When my child was returned to me after 18 months, it was with a conditional regime that included a stipulation that I continue to work part-time, that we attended first a mother and baby group, then hr went to a nursery - both of which lnew "the history" and reported back weekly every detail of attendance. Other days he was cared for by my DF and myself SF. His father kind of had to supervise me at home. There were extra HV checks as well. It was a further 18 months before we came off the "At Risk" register.
The reason I'm bringing this up is that despite and because of this regime my paranoia was off the scale, and I dreaded being left alone with him. I didn't get any support with that, everything was geared up to waiting for me to fail in some way. As a result, my DC did not have a normal or relaxed childhood, and the SW implied that giving him up for adoption would have been the moral choice even if I was innocent.
Even now, 31 years later, I would not want to be left alone with anyone else's child. I once babysat for a toddler, and my by then new DH had to come with me. The parents trusted me, but if anything had happened at all, it would have been doubly awful as not only would I feel natural guilt at the event itself, but also I would fall under suspicion.
My son has yet to reproduce. If he did, I could never do the normal childcare a grandparent would do, even though he knows the full story and trusts me implicitly. I couldn't take the risk.
In addition if he does have a child there's a strong possibility that because he is on record as an abused child, he and his partner would come under LA scrutiny.
The ramifications and stress associated with a false accusation of this nature break people, break up families, and it's obviously multiplied a thousand times over for people like Lucia, Lucy, Sally Clarke. I have no doubt that Lucias early demise was contributed to by her experience.
The cavalier attitude of some to such grievious failures demonstrated in cases like these is frankly appalling, and it demands reform across all the agencies.
I'm still chilled to the bone that Lucia suffered a stroke and was left to suffer by prison guards.
It's so easy to stand in judgement....until it's you having the finger pointed at you.