What’s a very fast way to tell if someone is a good person or not ?

[AceKitten]

If you need to decide quite fast

Posts like this make me glad that I'm an atheist!

Personally, I think most people are "good" overall, but everyone has flaws. And there are some people whose flaws somehow end up taking over.

There is actually evidence thats been found that Hitler did indeed only have one ball!
Goering had two, but very small
Himmler was very sim'lar
And Goebbels had no balls at all.

HTH

Oh I’m not surprised at all. I just had to sing it

Explain !

Do they put supermarket trolleys back in a bay, or just leave them where-ever?

I tend to get a vibe.
I once met a man and instantly despised him - I had no idea why but it was instant dislike. I’d had a couple of drinks and opened my mouth to say hi but instead said “I don’t like you.”
I was absolutely mortified. I never spoke to him again but a year later found out from mutual friends that he’d stolen money from his work, had been abusive to his partner, posted revenge porn of her online etc
My gut instinct was absolutely correct about him.

OP, I may be wide of the mark in my speculation here, but if someone you've known for less than 18 months is putting pressure on you to lend them money, along with a convincing story about how they will be able to pay you back soon, please don't fall for it! Professional "romance scammers" will literally devote months to developing a "relationship" before making a request for money. They know that if they ask for money too soon they'll get nothing, so they invest months in the "relationship" before making a request in the hope that the rewards will be worth it.

It's weird, isn't it? I had an absolute aversion to someone the first time I met him. Then DC started going out with him. He proved to be a real sponger, selfish, unreliable and they split up, which broke DC's heart as he was so indifferent about it. But there was also something deeply creepy about him. I looked him up recently, and even on his workplace profile, that sentence at the end which is supposed to show who you are outside of work (you know: 'In my spare time I love rock climbing' sort of thing) was supposed to be a 'joke' but was about hurting animals.

How they treat people in service positions especially if they dont know they're being watched.

Make a racist/homophobic/sexist comment in front on them, or tell them about your involvement in illicit activities and see how they react.

The downside will be that they will think you’re a bad person… but at least you’ll have a read on them.

Isn’t that the thing that tells you whether they’re a ghost? 😁

There’s a difference between being a good/bad person and being someone you like or dislike. I know plenty of people who aren’t “bad”, I just don’t like them. Also know people who are probably pretty awful but I get along fine with them.

I am wondering why this has to be a quick decision I always think it can take time to suss people out. How they behave with other people should be a good indication. Maybe take time and suss them out. I am good at gut instincts as well as a few on here but sometimes I can still be pleasantly surprised.

I always tist my gut instinct. You process so much info about a person from the first few seconds. It’s never let me down.

You tell us, OP, or do you just want to see what we make of your meaningless question?

Say no to them. Their reaction will tell you a lot.

Shit in their hallway. Their reaction will tell you everything that you need to know.

Could be AI trying to hoover up replies to make it sound more psychologically astute...

Ask them what they would do with the money if they won the lottery.

Nice people will treat their families, pay off mortgages, pay for healthcare, and also extend their kindness beyond their immediate circle to the wider community.

Dickheads would spend it all on themselves and will only ever talk about satisfying their own needs.

I agree. Plus people who don’t meet your eye. I find that shifty

I don't know about this. Sometimes it is true and sometimes it isn't. I have seen a lot of people take instant dislike to me. I'm actually very kind and loyal. I've lost count of the times people have come up to me and said, "I thought you'd be no fun/thought you were a snob/a cow etc but you are lovely." I got so used to it, I stopped taking offence and started thinking, 'Oh they will work it out eventually.' But I have no idea why I give such a bad first impression to some people.

how they treat low paid workers ie coffee shop and how they treat animals
also if they smoke and vape they don’t care about their own health so why would they care about yours?
they can’t be a good person but see animals as sport, it’s one or the other
makes it very easy to keep my friend commitments low “bubbles at the races with this one” ? goodbye 👋🏽

No substitute for time knowing someone. But I think some clues are:

• their relationship with their family
• what their friends are like. The company they keep.
• how they talk about others
• how they treat people like waiters/other staff

Agreed. DH is not an animal lover, but he carefully crushes tin cans before putting them in the recycling to make sure that animals can't get their heads stuck in them / relocates insects to outside the house rather than squashing them / caught and held on to the neighbours large barky dog (despite being scared of dogs himself) when it got spooked and ran back from the park on its own - fairly basic stuff that he didn't have to do, but did it because he is a decent human being.

unfortunately, my ex h was wonderful to staff of Amy kind, and he was an excellent and considerate driver.

Oh what that covered up, I eventually discovered.

what I would consider doing is checking out any registers that might have him/her named on.

Good luck, especially if you’re the kind to “give anyone the benefit of the doubt”