Were You Very Young When You Got Together With Your DH/DP?

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I didn’t meet DH until I was in my mid 30s but DD16 (17 in December) has already had several serious conversations about the future with her GF17 ( 18 in June). They’ve talked about careers, when & how to have children, where they’re going to live etc etc. I have friends who met their partners really young & got married in their late teens or early twenties. It’s funny to think that I have been married for 23 years & a friend the same age is heading for her Ruby wedding anniversary next year.

15 and 18 when we got together. Took 14 years before we got married and had DCs but we’ve actually now been together for 28 years. Know a few couples who have a similar timeline too, ie: met at college/uni. It’s definitely possible at that age but I wouldn’t read too much into it, they may be just excited about the future as young adults.

No, we met when we were both 28. I had quite a few bfs before that but never made life plans with any.

My dd met her bf at 18 and they talked re kids etc. But recently she broke up with him after 2 years.

Personally I think it's better to be older and know yourself and what you want from life before settling down, but obviously meeting young works for some.

Just not many people that I know where it has lasted. One couple from university who met at school at 16 and a colleague who got pregnant at 18 and married her bf who are now in their 50s.

I was 20, DH 21 when we got together. Been married 23 years now.

Our 24yo DS married this year, he’s been with DIL since they were 15 and 16.

Met at 20 been together 35 years. Still laugh and have lots of fun together.

I was (just) 19 and he was 18. Married within 18 months and still together 18 years later. He’s the love of my life and we’ll grow old together.

19. Married at 28, 20 years ago. Those conversations are important and part of figuring out who we are and how our lives will go. It doesn't suggest they are more or less likely to stay together. Some conversations I had with DH at 20 didn't become relevant until a few years ago like views on how much liberty a teen should have for example. Obviously views change too but it's good that they are communicating and forming life views and not just drifting along.

I met my DH when I was 17, been together nearly 12 years, have two children together, got married, brought a house. So far so good 😂

I think it’s possible to stay together from a young age.. but your personalities need to match and you need to be completely on the same wavelength. People will say it’s about compromise but it isn’t. Compromising just means someone isnt happy. Me and DH have always shared the same views on pretty much everything and I think that helps a lot.

Met my DH at age 15. We have been together for 27 years

We were very young when we got together (15/16), and we were very young when we got married (18/19). We’re early-60’s now and it hasn’t all been rosy; we’ve had great times and difficult times, both financially and emotionally.

We had to overcome some difficulties in our first year together - we were serious about each other but we both kissed other people in one-off circumstances; we hurt each other and it would have been very easy to separate at that time. I guess we were both immature, and we were still growing up; still easily flattered by the attention of others, and I suppose that neither of us really imagined at that age that we’d spend the rest of our lives together - that concept was beyond us - we couldn’t even imagine ourselves at 25, never mind 65.

While we got past those early difficulties, I think we’d both admit that we were still not really properly ‘grown up’ when we got married and, with hindsight, we could easily have grown apart simply through the process of becoming fully ‘adult’, never mind doing so with a young family and under some very challenging financial circumstances.

We’ve been financially secure for many years now, which goes a long way to reducing relationship stresses, and we’ve been solid companions working towards retirement during that time. Even so, there have still been ups and downs, moments of joy and despair, but always together when times were good and times were tough.

We are each other’s only ever sexual partner, which is probably very unusual. As a bloke, I was often somewhat embarrassed about that, but now I think it simply makes our relationship more special. I certainly don’t feel that I’ve missed out on anything (and I don’t think she does either). We learned about that side of things together; we are open with each other, and we understand and can fulfil each other’s needs (and even in our 60’s, things are as good if not better in that respect than they ever were).

I write this, really, as a “thank you” to DW, for I know the challenges were greater for her than for me, and I look forward to devoting my remaining time to making her as happy and contented as I possibly can.

17 here!

I know loads of couples who have been together since they were teenagers, but they marry us off young in the country 🤣

Met at 17. Married at 20. Still married 31 years later.

I was 19 when I met my husband , we’ve been together 40 yrs ,very happily married for 36 yrs

Have been with DP since we were 16 and 17. Together 25 years. We went through a lot together early on and moved in together at 18/19 so our families took us fairly seriously. My parents got together even younger. But people were generally a bit sneery, didn’t take us seriously as a couple for a long time.

We met when we were 18 and 21. I can't believe we were that young! Together for 45 years, married for the past 32.

DH and I met at 18 - the first day of university - and married at 29 on our 11th anniversary. I do get slightly miffed that I won’t be able to say we’ve been married 20 years aged 38 as we took so long. It counts imo

I was 18 nearly 19 and my now DH was 25. We have been together for 14 years now and very happily married for 9 years with 2 children.

Met him and were friends from 11, didn't get together until we were 25 which didn't feel young then but does now!

Met at 16 and 18, married at 20/21 and have been happily married for 21 years. Eldest is 19 and I cannot imagine him being married at 20.

we met when i was 19, married at 23 & been married 19 years so far so more than half my life together. He’s 4 years older.

18 and now im mid thirties! Married 10 years ago and now having our first baby.

Met DH when I was 21 and we’ve been together nearly 41 years.

DH and I were late 20s. Been married 30 years.

I was 16, DH was 21. Married five years later. Coming up to 45 years married. 2 wonderful dcs and two gorgeous dgc.

DH and I met at secondary school and got together at 18, 6 months before we left home for separate universities, so we spent the first few years of our relationship long distance. We moved in together after university and then got married at 24. Our serious conversations about the future probably started halfway through our degrees as we started planning for when we finished.