In awe of the lady in my gym class

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She's got everything i want .. botox & lips (very subtle, looks great), nails always professionally done, posh designer gym wear, very regular trips to hair/beauty/spa salons.l, designer brands for other things she mentioned. I feel like a total sack of shit next to her.

She is also very lovely in general.

Exactly. Luckily my female friends aren’t like this, we encourage and love each other. I thought this gendered ‘pretty women who like fashion and make up can’t be educated/nice/clever/funny’ trope was the preserve of a few angry men!

Yeah this. ^

There does seem to be a flurry of threads on here this week though, where the OP is jealous and envious of some woman they know, who is apparently absolutely perfect! So weird. I'm jealous of no-one. No-one has anything that I want, and I don't want to look like anyone else, or be anyone else.

Very odd.

Like other posters, I wouldn't want fillers and botox and all that shit anywhere near me - ever!

I opened this assuming you were going to say she was incredibly strong or fast or resilient

Why on Earth do you think having botox in your face and designer clothes on your body makes you especially valuable?

It's lovely to look nice and polished but not aspirational, at least IMO

I'd rather someone clock me in the gym because I lifted a heavy ass weight tbh

But you do think outward appearances matter. Why would ‘wearing appropriate clothes’ be an issue if you didn’t? There is no reason why this stranger feels she needs to do this to ‘just live in this world’.

Maybe the gym brings her joy? Why doesn’t everyone just wear prison type garb everyday if clothes don’t matter?

Exactly this

Woman has better leggings than a different woman. 🧍🏼‍♀️

Maybe the lady in the gym is a nice person who doesn’t judge others on their appearance. Your post is incredibly shallow and judgemental. Do better.

I saw a post on instagram with pictures of all the Kardashians pre and post plastic surgery and it said ‘Remember, you’re not ugly - you’re just poor.’ 😂 Now, every time I see a woman like the one you’ve described, I think about this.

You think she asked her this? Or you think if a woman takes care of her appearance in the way she likes. she must be illiterate?

these bitter judgemental little posts are so dismaying.

You don’t know if she’s actually happy though!

That’s a whole lot of time and money to spend on your appearance. It’s not really necessary IMO.

I was just about to write almost exactly this so you've saved me the bother! You mentioned the red face and pools of sweat but nothing about grunting. Sometimes I let out a little grunty noise if things get heavy. I love it anyway and I do it for me x

Botox and lips can’t be that subtle or you wouldn’t have noticed.

Absolutely this! 💕

The fact that you can spot she’s had all these procedures done defeats the object of them, surely?

This. Or to not care about debt.

Not everyone is skint or living payday to payday!

I therefore have a LOT more time and disposable income for other things that bring me far more joy and add a lot more to my family.

She may have enough money and to spend time and money on herself and the same with her family. I know I can, so do plenty of my friends.

I was also in awe of a woman in my gym this evening. She did 21 power snatches in a WOD and the bar was just floating up there. It was so impressive to watch.

You'd have loved to have seen me fail my bench press earlier in that case. I wasn't thinking about Botox and fillers when that happened.

Being pretty doesn't always mean being happy. Feeling like she needs Botox, fillers etc perhaps suggests some level of insecurity.
Focus on the things that make you happy instead of what others have or don't have.

It never occurred to me from the title that this would be about her looks. I thought it would be a 3 minute plank. It’s interesting how different people are - I wouldn’t notice any of that, certainly wouldn’t care, though if I had a thought it would who could be arsed with that, and I would never be in awe of someone because they had Botox.

Ahhh, good for her. I can't believe the nasty, jealous comments your post has elicited.

Bench press is my favourite. Were you making gains?

I’m new to cross fit and Olympic lifting - it’s more complicated than it needs to be imo. But this lady made it look like a completely natural movement.

Of course she judges otherwise she wouldn’t think Botox/nails/hair was important would she?

I too clicked on this expecting an inspirational story - like Anne who’s in her 70s and is at my weekly body pump class, or Elise who’s the size of a baby sparrow but lifts heavy.

spending money on your appearance is not an achievement. There’s nothing wrong with it, but why would you be in “awe” of it?

Why do you want to resemble a blow up doll?