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If you are anti private school are you also anti tutoring?

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WWGD · 16/10/2025 19:32

Putting aside the obvious - that a tutor is about £2k a year and private school about £25k a year…

My kids are state educated. Many of our friends are surprised by this as they go private, but our objection is political as much as financial. We just don’t believe it is right to buy that level of privilege and opportunity. We’d also rather spend that money on holidays etc.

dd has asked for a tutor in subjects she is struggling with. I have arranged this. But this too is buying privilege and opportunity. Though not the networking and prestige.

I am comfortable with my decisions. I am just wondering whether people who are anti private school for political reasons also think tutoring is beyond the pale?

I was going to put this in aibu but actually am interested in people’s views rather than being flamed.

OP posts:
amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 14:38

twistyizzy · 18/10/2025 14:31

Are you actually serious?
This is the problem with a government peddling misinformation and slogans instead of facts

Yes - I am serious.

twistyizzy · 18/10/2025 15:17

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 14:38

Yes - I am serious.

So fuck the children in independent schools because they don't matter? Fuck them.

FYI exemptions are not "tax breaks". The court told Labour not to use that because its a slogan, not a fact. UK is now only country in the world to tax education without also offering tax incentives to use independent schools. We are now ideologically behind Nigeria where only 20% of girls get a secondary education 👏👏👏

Do you like the "subsidies" you get on a daily basis?

Corse · 18/10/2025 15:35

ThisTicklishFatball · 18/10/2025 14:31

I'm in a snarky and sarcastic mood today, so buckle up.

I've been seeing a lot of harsh and unfair criticism aimed at parents who choose private education for their children. I think it's time for parents of private school students to stop paying taxes for state schools. They make up only a small percentage of parents in this country, so why should they keep being financially penalized for a service they don't use, possibly because it failed them in the past? Parents of state school students, who account for over 90% of the population, should be the ones funding it entirely. Could it be that state school parents feel a strong sense of entitlement to other people's money? Isn't this also a sign of privilege?

As I mentioned earlier, my children went to a prep school before transitioning to a state secondary. I pay for private tutoring to address the weaknesses of the state system, and hopefully, my children will achieve good grades, making the state school feel proud of itself. I'm doing my part to make the state look good.

What utter tosh, none of us pay in to directly take out. That is why childless people don’t get a discount in their taxes because they aren’t using the education system.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

MonGrainDeSel · 18/10/2025 15:44

Private schools remain charities (well, some of them). Taking away charity status was never seriously on the table as it is far too complicated. VAT is entirely separate.

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 16:33

twistyizzy · 18/10/2025 15:17

So fuck the children in independent schools because they don't matter? Fuck them.

FYI exemptions are not "tax breaks". The court told Labour not to use that because its a slogan, not a fact. UK is now only country in the world to tax education without also offering tax incentives to use independent schools. We are now ideologically behind Nigeria where only 20% of girls get a secondary education 👏👏👏

Do you like the "subsidies" you get on a daily basis?

Where did you get that from?

I've no problem with independent schools operating under the same terms as any other business that provides luxury services and neither have I problem with people paying for those services if they want them.

DoubledTrouble · 18/10/2025 16:45

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 16:33

Where did you get that from?

I've no problem with independent schools operating under the same terms as any other business that provides luxury services and neither have I problem with people paying for those services if they want them.

Edited

Have you been into any independent schools? Most of them really aren't providing a luxury service. I would say the one my child goes to is just providing the level of service all children ought to have. Things like teachers answering parental emails if they have a legitimate concern rather than just ignoring them, pupils not being made to line up shouted at and given constant detentions and having a science teacher. That type of thing.

A lot of issues in state schools are caused by underfunding. There are other problems as well. But none of them are caused by private schools

GingerBeverage · 18/10/2025 16:54

I pay for private tutoring to address the weaknesses of the state system, and hopefully, my children will achieve good grades, making the state school feel proud of itself. I'm doing my part to make the state look good.

This…is so bizarre tho? It’s like someone doping at the Olympics and claiming it makes their country look like winners.

twistyizzy · 18/10/2025 17:28

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 16:33

Where did you get that from?

I've no problem with independent schools operating under the same terms as any other business that provides luxury services and neither have I problem with people paying for those services if they want them.

Edited

VAT isn't a luxury tax

The whole point of exemption is because most of the world goes education as a merit good, no matter how or where it is delivered. That's why its illegal to tax education in the EU and why it couldn't happen prior to Brexit.

They are education charities ie not for profit. They aren't business like Tesco.

So this goes back to the UK being the only country which taxes the education of children without also giving tax relief to take burden off the state. At least you own that though, you own that you are happy for the education of children and children with SEND to be taxed. That does say more about you as a person though.

twistyizzy · 18/10/2025 17:30

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 16:33

Where did you get that from?

I've no problem with independent schools operating under the same terms as any other business that provides luxury services and neither have I problem with people paying for those services if they want them.

Edited

FYI independent schools have always paid their taxes and VAT. This is a new tax on parents on the education of children.

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:23

twistyizzy · 18/10/2025 17:30

FYI independent schools have always paid their taxes and VAT. This is a new tax on parents on the education of children.

No, independent schools have not always paid VAT; previously, they were exempt from charging VAT on their fees. A change was implemented starting January 1, 2025, when a 20% VAT rate was applied to tuition and boarding fees for pupils aged 4 to 18.

Prior to January 2025:
The supply of education by independent schools was exempt from VAT, meaning they did not charge it on their fees.

January 1, 2025, onwards:
VAT is now applied to education and boarding services provided by private schools. This change includes fees for pupils aged between 4 and 18.

