What is the most smug thing someone has said to you?

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I can think of a few…

He only has to look at me and I get pregnant.
(I just had an ectopic pregnancy)

We are lucky in my family… we don’t get cancer. ( just after my husband was diagnosed)

Are all of your remarks well considered?

Having had an ectopic pregnancy, it’s not necessarily a reflection of your fertility or ability to get pregnant?

A school mum told me once how lucky she was that her daughter only ate fruit and vegetables. She couldn't stand sweets or chocolate. I saw the same little darling devour a bag of haribos at a party the day before when her mum wasn't there 🤣

Someone asked me what my mum did to cause her terminal cancer
(nothing, no cause was identified). Same person followed up with 'Gosh, I guess you will probably get it too'.

Oh dear. Let’s criticise everyone and regurgitate their tactlessness..because that’s not smug at all…

Ah you seem to be going for smug and grossly insensitive!

so in that case:

A male colleague told me that my friend (age 20, who had recently been attacked and raped whilst walking her dog in broad daylight) shouldn’t be surprised things like this happen because that’s the price of living in western society allowing women to act and dress provocatively (she was in jeans that day) and these things don’t happen if society follows a religious way of life.

It wasn’t just the things he said but the dismissive, superior way he said it. I was so upset about my friend I don’t think I even replied, just walked away

Any time someone has said "Welcome to my world"

If we’re going for smug not just grossly insensitive :

• well of course we’ve paid off our mortgage (£2.5m house)
• well I don’t have to deal with homework or getting them to school (kids at boarding school)

(two different friends)

I was at my auntie's funeral and was wearing what I thought were a really nice pair of burgundy ankle boots with heels.

On the way out of the ceremony I made a light-hearted remark to my cousin's wife about how my feet were hurting.

She replied with 'oh, yes, that will happen when you wear cheap shoes'. 😐

“We only stay at 5 star hotels…..we like to be looked after”

Same person on different occasions:

• Can I come and have a look at your wood burner? It would be interesting to see how it performs in a small house.

After I expressed sympathy that his extended parental leave was unpaid - well, money isn't an issue for us. Never has been.

On telling her that a new boyfriend was very into a particular sport: 'oh, well, you must have much lower standards than me then, I'd never get involved with a man that liked sports'.🙄
Yes, she's still single, and still lamenting WHERE ARE ALL THE MEN?

"been there, done that".

Said constantly by my MIL anytime my child does, well, anything. It reallly gets my back up. Such a smug, know it all response.

Another mother when our children were young: “My daughter’s so intelligent it’s scary”.

That her children were off to grammar school and if they’d gone to a non selective she might as well write them off ( looking at mine who went to a non selective)
years later mine have completed or are completing university, have post grad jobs and hers haven’t done much since gcse. Always struck me how smug she was and quite nasty

When asking my younger trendier colleagues to recommend a hair salon for a long to short total restyle:-

From the credit card always skint Queen - "oh, I go to this salon in nearest posh town, probably no good for you though as they are quite expensive".

Sorry doll but my disposal income is a hell of a lot more than yours.

I had something similar when I was struggling to conceive: “it’s funny, isn’t it? There’s you and your DH, desperate for a baby and can’t have one, and there’s me and my BF, who don’t even want kids but he only has to put his coat next to mine and I get pregnant.”

Oh yeah, that’s frigging hilarious, that is.

My sibling said to me “if a woman can’t afford to give up work she shouldn’t have kids because it’s selfish” (her husband earns over 100k a year)

And same sibling when I was having fertility issues “some of us can have kids and some can’t, you sadly can’t”

same sibling when I was struggling with fertility issues when being lectured by my mother and her about something inconsequential - “listen to the Mums” with a smirk on her face.

Following my emergency C-section when I did eventually have children “some people say women who have C-sections aren’t real mothers” (of course she had had vaginal births).

I could write a book on her smugness and/or spitefulness!

A colleague who works in the same role as me, on the same grade as me with less years' experience than me came over to me in the office a week ago being all faux-helpful to explain that there was a good role going at [X] company which she'd been sent, and how it was far too junior for her but she thought it'd be a great fit for me!

I don't think she even thought about how smug or rude that came across!

When I critique capitalism online, I find it funny when people think they're being awfully clever replying with things like 'Well, I hope you enjoy your beloved COMMUNISM then'

Because then I can be smug and tell them that my mum grew up under a Communist regime so I have absolutely no romantic notions that communism is a good idea either.

As my ExH left the house after 23 years of being together, leaving me to bring up our 11 year old daughter he said 'ha - you've got her for her teenage years'

Smug arsehole!

Turned out her teenage years weren't without issues but we muddled through them together and I now have a brilliant relationship with her, unlike her dad who rarely sees her.

I am a teacher and the worst smugness I have seen is when you have had a difficult time with a particular pupil and just offloading to other staff - you can be guaranteed someone will say "Oh he's great in my lesson". Makes me want to scream!

Senior colleague when calling me to track down the MacBook she had only had two weeks from the Airline after she left it on a plane ... I put it in the bit where you know, where it goes while you eat, then said oh no, you wouldn't know would you, its in business class!

Like f**k you if you think I am going to go out of my way to track your stuff when speaking down on me like that!

"Welcome to my world" is very irritating. And similarly, when I was talking about how ridiculously busy I was at work, someone said "Let me put that into perspective for you . . . " and proceeded to list all the jobs they had on their job list.

A manager at a shop i worked at back in the 80s
"No woman is allowed to touch me apart from my girlfriend " declared the manager with hair greasier than a chip pan and a complexion like unbaked pastry that had been rolled along the floor
(His GF had similar looks so they didnt spoil a good couple) 🤣🤣🤣