Tell me your stories of entitlement

[Spidey66]

We’re in the US ATM . We flew London to Seattle so a long flight. We paid extra for premium economy seats, and got good seats.

just before take off, our (front) row were approached by a mother with a new baby (looked like only 3-4 months or so) asking for someone to swap because she had a baby. To cut a long story short, she didn’t get it and stormed off in a huff. Turned out she was actually in economy and wanted a premium seat without premium cost and was wanting one of us to pay premium price and sit in economy! Isn’t that the height of entitlement!!! She thought we should bow down to the fact she had a baby!

I love hearing stories of entitlement. Tell me yours.

This thread could occupy my whole day!
Recently I parked in a far from the door, shady, slot in a supermarket car park, as I got out a woman shouted at me 'I need to park in the shade, I have a baby!'
I pointed to the loads of parent and child slots, near the door but apparently her mother was staying in the car with the baby and she wanted the shade. Cursed when told No.
Many years ago I was shopping with an acquaintance, we had no children then, she did, but similar incomes, she kept pointing to 2 for 1 offers etc, when we returned to my place she considered that all the 'free' ones were hers as she had children so deserved them. I told her if she bought less crap she wouldn't be so short of cash.

I was about 9 months pregnant and DH and I were watching tv at about 9pm on a Saturday night. DH is part of a club and they have a chat with all the members on it, and another member put a message asking if anyone could come and collect him from hospital. DH offered to do it as he felt pity on him and we live quite near the hospital.

When he arrived, not only was this guy sitting with another woman from the club (who isn’t his partner), but when DH asked his home postcode so he could put it in the sat nav (naively assuming that’s where he wanted to go) to take him home, this guy instead asked to be dropped at a pub about 2 minutes drive away. So this bloke got my partner out at 9pm on a Saturday night while he had a heavily pregnant wife at home so him & his piece on the side could get a free lift to the pub instead of having to pay for an uber.

This might be outing as I have moaned extensively in real life. But a friend of DHs has always been an entitled arse. One Saturday he texted me to say he was in our village (touristy) for the weekend and could I do him
a favour by taking his 3 DCs for the day while he went fishing with a friend and take them to the movies and give them lunch. When I said no because I had other things to do that day he rang DH to complain about me. DH told him he had ‘a bloody nerve’. He genuinely could not understand what the issue was.

Have these people never heard of trains?

Small fry compared to many on here - and sadly it's another train one - but has a twist...

I was travelling down from Leeds to London. I was sat in my seat, when at Doncaster an elderly couple get on the train. Came up to where I was sitting, insisted I was in their seat. I wasn't - but seeing as there were plenty of unreserved seats I said I would move...

That wasn't good enough, the gentleman asked his wife to get the ticket inspector and ensure I was kicked off the train. Anyway, she comes back with him and the inspector asks to see my ticket as apparently I didn't have one, was being rude and refusing to move... fine, showed them the ticket which showed surprise surprise I was in the correct seat. Inspector apologises to the elderly couple for the mistake of double booking the seats, and asks to see their ticket... turns out, their ticket was for that seat - but for a later train. Opps.

So, if they had just let me move seats which I generously offered and didn't need to they wouldn't have been stung with an expensive train ticket they were forced to buy.

I wouldn't go as far as saying the rest of the passengers burst out laughing or anything... but they all looked amused and several gave me a knowing nod as I took my rightful seat.

Bizarre! I'm glad you found some seats eventually.

Have remembered another one from quite some years ago when I was a recent graduate. I was on a graduate scheme with a large employer, based in the UK but their head office was in the eastern US. The year's UK intake was told we were all going to a town just outside New York for 10 days for training, flights paid, food paid, accommodation paid. Everything laid on.

We would have a weekend in the middle of the course which was "free" - we still had our (paid for) hotel rooms and food plus soft drinks at the course venue, but were free to leave and do something else if we wished. Me and another girl booked a train to NYC and a hotel room - yes it was expensive but we literally had not paid for a single thing.

One of the cohort from the UK wrote to the HR director asking for pocket money and to cover expenses like hotel laundry, telephone calls back to the UK (this was before mobile phones were common), tickets to see the Empire State Building - honestly, her entitlement was off the scale and she just didn't see why the rest of us were so embarrassed by her behaviour.

I sold something costing £4 and they paid with a fake £20.
I was so cross with myself.
Yesterday the same person tried to buy something worth £1 with a £20 note, 75% sure it was fake as well. So I told them sorry I don’t accept £20 notes as I was given a fake one last week.
She says it was from the cash point, I again said sorry but I would not take £20 notes.
About 30 mins later her older mum had a go at me, i told her no one can force me to accept £20 notes, she stormed off.

You can't tell when talking face to face that they don't know the difference between cue and queue

I think @BeltaLodaLife commented politely and helpfully

Where we walk our dog there is a huge sign at each end of the wood on the gates where you enter saying ALL dogs on leads you just can't miss it. We regularly meet people with off lead dogs out of control dogs we always have our boy in his lead. A couple of years ago two women came along with 4 large boisterous & intimidating dogs off lead and further along another woman with 3 offlead. They had no recall and none of the owners tried to gain control of them as they surrounded us, we've been attacked before by offlead dogs so I was raging. When challenged they tried to say they'd got "special permission to walk there " It's a public footpath not private land, everyone can walk there . So I said the signs don't say all dogs except yours do they, what is it about ALL dogs you don't understand? We haven't seen them again and hope we don't, they are local entitled snooty witches who think they can what they like and to hell with everyone else

If you're in the UK, both of these actions (invasion of your 'quiet enjoyment' and insufficient notice) are completely illegal

One of a number of things that have put retirement in the frame for me was a train passenger last Christmas.
I was feeling very poorly but had managed to find an unreserved seat on my home train. A very last minute passenger got on and asked me to move into the reserved seat by the window. I said no as the passenger could turn up and I'd have no seat. After much tutting and eye rolling she conceded to sit next to the window. For the next hour she pushed her legs into my floor space and typed furiously on her pc. At each stop she wanted to know if I was getting off, I wasn't. We arrived at her stop and by this time I had gone into a spasm. I needed two ladies to help me out of the seat. Her disgust at having to wait two minutes was shocking.
I'm disabled so frequently put up with able bodied people in access seats.
As part of my new boundaries I ask them to move. I also book passenger assist.
Most people move but a few do the 'I paid for a seat blah blah' nonsense.

