Were You Very Young When You Got Together With Your DH/DP?

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I didn’t meet DH until I was in my mid 30s but DD16 (17 in December) has already had several serious conversations about the future with her GF17 ( 18 in June). They’ve talked about careers, when & how to have children, where they’re going to live etc etc. I have friends who met their partners really young & got married in their late teens or early twenties. It’s funny to think that I have been married for 23 years & a friend the same age is heading for her Ruby wedding anniversary next year.

I met my husband when I was 14. When he died we’d been happily married for 35 years.

I was in my late 20s, he was mid 20s. I had already had my kids though, I was a single mum in my early 20s. Went on to have another together.

Youngish...22 together 14 years and feel old now 🤣

Met when we were 28. He died when we'd been together 19 years.
I know two women I went to school with who met their boyfriend when they were 17 and are still happily together in their 50s

I was 23, that was 30 years ago

When I was about 20, had a brief fling, and then revived at 36 (many years ago now) -

However, chances are your daughter and her. Gf will go their separate ways

Met dh at at 19 and been together nearly 30 years .

it can happen.

Got together at 15 years old. Immediately planned our lives together.

Haha - the age you are now is when my partner and I got together, nigh on 20'years ago..

No I was in my 20s but I had these conversations with boyfriends in my teens anyway. It didn’t mean we would be together long term.

I had similar conversations with boyfriends at school and at uni. The relationships didn't last though. Although most of my thoughts on career, children etc stayed true.

Met in 1978 when I was 20 and he was 26. Still happily together. 45th wedding anniversary next year.

I've got a bad back atm so wish I could rewind to my 22 year old self!

Been together since our mid teens, now in our fifties.

We’ve had a wonderfully happy life together, and lots of plans for the future.

Met when I was 16 and he was 14. Started ‘going out’ a year later. Married at 22 / 20.

Now in our 60s.

No, I didn’t meet my husband till I was mid 30s and got married at 40.

I was with my ex from age 15 though, till 29. The break up was extra traumatising in that ‘all I’ve ever known’ kind of way (aside from the just general awfulness of what he did). Within my family there are quite a few who settled down with their first ever partner and without fail it’s ended badly.

It’s not something I’d be encouraging in my daughter. Not to say it can’t work and I’m sure it does for many - but I’ve watched my siblings (who are older and whose kids are full adults) positively encourage these teenage relationships and almost put pressure on them and I absolutely won’t be doing any of that.

I was 21 (as a couple; knew him as a friend from 18 or 19), which seems ridiculously young now - but things were different back in the 1980s!

We were 17/18 respectively when we met. Will have been together 27 years in spring.

I was 19, not looking for a relationship but here we are 19 years later.

It's not something I would encourage for my children but I wouldn't discourage it either.

We didn't get married until our mid 20s, we had been together a few years by that point and lived together for a bit too so it wasn't rushed. I would definitely discourage a commitment like marriage/a mortgage/kids at such a young age though.

A lot of my friends also got together with their husbands at a similar age to what I did or even younger. Some had unplanned kids but even at a young age they stayed together.

I'm sure we definitely had conversations about the future from almost the beginning. Don't remember if I had them with the boyfriends I had previously, I doubt it, I don't think I ever really saw them as long term though, even the one that was actually longer term who I broke up with in the same year I got with my now husband.

19 and 20. Been together 20 years now - in the thick of things with small children so our relationship feels like it's taking a bit of a back seat at the moment but I reckon we'll get through 🙂

Met DH at 16, but didn't start dating until we were 18. Married 52 years now.
However my neighbour met her husband when he was evacuated from London during WW2 as a child and lived with her family during the war. I think they married as teenagers.

i was 18. Now 38.
not been easy at times but for the most part very happy and he is my rock

DBRO met DSIL when he was 18 & she was 17

Met at 20, still happily together. Most of my teenage relationships were doomed to failure though despite being madly in love, naming my future children and then being inconsolable when they inevitably ended. [blessme]

Met when I was 18, been together 17 years so far. I'm really excited about our future together.