Would you be concerned, as this woman's mother?

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Or thinking you go girl?

She's an adult, so there's nothing to be done and nothing to be said, but that doesn't stop mum worrying.

Mid 30s, married just over a year. Both have very good jobs, as well as family money, and a lifestyle most could only dream of.

Woman is to go travelling, without DH, for 6 months. He'll met her for the last two weeks. The plan is to start a family when she gets back.

I'm all for adventure,l and independance, but it seems strange to me to voluntarily be away from your new husband for so long, at the same time as planning a family.

Otoh, their life is so different to anything I know, maybe it's me.

I did it. In fact I took out then two year old to the far east. DH visited for a couple of weeks a few months in. Was brilliant.

Does he want to go though? I guess if he’s said he wanted to go with her and she’s said ‘no way’, then that would be different.

Yet it sounds like he either doesn’t fancy it or has work commitments

How do you think couples where one is in the forces manage when they are deployment ? They have to manage - it’s not a choice and is a regular part of their life. If she has the opportunity and DH is supportive why not - it’s the chance of a lifetime and will help her achieve a life goal which will be incredibly difficult ( almost impossible) if she has children until they were adults and then she will be older. Grab the chance as no one knows what might happen in the future.

What's it got to do with you? I think it sounds like a brilliant plan.

YABU.

Having a husband doesn't mean she needs to stay home and not travel?

Unusual but if they are both happy and in agreement then there’s no need for anyone to be concerned.

different people chose to live their lives in different ways

I think the husband should consult divorce lawyers, the relationship isn't going to last and there will likely be a lot of holiday romances.

It's unusual - but maybe this is a dream the woman has had for a long time and maybe they've talked about it a lot. They still might find it harder than they thought, but stranger things have happened.

This IS what I think though 🤷‍♀️

Why? She’s an adult. Her life choices and her marriage are none of your business.

It's their decision. A bit unusual but not a cause for concern.

They will be whatsapping etc. and chatting every day.

I wouldn't worry if I were you.

Sounds as though they have been having the chat about starting a family and he knows she would like to travel, so he sensibly wants her to do that while they do not have a family. It shows a strong relationship where they trust each other and are making sensible plans for the future.

Oh goody, another bash women's freedom threads! 🙄
Just today I've seen a trad wife style one
A declining birthrate one, should women be having more babies etc
Then there's this one, a woman having the audacity to go travelling on her own.
Bloody good on her is the only thing I'd be thinking, if at all.
Why would anyone judge? She's got no young kids, or kids at all for that matter. She's her own person.
Unless you're meaning now she's married she's signed her life away to her husband and should be on beck and call in the kitchen and bedroom? 🙄
If she can't do a bit of exploring/enjoying her own company before she's settled down with kids, when can she?

So because she likes going places by herself that means she's out on the pull?
That's ridiculous.
I'm happily married and have been for many years, but now the kids have got older I enjoy going out for mini breaks by myself, hotel for the night and exploring new cities. Doesn't mean I've got another man in them! 🙄 It's perfectly possible to enjoy your own company sometimes.

I could be wrong and I am a total cynic but if I knew a newly married couple were doing this...I'd assume the marriage was in trouble and that this was a make or break type trip to try to find out if they'd be happier apart or together.

I’d love to travel like this for months at a time, my DH would hate every second of it. He’d probably want to just meet up at key points for a couple of days of luxury before I departed again. It wouldn’t have bothered either of us at all! I would say the same if the positions were reversed. Why would you ever think it was a judgement on how that person felt about you, as the person at home?

Edited for clarity

Bit odd!

I’d also be wondering why they’re delaying TTC if mid-30s, tbh.

Her last chance at proper freedom before a child comes and takes over your thoughts for the rest of your life. Sounds like a fantastic idea. Good for her.

That seems perfectly normal to me. They must have a good solid relationship, if they can be apart for so long with no worries. Good for them!

What's the background? Maybe she's always wanted to do this and her DH just doesn't so this is their compromise? I don't think I'd have an issue as a mum; if there are already cracks in the relationship then going away will possibly throw them into relief and save them a few more years of limping on unhappily and if the relationship is fine then it should stay fine, surely?

Is this your daughter? If not, why do you even need to have an opinion on it?

Sounds fantastic!

I bet it’s the DH’s mum, clutching her pearls at a woman exerting some independence.

I get the feeling that a lot of posters commenting that it's great have probably raised their families and are in very long established marriages...in these situations it probably seems like a wonderful liberating thing to do to find yourself and then come home to a very secure marriage.

For a recently married couple though, it doesn't bode well imo.

I would assume she’s asked DH to go and it’s either not his thing or it wouldn’t work around his job etc and that after discussing it together they’re both happy for her to crack on.