When looking after my dying mum, after a week of practically 24/7 care, my sister, retired nurse, who popped in about twice said on the Friday, 'so me and BIL are going to a lovely swanky restaurant tonight so I have to leave to get ready'. Then asked me 'Are you doing anything lovely tonight?'. When I told my brother later that evening he said I should have replied that I was being taken out to dinner by Liam Neeson at a posh hotel. He was flabbergasted that she had said that.

They probably thought it was rude to talk across you?
I know how uncomfortable 33 weeks pregnant can feel, but shifting one seat along isn’t as outrageous an ask as you’re implying?
You managed to stand up and get on a train.

Went to a kid's birthday party recently where a young mum of two told me she'd been living in a relative's empty four bed house on reduced rent in a 'naice' area. The relative had decided they wanted to sell the house and given her notice, and she told me the relative was a c**t because now she would have to get a job. She was planning on digging her heels in and making it "very difficult and expensive" for them to get her out. She expected me to agree with her but I was completely flabbergasted that she had that attitude! It's one thing to be disappointed and worried at the situation (very reasonable) but to direct that to your relative that had helped you out massively is another thing 😮

More that I need to extract myself from a situation, but it’s hard! I keep getting cornered into agreeing to things that I don’t want to do and being dominated in a friendship that I want to either end or completely pull back on.

There are two sorts of people in the world, those who can extrapolate from partial information.

I can fully believe that. These people live in totally different worlds. To be able to go home and completely forget the reality of what’s happening to their parent.

To be honest, it still upsets me to think that our Dad had so little care or input from some of my siblings, what he must have thought as he lay there on his own when they didn’t visit him, after giving them all of the love and attention they could have wished for growing up. makes me incredibly sad that he could have had so much more love and care in his last months but they just didn’t bother - out of sight, out of mind!

Still wanted their rightful claim on the estate, though…

Haha! Love this one.

Manager of our local sainsburys ! Treats the shop as if it were his living room. Constantly shouting , regardless of customers, very loud imperatives, and never in English. Could be saying anything… very much a stream of noise pollution and lack of inclusivity. Manspreading all day, every day. He clearly has staff from his hometown and is lording it over them.

Oh that actually reminds me of a woman I used to work with.

She and her husband (and their child) had lived almost rent free in a relatives house for over 10 years while they were abroad. The relative hadn't charged them rent (and hadn't got paying tenants or sold it) to give them the opportunity to save - WWIII broke out when the relative announced they were coming back as the couple had saved nothing. Not even moving costs, let alone a deposit. They were also really miffed at "only" getting 10 months notice of the relative returning.

She should have took her cue 🤣, sorry couldn't resist

I second marked a dissertation and agreed a failing mark with the supervisor. The day of the results coming out the student and his father were in my office insisting that I remark and pass the work. The student was signed up for a PhD programme and needed the pass now to be able to take that place. Dad was more excitable than rude but was determined to get the pass mark. At the end of a long discussion he played his trump card and told me that he was going to send the dissertation to an academic he knew at Cambridge. He was taken aback be my enthusiasm for this idea.
i discovered afterwards that the PhD was to avoid the conscription that his son would otherwise have to do.

And I going to confess to being a CF. About 10 years ago I took a train from Birmingham International to Carlisle. The train was packed when I got on but fortunately I had a booked seat so I found my seat and the person sitting in it moved for me.
The train stopped somewhere north of Preston and a man got on and asked me to move as I was in his seat. I confidently but politely assured him that it was my seat, say D35. He politely pointed to the electronic sign at the end of the carriage which showed that I was now in Carriage A. I guess the carriages were reassigned somewhere along the way. Fortunately it was much quieter on the train and the man decided to leave me to the seat and sat elsewhere. You couldn’t make it up.

I second marked a dissertation and agreed a failing mark with the supervisor. The day of the results coming out the student and his father were in my office insisting that I remark and pass the work. The student was signed up for a PhD programme and needed the pass now to be able to take that place. Dad was more excitable than rude but was determined to get the pass mark. At the end of a long discussion he played his trump card and told me that he was going to send the dissertation to an academic he knew at Cambridge. He was taken aback be my enthusiasm for this idea.
i discovered afterwards that the PhD was to avoid the conscription that his son would otherwise have to do.

And I going to confess to being a CF. About 10 years ago I took a train from Birmingham International to Carlisle. The train was packed when I got on but fortunately I had a booked seat so I found my seat and the person sitting in it moved for me.
The train stopped somewhere north of Preston and a man got on and asked me to move as I was in his seat. I confidently but politely assured him that it was my seat, say D35. He politely pointed to the electronic sign at the end of the carriage which showed that I was now in Carriage A. I guess the carriages were reassigned somewhere along the way. Fortunately it was much quieter on the train and the man decided to leave me to the seat and sat elsewhere. You couldn’t make it up.