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:25

DoubledTrouble · 18/10/2025 16:45

Have you been into any independent schools? Most of them really aren't providing a luxury service. I would say the one my child goes to is just providing the level of service all children ought to have. Things like teachers answering parental emails if they have a legitimate concern rather than just ignoring them, pupils not being made to line up shouted at and given constant detentions and having a science teacher. That type of thing.

A lot of issues in state schools are caused by underfunding. There are other problems as well. But none of them are caused by private schools

Edited

Yes, I taught in one for a while and they are most definitely a luxury.

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:26

twistyizzy · 18/10/2025 17:28

VAT isn't a luxury tax

The whole point of exemption is because most of the world goes education as a merit good, no matter how or where it is delivered. That's why its illegal to tax education in the EU and why it couldn't happen prior to Brexit.

They are education charities ie not for profit. They aren't business like Tesco.

So this goes back to the UK being the only country which taxes the education of children without also giving tax relief to take burden off the state. At least you own that though, you own that you are happy for the education of children and children with SEND to be taxed. That does say more about you as a person though.

I didn't say VAT is a luxury tax, rather that there aren't any other luxury goods or services that are VAT exempt.

OneAmberFinch · 18/10/2025 20:36

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:26

I didn't say VAT is a luxury tax, rather that there aren't any other luxury goods or services that are VAT exempt.

Surely the most obvious parallel is private healthcare, where VAT is generally not applied?

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:40

OneAmberFinch · 18/10/2025 20:36

Surely the most obvious parallel is private healthcare, where VAT is generally not applied?

I think VAT should be payable on private health care

OneAmberFinch · 18/10/2025 20:41

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:23

No, independent schools have not always paid VAT; previously, they were exempt from charging VAT on their fees. A change was implemented starting January 1, 2025, when a 20% VAT rate was applied to tuition and boarding fees for pupils aged 4 to 18.

Prior to January 2025:
The supply of education by independent schools was exempt from VAT, meaning they did not charge it on their fees.

January 1, 2025, onwards:
VAT is now applied to education and boarding services provided by private schools. This change includes fees for pupils aged between 4 and 18.

She clearly means that if the school, say, paid for an order of new classroom chairs or something they would pay VAT on what they purchased. As the end purchaser they were paying all the taxes they were obliged to pay.

The recent changes require the school to add VAT to their own fees.

38thparallel · 18/10/2025 20:55

I think VAT should be payable on private health care.

That will be a great help to the already overstretched NHS.

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 21:21

38thparallel · 18/10/2025 20:55

I think VAT should be payable on private health care.

That will be a great help to the already overstretched NHS.

How would extra tax raised not help the NHS?

38thparallel · 18/10/2025 21:31

How would extra tax raised not help the NHS?

I suppose it would depend on how much tax was raised. Private medicine and health insurance is already expensive and 20% extra would put it beyond the reach of a lot of people who would instead use the already overwhelmed NHS.

twistyizzy · 19/10/2025 03:37

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:26

I didn't say VAT is a luxury tax, rather that there aren't any other luxury goods or services that are VAT exempt.

Er caviar, boat moorings?

That comment just shows you don't understand VAT. It is a sales tax, nothing to do with luxury.

twistyizzy · 19/10/2025 03:39

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:23

No, independent schools have not always paid VAT; previously, they were exempt from charging VAT on their fees. A change was implemented starting January 1, 2025, when a 20% VAT rate was applied to tuition and boarding fees for pupils aged 4 to 18.

Prior to January 2025:
The supply of education by independent schools was exempt from VAT, meaning they did not charge it on their fees.

January 1, 2025, onwards:
VAT is now applied to education and boarding services provided by private schools. This change includes fees for pupils aged between 4 and 18.

No, independent schools have always paid VAT. This is a new tax on the educational services for children. Schools don't pay this new tax, they collect it on behalf of the government.

It is a tax on the education of children, adults are exempt. That sits OK with you though?

You have no clue what you're talking about.

twistyizzy · 19/10/2025 03:40

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 21:21

How would extra tax raised not help the NHS?

You know any VAT raised (and at this point it's pennies) isn't going to state schools? It's going on housing.

twistyizzy · 19/10/2025 03:46

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:26

I didn't say VAT is a luxury tax, rather that there aren't any other luxury goods or services that are VAT exempt.

The following are VAT exempt and many people would view them as lucury:

  • charity events eg galas
  • antiques
  • gambling or lottery tickets
  • financial services, investments and insurance
  • garages, parking spaces and houseboat moorings
property, land and buildings

So basically you are saying that you think antiques are less luxury than children's education.

This is why this country is fucked, we value gambling over education!

Meadowfinch · 19/10/2025 04:24

minipie · 16/10/2025 19:48

I’ve never understood why some people think private school is not ok but other forms of bought privilege are fine.

This. My ds has a scholarship and while I pay fees that are massive for me, they are less than some families spent of sports club membership.

Other families take their dcs skiing every year, have sports coaching, horse riding, buy cars for their children, pay their university fees, but because I scrape together the money to pay for somewhere safe and quiet for my ds to do his GCSEs, somehow that is wrong. 😳

I think every loving parent does what they believe to be the best for their child, and there is nothing wrong with that. Your dd is struggling, she has asked for help. What sort of parent would you be if you turned your back?

Marchitectmummy · 19/10/2025 04:29

I wouldn't politicise my children, I would do what's best for them.

Marchitectmummy · 19/10/2025 04:33

amigafan2003 · 18/10/2025 20:40

I think VAT should be payable on private health care

Because that way of thinking has worked so exceptionally well with private schools you would like to move additional patients and expense onto the NHS?