Were You Very Young When You Got Together With Your DH/DP?

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I didn’t meet DH until I was in my mid 30s but DD16 (17 in December) has already had several serious conversations about the future with her GF17 ( 18 in June). They’ve talked about careers, when & how to have children, where they’re going to live etc etc. I have friends who met their partners really young & got married in their late teens or early twenties. It’s funny to think that I have been married for 23 years & a friend the same age is heading for her Ruby wedding anniversary next year.

Yes, I was 18, DH was 20.

My parents met when they were 4 & 6 :) obviously they didn’t get together until 16&18 ish when paths properly crossed socially.

My sister met her husband when they were 17/18/19 is at uni. Loads of people meet their spouses at uni, incredibly common.

We were both 23, been together 17 years.
It didn't feel young at the time but looking back now we really were. I feel like I've spent all my true adult years to date with him, 18-23 I was an adult legally but still very immature.
At 16/17 making big plans for the future is sweet but imo really just playing at it, they'd be in a minority if it all works out.

My DD is about to marry her partner (also a woman, in case that's relevant). They met at playgroup! We often joke that we've known her fiancee for longer than we've known DDs younger sister!

(They only became a couple in their mid twenties though. Just known each other for 30 years).

I was 16 when I met DH, he was 17. We’ve been together almost 10 years, with 2 DC and another on the way.

We definitely had conversations about our future from basically the moment we met. I just knew that he was the man I was going to marry, even if people thought I was a stupid teenager. It’s been difficult through no fault of our own, we’ve gone through a lot together and it’s taken a lot of work to make sure that we communicate and don’t fall into the trap of taking each other for granted. But it has all been so worth it, he’s my best friend and I am so proud and grateful for the life we have made together, and I feel unbelievably lucky to hopefully have so many years with him.

I was 21, DW was 19, still together(somehow)40 years on

I think some of it is that DD’s last relationship was just so awful ( abusive) & this one couldn’t be more different. She’s a really sweet girl. They haven’t been together that long but I’m already very fond of her. DH & I try to keep DD’s feet on the ground.

Met at 16, married at18, first child at 20. Still going strong. It’s our 50th anniversary next year 🥰

We were both 19 when we got together and have been together 23 years, happily married for 18 so far.

Been together since we were 12.5 - 64 next month.. it's been good, I love it.

16, been together 22 years. Did it sensibly though - long distance at uni, then graduate years. Meant we've grown up together but developed as individuals and have our own friends as well as joint. Don't think we had those kinds of conversations early on, more about staying together at uni 🤣. We just work!

I was 20 …..60 now been together 40 years….my DD is 31 she’s been with her partner 12 years ….eldest GD is 10

Thanks everyone. I’m actually feeling quite emotional at how happy DD is. She said to me yesterday that her GF is her best friend.

I was 26 when I met my DP and he was just coming up for 35. That was 22 years ago now.

None of my close friends met their future spouses/partners when they were in their late teens. I’ve had acquaintances who did - a former colleague now in his 40s met his wife when they were both 16 and another colleague met her husband when they were 18/19 at university.

I really wouldn’t pay much attention to your DD and her girlfriend talking about their future, though. I think a lot of teens assume their first serious relationship will last forever and have those sort of fantasy conversations about their future. It’s often all a bit emotionally intense at that age!

19 - met at uni, which I think is pretty common. Didn't marry till late 20s though as you grow a lot during that time so we wouldn't to be sure.

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We got together when we were 17. We'd been together for 19 years when he passed away earlier this year.

I have known 3 couples meet in their teens. Two are still together coming up to 60 and the other broke up in mid fifties after 34 years together.

I met dh at 21 and we got married at 25.

Met DH when we were 17/18. 22 years, 2 children and a mortgage later we are still going strong.

I was 23 and he was 22. Didn’t feel particularly young at the time but I suppose it is!

Oh that’s so young. I’m so sorry x

Met my exh at 17 , got engaged at 18 , married at 19 then had two dc before the age of 25 . That was a million years ago and tbh would be seen as horrifying now .
We divorced after around 15 years , as I felt we had grown up and grown apart and for me it felt like I had a 3rd child .

Met my first h at 17. Too young to know who I was let alone anyone else. Met dh at 38, both with kids, and I have to pinch myself to remind myself how lucky I am.

Know 2 couples who got together as teens all approaching 60. Knew another but they are divorcing, had been together 34 years. He had an affair it was truly awful and was worried for my poor friend.

I was 18, my now husband was 19. We have been married 15 years and together 24 years.