Kids " sick" days

[RubySquid]

I read on so many threads about sharing of parenting and who has to look after kids on " sick" days as though it's a regular thing.

But in reality how much time do kids actually have off sick to make it a big deal to worry about. For example DS had 2 days off nursery with conjunctivitis, a couple of weeks off school with chickenpox in ks1 and 2 days with a sickness bug at about 8. He's visited the GP 3 times in his life and hands now graduated from uni

Similar stories with DDs, id say apart from the pox less than a week off for other sickness during school time

Yet the way people go on about covering sick days it seems that it's scents happening every couple of weeks. So we're my kids unusual in not getting constantly ill

Dd1 breastfed for 2 Week, DD2 for 10 months ,and DS for for 5 months. Tbh can't see it's made any difference. One dgc bf for nearly 2 years the other not at all. No difference in health

Probably should have just accused everyone of lying when you had the chance, this is even more batshit 🤣🤣🤣🤣

How low can you go is a phrase not a challenge you know?

I honestly don’t think it makes much difference once they’re no longer breastfeeding? DC was breastfed for over 3.5 years, she gets ill just as much as anyone else. It’s nothing you’ve done.

Maybe you shouldn’t have bred with someone incapable of such things then?

Well you really shouldn't send them in if they are actually unwell OP, you must realise this? I think you've just been very lucky and don't seem to realise this when comparing yourself to other families

Well seeing as he was a soldier and serving abroad a good deal of the time that's why he wasn't around. Unless if course your own DH is brave enough) fit enough) honourable enough to serve his country through wars then I'd shut up about it if I was you

Hence why I was asking. As I've pointed out numerous times it's not just my kids Other people also said there's aren't constantly ill Neither of my daughters kids kids ( 5 in total) keep coming down with stuff either so I'm obviously not the only one.

And who said anything about sending them if if unwell. ?? A sniffle off they go, if they were bedridden with flu then obviously not

My youngest was sent home from nursery or off ill every couple of weeks in the first 6 months. It wasn't all illness, he had acid reflux but as soon as he was sick he would be sent home. He also picked up a lot of bugs, he was a covid baby so I would guess that had something to do with it, my eldest was also sick a lot more than usual in that first year after lock downs. My eldest got sent home from nursery a couple of times because of the policy on loose stools, he wasn't actually sick, it was due to teething. Youngest started school in September and has already been off twice, once with a sickness bug and once with a viral infection.

Well you're definitely suggesting something aren't you.. with the speech marks. "Lucky" suggests you don't really think it's luck at all therefore something else resulting in the rude good health of your children and their children. You don't know the circumstances of everyone else and shouldn't assume. Maybe you sent yours into school regardless and they spread their germs to others. Maybe we should assume that?

Honestly.. it's so tone deaf of you. Children can have all kinds of (largely invisible) underlying issues making wellbeing more precarious and immune systems less robust. It's not your business to speculate. Can't you just be quietly superior about it if you really must be superior? (And it seems you must)

So, you made a choice to be with a soldier and then tried to play the “ohhh poor me when would I possibly have time to be ill with kids and bills to pay and bla bla bla” card.You chose that life.

But think about how superior those Action Man genetics must have been! How could she possibly have turned down such elite breeding stock?!

Lol. You are desperately trying to find a way to slag me off. I never said " oh poor me" I was stating I didn't have time to be ill. I also did things by myself when we weren't together. So the fact he was a soldier is irrelevant.

Hahaha I was a teenager when I met him. Didn't think about such stuff tgen. If I'd be having kids at the 40 plus mumsnet ages I probably would've done

Sep/Oct seems to be the worst for us, with the back to school lurgy. This year both DC had two days off, but DH and I both felt so ill too. We run a business, didn't take time off but would go into work and take it in turns to sleep there during the day. Last year I had a week off work with whatever the kids had, but they only had two or three days off. I figure it they felt as bad as I did, and I couldn't work through it, I don't see how they could do any productive work either (and make everyone else ill)

My eldest was sick all the time in primary school- asthma, chest infections, ear infections, pox, hand foot n mouth, whooping cough FOREVER.

my youngest I think has mainly only really been off for tonsillitis 3/4 times.

Why are you asking? Surely you associate with other parents and have seen how kids differ?

My eldest, the always sick one, was breastfed for 9m. Youngest, more robust, 3 months mixed fed.

Mine is 2 and the first year of nursery was absolutely brutal. I think she probably had something like 17 days off nursery (would have been more if she was full time) in the first year. Her temp always goes really high and she bought home 3 D&V bugs from nursery - all 4 of us got one of them and were off work for a whole week ill, as it just didn’t stop.

My older child is 9 and has very little time off really. She definitely had nursery bugs, but she started in the summer instead of winter, and maybe that helped a little. I’m really hoping my little one doesn’t have a winter like last year! It’s just me and my husband to do the sick days, and I’m a teacher so it’s very stressful!

Hrft but I find it ironic Nursery that you pay ££££ for, insists slightly sick kids stay home but school which is essentially free, (though I accept its a tax cost), has a fit if they are off for genuine illness.

Respiritory illnesses hit hard from September this autumn. Our staff/ pupil absence rate was poor from the 3rd week of term, and I've never known so many teenagers vomiting in toilets during the school day.

DS1 is on 100% attendance.
DS2 is on 82%. He got hit hard by something Covidy and got sent home feeling faint and grey and lost most of that week. Then followed up with flu a few weeks ago that cost another 4 days. Now he's missed another day... let's just say that the school toilets wouldn't have thanked him going in...

I had a week feeling lousy, but being an adult I managed to plough in to share my lurgy on better medicines than 12yos can take. DS2 gets hit hardest because of his asthma and if that flares, that can trigger further absences, and respiratory illness normally hits his chest hard. Then there's the element of once you've been hit hard at the start of the season, you're more prone to the next round. DS1 had a rough first autumn/ winter of secondary school like this and was then fine from the January.

I'm hoping that high-strength vit D might help. Ironically he's missed the flu vaccination because he was ill 🤦‍♀️

I mean you are totally Fonzie jumping the shark with this comment!

I know a couple of women who take time off to look after sick kids by using up days from their annual leave or unpaid days off.

Agree, mine were both breastfed for over a year.
Oldest got sick regularly (ear infections, tonsillitis, everything else that was going around, to the degree that we got antibiotics to keep at home from the gp to safe us from finding them on a Saturday/Sunday - not something GPs easily do!) from about 4-5 months. youngest - hardly ever. Made no difference

I think you’re doing a great job of annoying everyone here.

you’ve gone for poorly children and perhaps suggesting your better immune system and parenting?

you’ve then gone for husbands - yours is ever so brave.

and then Mumsnet mums who have kids over 40.

putting words such as lucky in quotation marks and then saying things like other kids are constantly off sick are why you are getting the posts you are

like I said at the start OP - it felt then like such a goady post.

Lol. Was deserved. If she was going to accuse me of having a useless bloke then deserves accusations of having a wussy one who prob sits on his bum at a desk