What is the most smug thing someone has said to you?

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I can think of a few…

He only has to look at me and I get pregnant.
(I just had an ectopic pregnancy)

We are lucky in my family… we don’t get cancer. ( just after my husband was diagnosed)

My DS was a very fussy eater when he was little. A school mum was fond of saying "I am lucky with mine, they eat everything. But then I am firm with them, they'll eat it if they're hungry enough" I wanted to scream at her "No they won't! He'd prefer to be hungry you stupid smug cow!"

“When this baby is born I’ll go back to work at 6 weeks and he’ll sleep in a Moses basket under my desk.”

I just had a vision of that moses basket being mistaken for a waste basket. Poor little lamb 😥

My neice chatting in a group of my two SIL and myself stated that she feels sorry for DINK couples (dual income no kids) cos motherhood is what makes us complete, and who will wipe your ass when you're old.

I'm 43, no children by choice

Love her to bits of course but she thinks she's something bloody special jusy by having pushed out two kids. Smug mothers is my pet hate

I can sort your medication problem out.

Interesting as I'm the only person that actually knows what the problem is but yeah go on fill your boots. They failed at the 1st hurdle.

Someone once told me that if I made the right choices, I could have a life like hers.

She was absolutely stunned when I said I wouldn’t want a life like hers.

A family with one child loftily told me with complete sincerity that anyone and everyone could afford to send their child for a private education if they were prepared to make enough sacrifices.

Fair enough, they made their sacrifices and sent their (clever enough and thus scholarshipped) child to a private school, but I was staggered that as the head teacher of a state primary school he couldn’t see that for some of us there was no leeway to afford school fees.

To be absolutely honest, I think this is less a case of them being smug, and more a case of you completely overestimating your importance in their life. Of course, your ectopic pregnancy was a huge part of your life, but for most other people they'll hear the news, think "oh that's sad", support you for a little while, but then move on. It's not that they don't care, it's just that it's YOUR life, not THEIRS, and therefore not always on the forefront of their mind. So when they make comments like this, they won't even be thinking about what related issue (tenuous or otherwise) you might have been through in the past.

If you analyse everyone's conversations like this, you're honestly going to have very few friends.

I was coming on to say similar. I remember so clearly struggling with a challenging Y9 class as an NQT 25 years ago.

Offloaded in the smoking staff room (it was that long ago!) to sympathetic colleagues.
All apart from one very experienced teacher who smirked away until I was finished to announce smugly '9Y2? Never any bother for me'

It really stayed with me, made me feel shit!

I bumped into someone from my NCT class when our children were about to start school. She told me her son was going to a private school but "YOU probably won't know it."

Another NCT class member looked me up and down whilst we were all still pregnant and said, "maternity clothes are cheap as chips these days aren't they. It's so hard to find nice things."

In fact, most things said by the NCT lot were smug.

“I eat to live, not live to eat”

Did you report this disgusting PoS to HR??

She sounds like Amanda from Amandaland!

This thread reminds me of a relative who decided to tell me that if I had a cold, then perhaps it was my fault because she never caught anything and never got ill. She always took vitamins and looked after herself properly so maybe I should start taking supplements too. All done with a condescendingly smug and patronising smile.

About a fortnight later I heard she'd come down with shingles and was really suffering with it.

Couldn't happen to a nicer person.

To be fair (and I’ve volunteered for them for nearly 20 years) not every NCT group is like this. Very much depends on the demographic of the area. I have some amazing friends from that time who aren’t smug at all, and very few opted for private school. (In fact, the only one I can think of moved their child into state at the start of secondary.)

That's harsh. An ectopic pregnancy is a potentially fatal medical emergency. It may also be an indication of ongoing fertility issues if it necessitated the removal of a fallopian tube. So to respond in the way the OP mentioned is at best highly insensitive, at worst, smug.

So sorry to hear about your son 💐

‘Well we always knew there was something wrong with you’ - said by my mother upon receiving a diagnosis, that turned out to be a misdiagnosis, of bi polar disorder.

Introducing myself to new neighbours and I asked where they'd moved from "we just thought we'd rent a tiny house in a cheap area while we save our deposit for a house in (rich area)".

I once had a colleague tell me I was 'lucky' that I had got things from the work fund twice - as she had never had anything (we paid in to ensure cards/flowers for people who had bad things happen). Yeah I was delighted that my 12 week miscarriage and my flooded house meant two cards and two bunches of flowers three years apart.

What an utter cunt.

“Aren’t I lucky that my baby is more beautiful than yours?”

My DB said to me he’d threatened my DN with attending the local comprehensive (where my DC went) if she didn’t start taking her private school education seriously.

Many years ago my awful female boss, who’d recently moved from London to a small Wiltshire village, announced that she didn’t mind having a few local authority houses in the village as she was sure she’d get a cleaner.

Newly promoted manager at work. Young and arrogant. Rapid promotion because he's extremely pushy and entitled.

Went to a site in a different country. A team leader offered to pick him up from the airport.

Before setting out, he told people: 'I don't need to get a taxi. I have staff.'