People that vanish and don`t want to be found

[TheCheekySloth]

Just been watching a documentary about people that have vanished basically evaporated.
Some just up and left no warnings no fall outs no coming back.
Others left for other reasons, reasons some of us would think are silly.
But to just wake up walk out never come back.
No calls messages nothing they just evaporated.

This got me thinking does this happen more than we think, i dont know anyone that as done it.
Would you do it?
I dont know if i could as ive cut most out of my life, but to just evaporate is a different level.

Most are young guys but my childhood friends mum also ran off one day (left 3 kids on their own, no dad or other family members.

No one has ever heard of her since.
2 of the kids killed themselves and both times was all over the news and she didn’t make contact.

People that browbeaten don't just wander out of their lives

It's one of the rare situations where you hope something terrible happened to her because there are no excuses for that

It's one of the rare situations where you hope something terrible happened to her because there are no excuses for that

She may not have seen the news - if she was living in a different country, or just didn't happen to see the reports. If it's not on the front pages so you might see it in a shop, and you don't buy a paper, how would you know?

Lori Erica Ruff was another wild one.

My uncle, who lived in London but came back regularly to visit my GM in the north east, just dropped out of contact. My dm and her sister tried to contact him, hired private detectives etc. My GF died and he didn't acknowledge it, then years later GM died without ever finding out why. We were told he was alive, but nothing more. He would be 74 now, and it's been 25 over years.

Very sad for my GPs, I think my mum has made her peace with it. He did suffer with mental health problems so presumably that's contributed.

My best friend of half my life disappeared. Moved house without telling any of her friends, work wouldn’t tell us anything (she was/is a remote worker), partner also gives vague answers to us when we ask. She was/is estranged from family, we all live in a major city and I haven’t bumped into her/ seen her/ heard from her in three years now. We called the police in the end, but they weren’t interested and we couldn’t provide any up to date details like address etc. It’s absolutely heartbreaking to have had no warning and to not have her in our lives any more.

My Mum did it. I was dropped to my grandparents house by a randomer (well she was to them), I was 2 months old and came complete with a bag of basics and a letter explaining who I was. She had already left home - her story at the time was some super duper job in London (we are not in the UK) - and had very little contact with my grandparents so they were completely unaware she was even pregnant.
She only came back into my life recently and my god had she been through the mill and I am super proud of her and all she has achieved since then, she is now a huge part of mine and my childrens lives.
She was wrong to do what she did, and although her reasons came from a good heart they were all in her head and had no justification, but then a lot of17yrs olds don't always think rationally!!!, and she carries a lot of guilt over that.

There was a daytime TV show that was on about 10 to 15 years ago probably called Missing and one story always struck me as sad. A late middle aged lady who was basically a dogsbody for her large family. They didn't lift a finger to help . She went missing and the family, husband included, were distraught.

After quite some time- maybe a year or 2 - she came home, but instead of accepting that things needed to change, the family just carried on as they had before.

I hope she left again and stayed away.

My grandmother did this when she was young, I only found out at her funeral. She disappeared, her family didn't know where she was until years and years later when the salvation army tracked her down. As far as I remember her father was an awful man and one day she decided that she wanted out so she left and made a whole life for herself, married my grandfather, had kids. She never spoke about it at all so even my dad(her son) didn't really know many details.

I am also very much afraid that too many of the people who 'disappear' and are never heard of again have been killed by a member of the family, who knows very well what happened to them but pretends to be distraught and 'searching everywhere'.

I listened to a podcast about this, it was fascinating.

Did she take the boy with her, or leave him with the feckless father?

The two boys were left with the feckless father. That’s why most of the village were convinced something had happened to her but the police searched hills, rivers etc and no body was ever found.

Absolutely this - especially mothers of young children who apparently just ‘walk out’ one day. Like poor Lynette Dawson in Sydney, for example.

years ago, I used to read the Postsecret website every week. One postcard that really stayed with me was one where the writer had survived the 2004 Asian tsunami but had put their wallet/ID into the pocket of a body floating in the water to fake their own death.

I have no idea if it was true but I often wonder if there’s a family out there somewhere thinking their loved one perished on Boxing Day 2004, except they’re not. They’re out there living their life.

A family member of mine did it. Was “missing” for 10 years.

I've read a similar post about 9/11. They said they did survive, but just took that opportunity to cease contact with family and move away.

I am surprised how many posters are saying women/mothers have done this.

I usually hear of young men who have MH issues or have got into trouble somehow.

I think nowadays it would be easier for a woman to disappear but I imagine it would have been very difficult when single women were frowned upon.

I wonder if some of these people who have disappeared are actually under witness protection

My 'father' did it, in 1968. Never saw him again. No idea if he is still alive, he'd be in his 90s from what I gather.

What was it that made you want to do it? Did anyone find you or you make contact again? Sorry if it's painful to be asked about. I hope your new life has been good to you 😊

Can you remember what that podcast was called, I’d love to listen to it.

Yes I'd also be interested in the podcast.