What’s your worst part of adulting?

[Outnumbered1983]

Mine is having to come up with meal ideas, I hate it! Having to think of what to eat/cook every single day until you die 😂

Mine is having to arrange house repairs and the maintenance e.g. painting gardening.

Paying bills….

Mine is thinking of what to eat too.

We recently spent 3 weeks in a country where good food is readily available to eat out or get delivered very cheaply. (not fast food, great freshly cooked meals delivered in 20 minutes). My DD lives there and rarely cooks.

The absolute bliss of not having to think about much other than where to go/what to order was absolute bliss.

I guess there's still an element of decision making but you are making it there and then when you know exactly how hungry you are and what you fancy, rather than planning for a week's meals then not really wanting what you had planned!

Having to consider what everyone else is doing before making plans of my own.

The relentlessness of the daily routine.

Cooking and washing up here… it’s relentless

The never ending admin to-do list. Insurance, MOT, dentist, vet, order dog food, write shopping list, 15 layers of security to buy a replacement mop, download another bloody app so I can park and actually do some of the stuff that requires all the admin...

All the decisions- when to eat, what to eat, where to go, how to get there, maximising enjoyment for everyone else, “ well if we eat in x restaurant, will the gluten free person have something nice? Will grandma be able to easily access the toilet? What about the lo- carb person? Will everyone fit in the car, do we need to factor in picking people up( even though I’d rather get the bus/ walk) , oh no, x person can’t eat fish/ is allergic to xyz/ has to eat early/ late . Being the person that organises everything, from holidays to food shopping. Other people will do it, but not without prompting.

Bills and the washing.

And I hate worrying about my ailing grandmother, but I do. Seeing her get old and frail is so upsetting.

The admin tasks. This week I’m off and I need to contact HMRC and actually speak to a person, fix something on the app for my lease car by speaking to a person and sort out paying more off my mortgage. So far 45 min in calls to three people and no further forward with any of them. I can’t do these tasks when I’m at work so need to do on annual leave days!

For me it has been caring for elderly relatives and being the one there “at the end” and deaing with all the admin relating to someone you love dying. God how I hate a house clearance! I am the last remaining adult in my family with the capacity to do these tasks and I think that having to do this adulting task alone has made it hard to bear.

Food decisions here too. The endless cleaning of the kitchen. Mine is definitely exasperated by having young children. Without them I'd happily have weeks of small little nibble from the fridge meals. I just need a good break from the relentless everyday tasks.

Worrying about money, house maintenance and cutting the grass!

Food. I feel like I'm either thinking about what to feed the family, buying food, cooking it, cleaning up after, meal planning, meal prep, sitting to eat and kids take nearly an hour to get through a meal. I hate it all! I actually love cooking but not having to decide what to make most days and doing it all the time.

Mine’s meal planning too. Every day for the past 30+ years trying to think of things to cook that the whole family would eat or adapting it for various foibles. It’s utterly relentless and boring.
Luckily, DD1 has a boyfriend who is an excellent cook and knows how much I hate it so offers to cook most nights (they’re living with us temporarily). I could kiss him!
When they move out again, DH and I will live on beans on toast!

Same OP- deciding what to cook. But also the never-endingness of household tasks- laundry and cleaning. None of them are big or arduous tasks in themselves but they obviously just never end. I hate the Groundhog Day vibe of it. I will need to continue to do laundry for the rest of my life and that feels overwhelming sometimes 😂

Using the word ' adulting '

Nothing im single and childless.

House maintenance

Folding laundry… 🙄😂

Just the sheer treadmilly relentlessness of it all.

You do the thing and then it needs doing again. You pay the bill but you're still in arrears. You do the work and no-one gives a damn.

Tax and HMRC admin, I spent over an hour on hold last week to HMRC

Repairs, this week I have someone coming to fix the oven, last week we had someone to remove an aerial that was going to disrupt our internet

Dealing with incompetent companies like BT, they are awful

Mine has become cooking too. I blame myself though. When the DCs were younger I was determined to cook a meal every evening (with DH doing some evenings just to be clear) and we always sat down to eat together. But now it's expected when, like PPs above, I'd sometimes be quite happy with banana on toast! I suggested soup for dinner a few weeks ago (a hearty soup with 'nice' bread) and was told 'soup is lunch'. I actually can't wait until it's just DH and me - and I can eat whatever I want,

Cleaning the bathroom, just absolutely hate it.

But presumably you are still an adult? Do you not have any responsibility you don't like doing?