What is the most smug thing someone has said to you?

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I can think of a few…

He only has to look at me and I get pregnant.
(I just had an ectopic pregnancy)

We are lucky in my family… we don’t get cancer. ( just after my husband was diagnosed)

Agreed.

I get the same sometimes from those with primary aged kids when they hear some of my hair raising stories of my teens.

I'm amazed you have any friends but maybe they're just all as nasty and insensitive as you.

Some of these comments does read as smug to me, but insecure on the part of person who has been on the receiving end of it.

So for example, people talking about how intelligent their children are - i'd be pleased for somebody if they told me that. Can't understand why that would make me consider somebody smug.

I think it's the way in which it's said and the relationship you have with that person. Some of these are undeniably smug - nothing to do with how secure or otherwise the person on the receiving end is.

My soon to be DSIL at the time said to me "you're only jealous because you'll never be the next Mrs Jones, I will". 😶 Take the legacy darl, you're more than deserving of it.

Yes, agree with this.

Nothing nasty or insensitive there…

Your opinion not mine

Then the (over) sensitivity is all yours.

Told my sister that I was unable to go on holiday this year because of work that needs to be done on the house.

She proceeded to tell me about all the holidays she'll be taking on the remainder of this year and about her plans for a month away next year.

Don't tell me how I should respond to a post.
You can see it one way I see it another way.

"Of course, we've always been very clever about money" from someone who inherited twice what my house was worth (from their grandmother) in their 20s, and went on to inherit ££££££ again from another family member recently.

Several posters have jumped on you to tell you that you must be a terrible friend, etc. I don't think you sound unkind or insensitive. You are right, and very important things in one person's life are often forgotten about by everyone except really close friends and family (and by close, I mean we are lucky to have one or two friends who care enough always to remember about our losses and sad experiences).

My brother died young and I have lost both my parents now, but I know that people often forget these important things when they are talking to me.

Me: carer for my mum, having chemo, go to work. Never on a holiday
MIL: We are off to France (3rd hol of the year) for yummy seafish, yummy crepes, yummy wine.
MIL: just had Moules in the garden with yummy fresh baguette, looking out at our wonderdul plants we have grown.
Oh yummy off

'I preferred his wife, she was Catholic '

Smug?

Adults who say ‘yummy’ make me die inside.

Sorry you ended up with a smug and insensitive MIL like I did. Solidarity!

We booked our first ever holiday to Asia, and were so excited. MIL asked how much it cost, and when we told her, she threw back her head and let out a huge laugh and then said "Ha! That wouldn't even pay for our Business Class seats".

Another time, she went to a Michelin star restaurant for a very posh meal, and then exclaimed that it had cost as much as we would normally pay for a week abroad.

There are many more. Sadly one of her children is on the breadline, and receives no financial help from her, but does have to listen to endless quotes like these.

"the reason my child is so advanced in her speech is because I interact with her constantly and don't limit my vocabulary to toddler level"

This was after I explained that my three and a half year old wasn't answering his questions due to severe speech delay, for which we were waiting for investigation in order to access some help. I wanted to say "oh I don't engage with mine at all, in fact I keep him in a cupboard when we are at home, that must be it!" Instead I pitied his ignorance and despised him.

I'm sure that's very much the case. Our demographic was particularly affluent. Unfortunately, my experience of NCT negatively impacted my early days of parenthood.
The absolute lowest moment was when it was my turn to invite the group round and after they left, I could hear a couple of them standing outside bitching about my house.

It was not a helpful or supportive group to be a part of.

Oh that is horrible! I didn’t do classes as none were available locally when I was expecting, but my branch ran groups where parents of babies and toddlers mixed together. We used to meet in peoples houses a lot, and it kept me sane until they went to school. Nobody cared about anyone’s house (tho one person said her husband wanted names of everyone attending in case anything got stolen or broken 🫣 ), we just wanted a good brew and natter and reassurance it wasn’t just us. Cake was a bonus.

yummy makes me want to puke

When I first moved into the house I now own my NDN said I was "only a tenant". I asked if they had a mortgage and she replied yes. I then reminded her that she was in debt to the bank whereas I did not even own a credit card and paid my bills as they came in. I told her "I would hate to be a debtor like you". That took the wind out of her sails.

Did you report him??