Failed my autism assessment...what now?

[malificent7]

Always struggled growing up with friendships, work, eating disorders,alchohol,depression etc.
Sdd diagnosed with aitism and I could see myself in her.
Went for my nhs assessment and apparently I am not autistic as I speak well and join in conversations.
But they gave me no other advice/ feedback...just left me hanging.
I mean i might have CPTSD as my mum was violent towards me. What now? So there is no excuse for me being me?

People do get diagnosed privately though. You're paying for it! Lots of children in my child's clinic who were refused diagnosis by the NHS for ADHD (just had poor behaviour) but then diagnosed privately. The drugs don't work on them and just make them worse. Actually beautifully ironic when you think about it! Then they do have to accept it's a behavior/discipline problem rather than being ND.n

This is interesting, it may be worth exploring the possible CPTSD - i was diagnosed with this at 33 following some very difficult childhood experiences. I previously got an ADD diagnoses at 14 (this was in the states). It has been suggested by numerous professionals since that the ADD diagnosis was largely the result of symptoms which overlap with trauma.

I hope you can move forwards and find the support you need.

I didn’t mean to offend you!

I don’t know anyone who is autistic so based the use of the word affliction on this where people describe it as being an affliction -

https://www.quora.com/Is-autism-an-affliction-or-a-trait

Right, because that’s how it works! 🙄

If you don't know anything about it, maybe you shouldn't respond as though you do.

You pay for an assessment, not a diagnosis. Lots of children and adults don’t reach the assessment threshold on the NHS but that doesn’t mean they don’t have ADHD.

ADHD meds also won’t make a child without ADHD worse. That’s just not how they work.

It’s very possible your assessor had a biased view of autism, it’s a particularly common challenge for women who may not present stereotypically. I’d contest it personally

I’m an autism assessor. I have to drum home at booking that they are booking for an assessment NOT a diagnosis. Some don’t get the diagnosis but usually it’s cos there’s something else going on and we refer on. But women do present very differently and are hugely under diagnosed and misdiagnosed. We still get referrals from GPs saying unlikely cos has good eye contact and functioning well. It doesn’t work like that! Understanding amongst professionals is poor.

Why does it make a difference if you’ve got autism or not?

For some people it makes a massive difference.

When I was diagnosed, it was like the final piece of the puzzle - my life suddenly made sense. I suddenly had answers as to why I struggled so much with basic, everyday life.

Unless you've got Autism (or any other medical condition) you won't get why it makes a difference