.

She literally fosters traumatised children, I didn't think I had to specify she's also good given that's what the fucking thread is about.

I don't think you're a good person based on how many unnecessary commas you use. That's how arbitrary someone's love or dislike of animals is in determining their overall goodness as a human being.

My point is, either you’re a caring person or you’re not, how can you possibly switch it on and off.
Generally people who care about animals, that’s a good trait, l will always go on, how someone treats everyone.

Nobody is only good or only bad. You can't tell what someone is like long term quickly in minutes, hours or even weeks or months of knowing them. But if you get a positive, warm, open, honest and friendly vibe about them they I'd try and assume the best. But don't trust them with your life or lend them money!

You don’t need to swear.Just like you, l’m giving my opinion, as you said that’s what the thread is about.
You disagree with my comments, so now l’m not a good person, don’t think l said l was, just that, how can someone switch off caring to suit themself.
Why on earth are you getting so offended.

Ime you can't. It takes time to really know someone

Do they return their shopping trolley to the trolley park when leaving a supermarket?

How do they treat waiters at restaurants?

How do they treat animals?

How do they treat children?

… But yes, people can otherwise put on a front for a fairly long time - for as long as it takes for them to get what they want.

This is all a bit moot. What do you mean by good and bad anyway? Everyone has a different standard to what these words mean. Everyone is flawed but most are good.

Think about these people. What about the caring soft spoken woman who minds kids and fosters cats and helps get her neighbours groceries, but dodges tax? The mannerly ambitious man who works hard to provide for his family but never helps out at his kids sports clubs and never lets other drivers pull in? The serious woman who doesn't make eye contact or small talk with serving staff but is fiercely loyal to friends and family and always there in a crisis? The friendly woman who helps pick up litter and supports local charities but buys cheap stuff online knowing they are made in sweat shops, and doesn't give a shit because she save six quid.

Some people are very very astute at quickly judging someone's character. I think it's almost a reading body language/innate thing.

If that is not you, find someone who is ALWAYS right about other people's characters, then get this person to meet the person you want to judge and ask them what they think.

I don't think it's possible to be sure that someone's a good person in a short time.

On the other hand, I think it's sometimes possible to tell that someone's NOT a good person in a short time!

From my own personal life experiences -

Not good people -
People that don’t like animals.
Women called Carol.
Traffic Wardens.

Good people -
People that love animals.

really Time is the main factor but also consider things like - how many long term friends do they have? Do they gossip / bitch behind people’s backs ? Low boundaries too early on, have they fallen out with any people? How do they treat their families?

I also have some personal mini red flags (which I acknowledge are more nuanced and might tell me more about whether we would get on that well and don’t mean they are a ‘bad person’ as such…. These are whether they like Reform, Farage, Boris Johnson / Trump etc my values just don’t align with people who like those, especially those who very much make it known 🙈🙄) …it sounds judgmental but I think some of their supporters have opinions I feel make them bad people!

Your premise is flawed. Pretty much everyone will be a good person in some ways and some aspects of their life; and a bad person in other ways. Even a lot of terrible criminals are fiercely loyal to their families, for instance. Or I have some wonderful friends who are fabulous as peers/friends, but I know would be a nightmare to work for and I’m sure have employees who think they are awful.

Well it's been 3.5 hours and still no sign of the OP

To be fair, that was an easy one.

'What's their mother like? ' always seemed to work well for me - not meeting their mother was a red flag (unless mother deceased of course). Did of course realise this after getting pulled into a relationship with a charming man who changed to nasty quite quickly....his mother was just as bad.

I tell you one thing. Hitler, he only had one ball. The other was in…

The thing you seek does not (and possibly cannot) exist, OP.

Exactly this. Though as others have pointed out, no one is all good. I think there would be a general consensus that you don't want to get involved with a violent psychopath or prolific fraudster. But beyond that, people will have different views on what amounts to "good", and the kind of good qualities you're looking for will likely depend on your relationship to the person.