Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

I’m definitely going to store ‘toilet goblin’ in my mind for future use.😂 Love it!

Sheesh! The caravan thing reminds me of my sister who is a world class CF in her own right.

We bought a caravan to live in while we knocked down most of our house. Before we moved into it, my sister asked of she could borrow it and the Land Rover to tow it, for a holiday.

I have learned to immediately blurt out "Not a chance!" with CFs now as I have been a people pleaser and doormat my entire life. It gives me thinking time. I think it was the first time I actually stood up to her but she and her kids would have wrecked both. She damages everything in her life and doesn't repair or replace anything ever. She wrecked two of my Dads cars and just walked away leaving him having to walk to work and I have lost count of the borrowed items from friends and family that she has trashed, broken, allowed to become rotten with damp and mildew or just lost or allowed to be stolen.

She has very few friends and a lot of enemies I imagine. I haven't spoken to her in almost 15 years. I can't bear her. She has no moral compass of any sort.

I am pretty assertive so i dont really come across many CF's and a couple that i did meet were told No. But the one that sticks with me was my son when he was about 17. He was going out with a lovely young girl but her parents would never go out of their way to help her. We lived the other side of town to her so on a quiet time it would take 20 mins to get to hers and if it was busy over 30 minutes.

Son would go to hers after college and i would pick him up. When she came to ours it would be down to me to take her home. I always did it as she was a lovely girl and it wasnt her fault. But it did start to grate having to be the one to drive all the time.

They went to a college event and it was at a hotel 5 mins from my house, so i didnt have to drive. Except when the event finished son rang for a lift home (around midnight), when i got there son asked me to take the girlfriend home too as her parents were "too ill" to pick her up apparently. Didnt get home till gone 1am.

Then the CF moment from my son. He had some college friends a couple of towns over so about a 30 min drive one way, he went to a couple of parties, i had driven them there and back obviously. One party i was there are around 11pm and knew it was going to take longer to get home due to having to drop girlfriend off first, anyway son then comes out and says "i am stopping over at Toms house tonight, can you take girlfriend home". I was bloody furious that he had used me to give his girlfriend a lift home, probably about an hours trip for me. He got told through very gritted teeth "get in the fucking car or NOBODY gets a lift home". I think he realised he had pushed his luck and got in the car and moaned and complained all the way home.

Really? You didn't seem too pleased to be corrected by me doing my public service to explain social etiquette to you. And actually you corrected the difference between grammar and spelling as a way to (attempt to) put me down. You weren't doing it to be kind or helpful, but to try to have one up on me and expose me for an error, as a kind of gotcha. It's strange that you used the very act of kindness that you were describing, to deliberately try to talk down to me.

Anyway, I am going to do what I usually do when I when I encounter people who try to deflect their own rudeness onto others, and just smile, nod and move on. Enjoy your day.

A popular member of my hobby group broke down in tears during the session. She told us that she'd arrived at work on Monday morning to find the office empty. Her employers had done a bunk owing money to both the landlord and staff. (This was true, btw.)
Her home life is chaotic at the best of times, but as the breadwinner, she was naturally stressed about feeding the family and paying the mortgage until she could find another job. She was in pieces.
The leader of the group suggested we have a whip round and being a generous bunch, we collected just under a grand for her. She was genuinely touched and grateful and a couple of weeks later, posted on the group Whatsapp, saying she thought 'you lovely lot' would like to see how she'd used the money. It was a photo of a pedigree puppy.

This happened to my aunt in hospital last week.

She was desperate for the loo (tummy troubles) but there was only 1 toilet for 23 women on the ward. Was constantly busy every time she went and she was getting more and more desperate and keen to avoid the kind of accident that she'd had the day before. Eventually she asked someone for some help (and to make sure someone hadn't collapsed in the toilet) only to discover that another woman had been using the toilet sink to wash her hair (rather than the separate shower room that didn't have a toilet). She'd then left the toilet absolutely covered in water.

I imagine it's selfishness rather than entitlement, but it never ceases to amaze me how people often think of no-one other than themselves.

An anonymous forum isn’t the place to do your benevolent educating.

Same, I also normally let someone go ahead if they have one or two items but the lady didn't even get in line she just walked to the front. Had she asked nicely and not acted entitled I would have let her.

