DH wants to wear shorts to birthday meal

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I've arranged a big family lunch at a very smart hotel to celebrate DH's Significant Birthday. He's worn shorts every day over the summer (he doesn't work). I said he should wear long trousers but he doesn't see why he should. What do you think?

This will sound very weird, but my dad (71) has great legs! 🤣 He’d wear trousers to a smart hotel though!

I think this is a far stranger response to be fair.

I'm pretty sure the OP would've mentioned cancer.

Comes down to if he has nice legs or not. If his legs are boggin no way, if he has nice legs show em off.

Eh, I was responding to your pretty nasty response of 'it's not like his life is hard'.

Im in no way suggesting he should wear shorts because hes not well in some way.

That was just odd for you to say about a complete stranger, especially when you were saying it in a derogatory way.
I was simply pointing out some of the things people go through that makes life hard. It was you that was making assumptions about this person.

Are you married to a 2 year old???? Pretty sure a grown man can make his own decisions about what to wear.

If this post was from a man saying his wife should wear his choice of dress pretty sure there would be a few choice reactions.

Live and let live. Surely you married him because you like him? If he’s more comfortable in shorts let him be. If the venue doesn’t have a dress code then I don’t see any issue.

OK this is getting skewed. I was not saying anything about OP being poorly in context of him going out to the meal in shorts.
youreactinglikeafunmum said a nasty response along the.lines of he should suck it up its not like his life is hard.

I was pointing out that She knew nothing about his life and could of gone through any of these things.
No one would go up to a stranger and say we'll it's not like your life is hard, it's rude and she had no idea what his life is like.

I wasnt being derogatory, I was saying that its not like hes at work all day and then being hen pecked when hes at home

Hes been in shorts all summer and isnt working. It won't kill him to wear shorts, and all of my comments have been in good humour, and ive had some unfairly harsh ones back, including yours

Linen shirt, chino shorts and deck shoes should be acceptable.

Maybe you don't realise your messages come off rude.
Would you actually go up to a complete strange and tell him to wear them because "it's not like his life is hard?" You wouldn't use that context because you would know that you know nothing about him.

I dont think that in the context of all of my comments, that one line seemed rude

But fine, I could've used a different comment rather than 'its not like his life is hard'.

-Its not like his life seems hard now that hes not working.-

But she didn't say this in the OP - she only added it later.

You're being selfish. It's his birthday, he gets to wear what the fuck he wants, surely. And do what he wants. If my husband told me to cover my legs up in summer at my birthday, I'd tell him to fuck the fuck of!! Who wears long pants in the summer? You sound ridiculous!

Your other comments were: "He should be grateful and stop whinging, honestly".

Also quite nasty.

It just baffles me how differently people speak online to how they would speak to people in real life.

Yes, in the same poat iirc, I lightheartedly said he should stop whinging

I would say that irl, tbh, in the same way i'm using it here - lightheartedly 🤷‍♀️

Its not nasty to say jokingly that someone should stop whinging in relation to something trivial

In the same way we say 'ltb' - It doesn't mean the man is an actual bastard, its a lighthearted mumsnet comment

I think that you are taking a thread about a husband insisting on wearing shorts to heart and being incredibly unfair and weird in targeting me with your upset and your concerns for the man's health

If this was a thread about a serious case of abuse, then it would be nasty. But it isnt. Its about a man wearing shorts.

But there was nothing at all to indicate that you were being jokey or lighthearted 🤷‍♀️

Ugh well you can feel how you feel girl, its no longer anything to do with me 🙄

Responses to lighthearted threads are typically taken in the same vain, I dont know what more to say xx

Edit @CoralOP

Wtf have I just read? please explain why under 50s can wear shorts but over 50s can't.

So fucking what?

Just for the record my DH is in his 60s. Hus legs are long, tanned and lovely, and widely admired by my (younger) female friends.

Take some trousers in the car/bag/nappy bag etc

I thought the opposite: he's an adult so little boys' short pants are no longer acceptable in a formal restaurant.

Lots of nice restaurants won't allow grown men in short pants.

Tell him he'll look like a five year old op.

Well someone is bound to offer to cut up his food if he goes in his short pants. They will probably hand him the children's menu: do you want the nuggets and fries or the pasta shapes?

I think about 14 or 15 is the cut off, not 50.

When the event formal, short pants are a schoolboy look.

I mean Prince George (and I think even Louis) wears long trousers for formal now.

Tbf, if her husband had cancer and she was bothered about what he was wearing, she’d have bloody strange priorities. So unlikely.

😳