Friendship with married man making me uneasy

[Beautifulbouquet]

I've had various friends who were married men...might go for drinks, phonecalls occasionally, texts. Straightforward.

I've recently had a married man befriend me but he never ever mentions his wife or kids. I'm pretty sure he hasn't told his wife about me.

He's now asked me for lunch, his treat, and he'll pick me up.

On the surface this shouldn't be a problem. He doesn't flirt or act inappropriately.

I tried asking questions that would involve him talking about his wife but he never refers to her at all.

He lives several hundred miles away from me but detours to see me when travelling for business.

He's great to talk to, fun to spend time with and has been a good friend so I don't want to back off the friendship for no good reason.

But I find this a bit odd. Am I overthinking?

He could be looking at you as an escape route!

I think it’s fair to say that @Beautifulbouquet isn’t coming back to this thread.

This

Ask him out right what his wife thinks of your friendship. If he hasn't told her then it's a dangerous game he's playing & is probably hoping things will heat up between you both. If you're happy being just friends tell him he needs to tell his wife about you as you'd hate for her to get hurt or for her to think there's something going on between you & her husband.

Lol

You have to think how would you feel if your husband was doing same with another woman...you probably wouldn't like it