We had a lot of pressure from them to 'just invite her and keep the peace', but DP and I were in agreement we didn't want her there, and we didn't want to set any expectations that we'd bow down to undue pressure on this or anything else where it isn't appropriate.
We didn't invite her, no.
And we told our relatives that if they didn't end up turning up because of it, if we were asked by guests where they were on the day, we'd simply inform them of the truth. That they wouldn't come because we wouldn't invite someone's ex girlfriend.
They presumably realised they couldn't double down on their (tenuous at best) stance - and yes, they came to the wedding. 😂
It was all a shame as it overshadowed a good amount of the run up to the wedding - and it permanently fractured the relationship between DH and his mother, and even further, between DH and his brother. Prior to this DH was very much a mummy's boy and the change in him with her was like night and day.
MIL definitely shot herself in the foot with her entitled stance and many years later their relationship has never been the same.

We had a house fire and my lovely friends collect £200. We had had lots of donations and were awaiting insurance money so dh and I treated ourselves to a spa day (to relieve the stress) I hope friends weren’t miffed. We were so grateful.

I was going through a horrible divorce a few years ago and was absolutely desperate to sell our joint property so I could finally be rid of my abusive partner. My best friend at the time said she was looking to start up a portfolio and could buy my property. This would be good for both of us as there wouldn't be estate agent fees. She then offered me 40 thousand less than asking price.

I was obviously shocked and said although I was prepared for wriggle room, what she had offered me was even less than one of those " We buy any house" type people. She laughed and said I knew nothing about property and would never get a better offer than hers. She then pestered me constantly to sell to her, knowing that I desperately needed the money from the sale of the house. I did finally sell for my asking price, and she went absolutely ballistic, telling me I was an horrible person and a terrible friend and I had taken advantage of her good nature !! We no longer speak.

This did just remind me of the day that one of our neighbours knocked on our door and said to my DH - "I'm just leaving my car here [pointing at our driveway] - I'll move it this evening."

Thankfully, although stunned, DH did have the wherewithal to say "Er, no, sorry - that's not convenient, my wife will be home soon and will need the space"

Apparently the woman looked very surprised that she'd been told no!

Truth way, I wasn't due home soon at all, but DH was pissed off at the assumption that it was OK without asking first. If they'd have asked, he'd have said yes!

I think boasting of being a proofreader, then making two grammatical errors, speaks volumes

Everyone has blind spots with spelling from time to time, me included, why do the shaming thing

I have no idea - he didn't come back to me after I told him I had done my best to forget those dates!

I don’t have piss on my hands. Like most people, I make sure that my hand is well covered with toilet paper when I wipe.
A dog bowl will have been in the floor and is comparable to having someone wash their trainers in the sink. Not to mention the smell of dog/gravy. What about using an outside tap.

Mumsnet, however is not a classroom and posters are not parents overseeing their children’s homework. In either of those scenarios, the rudeness of that critical post would be completely unacceptable.

Well, if it makes you feel better, I suppose 🤷🏻‍♀️
But maybe you should ask yourself why?

I’m in on this too. Wonderful phrase, so many uses 😁👌

When my DS started school I was able to keep my health profession status quiet until DS’s teacher asked me to do a little talk. After that I was approached continually about various concerns. There were a lot of HCP parents at school and after one witnessed me being “jumped on” for advice she let me into the secret. The school did wrap around care ( private so included with the fees) and I became a member of the “half hour club”. Most of the HCP parents would arrange to pick up their children 30mins after the end of school to avoid being hassled by parents with “queries”.
Fortunately DS loved after school club, it was like playing outside with your friends ( something we did as children in the 1970s).

BIL despite being local tried to have as little to do with MIL when she was released from hospital. We live hundreds of miles away, DH went up every weekend and used loads of holiday fo be there.
BIL would ring when he was home to complain he had to go round with shopping and why couldn’t DH, SIL refused to go round at all.
Then suggested DH quit his job to move up there, or that I take a month unpaid from work to go up there to do the care (it was only shopping/meals).
When she died they told everyone that they had cared for her 24 hours a day and DH hadn’t even visited. They even said this TO DH! They also when believed they should inherit everything because of this.

You realise germs pass through toilet paper, right? And that people who are potentially less hygienic have touched the handles, flush etc?

By your logic, our hands must not come into contact with any germs while toileting, thus the hand basins are not required and we don’t need to wash hands after we finish. I guess that’s why so many people leave without bothering…. sounds like maybe you’re one of them?! 😳

While I agree that is premium CFuckery, it's straight out of some merkin pratt's book of 'top tips' as a way to get on in life