What do I eat when I’m dying?

[Okitsme]

I’ve just been given weeks to live.
I’ve found it very hard to eat for the last couple of weeks and am forcing myself to eat a certain number of mouthfuls while in hospital.
If you have looked after anyone in this situation what things did they like?
I loved food and cooking

Mini Magnum.

I’m sorry, my heart goes out to you

P.s if there is actual food you fancy (having been interested in cooking and eating) please ask loved ones to bring in their examples of your recipes. Perhaps a nice, familiar smell will encourage your appetite.

So sorry OP.

First, sorry for your situation.

Jelly, Ice cream, small tasty snacks, and there is a product that I forget the name of my dad had might have been "fortisip" or something similar. basically a fruit juice / or shake with nutrients etc in.

This ... you don't even have to smoke it and it helps, nature's very own wonder plant.
Much love xx

My dad didn't like much of anything but what I think gave him some pleasure was drinking out of a nice cup and glass in hospital. I brought a small glass tumbler from home and a very fine bone china coffee cup edged in gold so he could get more pleasure and ease from drinking. I was able to come in everyday and wash them, and the nurses very kindly washed them for him too and put them in his room. We managed to get him home at the very end. I missed his last evening which makes me sad but my mum wanted to spend the time with him. He has that final burst of energy you hear about and was telling stories to the nurses and had a glass of red wine and I think a bit of a roast dinner. I was there at the very end and it was peaceful. We were all there including his dog under the bed.

So sorry to hear your situation. Hope you have love and care around you xxx

Oh OP, this made me cry. 😞 I'm so sorry 😞

I echo what others suggest. A lot (or whatever you can manage!) of your favourite foods, alongside the things that are easiest to eat. Anything sweet and delicious may have a wonderful effect on boosting you a bit, especially things like chocolate mousee or ice cream. What about some lovely home made cake or soft brownies? Maybe with a little Greek yogurt or ice cream?

I agree that a little tipple would be good too. I remember when my brother was in the hospice, they had a wonderful chef who would cook them anything they fancied. My DB was particularly fond of a non-alcoholic cocktail with a little decorative umbrella 🌂

Lots of love and hugs to you. I will think of you when I go to bed tonight xx
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My mum liked the prawns in Marie Rose sauce from M&S, and a gooseberry fool from Morrisons.

But she couldn't swallow much so I ended up having to remove some. So I would say things you can suck for flavour but not choke on, or things that just go down like yoghurt.

I am so sorry, how awful not to be able to eat when you loved food and cooking. All I can say is that I hear you about food, my biggest comfort and happiness

Very sorry to hear this OP.

There seem to be some great suggestions. I can't think of any more to add but I wanted to say my thoughts are with you xx

I'm so sorry. My aunt apparently enjoyed noodle soup with a hint of chilli. She was quite congested and had a sore throat so I think the soup helped.

My darling M enjoyed sorbet and ice cream.

I would say your fave foods for tasters & pleasure (if you have a safe swallow) plus supplements for nutrition as recommended by your dietitian. As time goes on your body will guide you. Hunger & thirst signals naturally reduce as the body closes down.

What would you say has been the best part of life for you? Your biggest lesson?

Sending warmth & tranquility from my heart to yours. x 💛

I'm so sorry for you OP. Having been seriously ill myself this year, I've thought about what I would want and I think others are right - tiny tastes of food you love, maybe a little M&S treat here and there like one of their individual desserts, canape sized meals if you're struggling to eat much. I'll be thinking of you 💐

Sorry to read this @Okitsme did you want to talk more?

Someone will be here most of the night and days to follow if you want to.

Food wise? I'd eat cake, and sushi. My favourite things.

I’m so sorry.

If you have the appetite then have smaller versions of your favourite meals/foods. Try to not to be too constricted over meal times and eat when you are like.

Make sure you are hydrated, there are those fruity jellies you can get which hydrate you or you don’t fancy drinking lots of water.

I hope you have a peaceful few weeks enjoying your meals and family. Sending big hugs!

I felt for your Gran when I read this. People can be so thoughtless.

What do you want food to do for you? Are you wanting to eat enough to keep going for as long as you can? Or in order to enjoy some flavours/textures? Will you remain in hospital, or move home to to a hospice for your final days/weeks?

If you can face answering, that might help us with ideas and to guess what night be available to you.

My late husband was nursed at home until the end, so my daughters and could offer pretty much anything. A hospital might not be able to provide you with smoked salmon and avocado, for instance!

I hope you're able to enjoy a few treats and gain enough nutrients to give you time to see those you wish to, and have some quality time with them.

sending you lots of love.

Just have what you can manage and what you feel like you want to eat. Don’t force yourself to eat anything that you don’t want.

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OP, how very sad. A close friend before she passed had smoothies, but home made ones which are thicker than shop bought, and you can make them as sweet as you like. Buy in some blackberries, strawberries, blueberries and raspberries, I know they can be expensive, but I think some shops also do frozen packs of mixed berries which might be cheaper. Add yoghurt and sugar, blend it all, with a bit of ice, and it really does taste lovely. If you have a soup maker, you could have different flavoured soups. Sending hugs.

😢 I'm so sorry. God, that's sad.

I think you should eat whatever you feel like eating. And if that's not much, that's fine too.

Oh my goodness @Okitsme If I was in your position I would eat and drink small amounts of things I love. Be kind to your self, don't make food a chore.
Do you have support?
Lots of love to you

I am so sorry @Okitsme

My Dad really liked the omelettes the hospice chef rustled up for him, much to the delight of said chef. They were plain, but beautifully golden and perfectly cooked, just what Dad wanted.

If Dad was here, I think he'd suggest you get some high quality fruit squash - M&S do some good ones - to help you with hydration. Dad was always a man for a cup of tea, but as his illness advanced, he didn't fancy it as much. But he loved his squash and keeping him supplied gave us something positive we could do.

So sorry for what you are facing, OP. I can't really think of anything food-wise that's not already been suggested, but just wanted to send a hug. 💐