People that vanish and don`t want to be found

[TheCheekySloth]

Just been watching a documentary about people that have vanished basically evaporated.
Some just up and left no warnings no fall outs no coming back.
Others left for other reasons, reasons some of us would think are silly.
But to just wake up walk out never come back.
No calls messages nothing they just evaporated.

This got me thinking does this happen more than we think, i dont know anyone that as done it.
Would you do it?
I dont know if i could as ive cut most out of my life, but to just evaporate is a different level.

I love that book. If he was schizophrenic as some suggest then he wouldn't have lasted nearly 4 months in the wilderness IMO. His parents had a troubled relationship, he had a difficult childhood and he wanted a different life away from the social status, wealth and materialism that was important to them. I don't think they liked the fact that he wasn't interested in any of that.

I think his story is really interesting. I don't think it has been particularly romanticised - he died from starvation after all, I think people probably just appreciate his attempts to reject everything superficial and live a different life, his dream life. He completely over estimated his abilities certainly, but I don't think he was a selfish prick. He kept in touch with his sister through letters but wanted nothing to do with his parents. I don't think that is completely unreasonable considering.

John Marrs has written a brilliant thriller about a husband who disappears. It's fiction but a great book. It's called When You Disappeared.

Love John Marrs - that was a great read

I think of kids who disappear.
Like William Tyrell and Gus Lamont.
They are there one minute and then gone.

Most likely foul play.

My dad did when he retired, we tried to trace him but couldn't because of privacy as he was an adult. He had to be tracked down by heir hunters when DM died as the house had to be sold, he would receive half the money but couldn't proceed without his signature. He was found and I did see him occasionally afterwards but he was like a stranger.

How do you know she ran off ? She could have been abducted or killed.

Yes she may have but for some reason there was hardly any suspicion of that.

Apparently the eldest found a note to say she had run off but there was a rumour he only said that so the youngest ones wouldn’t worry.

It was a couple years at least before anyone knew that she’d gone as the boys didn’t tell anyone and the biggest story was that these boys had been living on their own - I don’t know why more wasn’t made of her potentially dying/being in trouble.

I will have to ask my mum about it as it has always just been a given that she ran away but no one knows where and no one has any contact with her, even her kids.

Did he ever say why he did it?

I can understand their motivation. But no matter where you go in the UK someone will know someone from your home town or city and that person will know someone who knows you. It would take a name change and backstory to disappear and blend in to the background .

Apparently this happens regularly in disasters. People just seize their chance and go - I remember my gran telling me that many people did it during the Blitz in London.

This is so very sad - his poor family. I hope that his sister has made a good life for herself.

I’m listening to the podcasts recommended and they are really interesting.

the Dr who disappeared on/before 9/11 and the Japanese company who help people disappear. Fascinating stuff.

Could you link to those please?

I went to private school and one of my friends just stopped coming to school, mid week. No explanation and the teachers were completely in the dark. The (very large, fancy) family house just abandoned. Months later, it turned out the family had upped sticks and moved to Florida, over night. Apparently, my friend's Dad had defrauded a lot of his wealthy neighbours for a lot of money and decided to skip the country before the police came calling.

I can’t link as I’m on a very glitchy iPad! One is called Missing on 9/11. The other is called evaporated - gone with the gods. Enjoy!

This has reminded me of my very first foray into the world of Internet chat rooms, when I joined a wedding site whilst planning our wedding. A new bride was distraught because her new husband had gone AWOL. Her posts were heartbreaking and went on for months. I think her DH did return very briefly for one weekend but wouldn't discuss where he'd been? But he immediately went AWOL again and a couple of years later she still hadn't had any further contact.

The posters name was 'DuckyPuddle' I think and she was absolutely lovely. I still sometimes wonder what happened in the end?

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Gosh those poor children. A truly heartbreaking situation.

It's included in Prime Membership at the moment - just downloaded

it was because he had retired. When he was at work it was all ok but he couldn’t cope with my mum and being at home and going round M&S and stuff like that as he put it. He just walked out with practically nothing leaving no contact details

That’s so sad.

Oh @Cucy
Perhaps something awful happened to the mother and no one ever bothered to find out.
She may have been forced to write a note by her killer.
I remember watching the series based on the Yorkshire Ripper and a Mum went out and left her children alone.
She was murdered by that wicked man Peter Sutcliff 🥲

It’s weird because before this thread I’ve never thought about it.

We regularly talk about what an awful woman she was to leave her kids like that.

The youngest who is still alive has A LOT of issues - no wonder.
And although he’s never hurt anyone he is always doing stupid stuff and I feel sorry because it’s not his fault and he has no support at all.

All I think about is how can anyone just leave their kids and not constantly worry.

I assumed at the worst she had a mental breakdown and then couldn’t cope with the guilt so never got back in touch.

I wonder if people who disappear have had a win on the lottery/ premium bonds that is enough for them to buy a house outright somewhere many miles away and start afresh with a name change. I remember reading in the press about a man that just upped and went south , he was traced and said he was never coming back . I can only guess he came into the finances that allowed him to do it .