Moving at 62 to Spain after death of husband

[Harbans]

I would love to move abroad to Spain, have raised 5 children 3 grandchildren. Worked 2 jobs now it was time to enjoy life , my husband of 36 years has passed. Had to downsize my children have each had their inheritance over £45,000 each and I bought a small property, now 2 have moved back and we are constantly arguing as I work for a educational agency and earn enough to pay bills and shopping no contribution from them . I have enough after I sell my property worth £200,000 to move to Spain would am on my own and have no idea where to begin.

They probably left the UK because it was "full of immigrants who won't learn the language and won't integrate" 😆😆😆

There's some wonderful clips around of Brits living in Spain complaining about how the UK is now "too full of immigrants".

My PILs loved Spain and had regular holidays there - my FIL put in a lot of work post retirement to learn Spanish and got good enough to be able to hold a conversation. So there isn't really any excuse for people actually living in the country not to learn a little, however old they are.

I wouldn't move to Spain.

Why did you pay them their inheritance when you’re only 62 and should be out there having a better life and enjoying yourself?
What have they done with their money and why have you let them move back in?
Sadly due to the Brexit vote, moving to Europe is now out of reach for many Brits unless they have dual nationality. You are now limited to how long you can spend in European countries .
However, you could downsize again…and then spend the money on a few months of long term rental in Spain. DH and I have chosen to do that rather than commit to buying (although I do have dual nationality)
It will give you more flexibility and you can try out different places.
But firstly, you need to give your children notice to move on.

Retirement visas are available for non working non EU residents. Have a google and take some legal advice.

I don't think you have enough money to relocate abroad and if it all goes wrong and you return to the U.K. you will be homeless.

If I were you I would get the kids out asap and reconsider the area you wish to live.

A one bedroom flat in a good area, might be better depending on maintenance charges etc . You could then choose to holiday in Spain as and when.

There’s a lot of misinformation here. You certainly can still stay in an EU country even as a non EU citizen for longer than the 90 in 180 days IF you are eligible for and secure the necessary visa. The retirement visa seems the most readily available for Spain if you can satisfy the conditions.

As others have said give them a deadline to move out and consider selling up and renting awhile in U.K. or abroad if you’re unsure where you’d like to settle.

Spain? Brexit put a stop to that!

Would you settle for Eastbourne?

Are you going to get a job there?

EU password will do.

This has to be parody!

Buy a little dog who will get you out and about and meeting people, join a choir, a library, a walking group and a WI and you won’t look back.

Oh dear lord! I'm the same age as the OP and don't want to join a choir or the WI. Nor do I want to buy a little dog. I want an adventure or two, not stitch'n'bitch at the library!

PP's suggestion of spending six weeks in Spain, 3 times a year sounds good.

Then you needn’t go…. different strokes for different folks.

I asked two different friends recently if ‘they had their time again’ whether they would choose to live in a country with a better climate - to live in the sun. They both said yes, without hesitation. Interesting - especially as they’re both very well off, healthy, happily married with healthy successful kids and living in different but beautiful parts of the U.K.

Passport dooh.

I disagree. It sounds like the OP has worked really hard over the years and has now “had to” downsize. When thinking of inheritance, I’d like to think my first responsibility is to my spouse to ensure they could live out the rest of their life comfortably, rather than any adult DC. When we’re both gone then that is when the DC’s inherit anything that’s left.

Where is the evidence that it’s common for people aged 60+ to dole out large sums to their adult DC’s? The world is changing, not many gold plated final salary pensions out there anymore (instead a pot with a set sum of money to last an indeterminate time), and people living longer whilst also getting state pensions much later. There’s nothing worse than a dependence and entitlement on the “bank of Mum and Dad”.

It isn't.
I am from Scandinavian. Very few Brits living in Scandinavian are bothered to learn the language of the country as most Scandinavians are doing well in English.

Sorry, you've misunderstood me. I was just taking the piss out of the pp who said it sounded 'ghastly' 😅😅😅😅

You can but there are criteria you need to meet as far finances and health insurance etc.
I am European with a British second passport and have chosen not to buy and commit to one place and choose to go for long rentals for the months I want to spent in different countries thus giving us much more flexibility.

Why?

What like 'Chorizo' or Jamon73?

Amazed to see so many suggesting it’s now nigh on impossible to move to Spain, simply not true.

To be fair it’s very difficult at acquire a language in your 50s / 60s. And if they’re living in a ghetto, or a place where English is widely spoken, they won’t have the immersion necessary

I think you’re shooting from the hip a bit and haven’t thought this through, even if you get past the visa stage.

Establish why you are wanting to leave the UK. Surely you get on with some of your children. Will you be lonely abroad with NO-ONE? I know I would.

To state the obvious you’re not getting any younger. And I don’t think that’s an argument to go and live abroad on your own. It means you will need support and no-one will be there to give it. Support you as your health deteriorates, to appointments and the like, help get groceries.

If you want a change of scenery, just buy in a nice small town/village where you’re not too far away.

You sound fed up and just need a bit of love and attention.

Why Spain OP?

My parents bought a property there years ago and started the process to be there permanently - this was pre Brexit. Mum has since moved back to the UK alone. Dad died in Spain and I am convinced had he been in the UK we would still have him - due to the language barrier there was at least one medication left off his prescription delivery and Mum simply didn’t notice because she didn’t understand the paperwork given to them

It gets cold in Spain in winter - really cold. As cold as the UK. I think a lot of people are completely mislead and think it’s year round sunshine - it really isn’t. And depending on where you are you may find much of the town closes down out of season. Utterly bleak even in retirement.

If you’re seriously considering a move abroad, I would look at Malta. You’re a lot more likely to be accepted on their retirement scheme as a permanent move, and English is their national language so that covers that obstacle for you.

I agree with this