Common assumptions some Mumsnetters jump to

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I find that there are certain trigger words that seem to elicit a certain type of response on Mumsnet.

If someone asks about sleep training, many posters assume that the OP is referring to cry it out, with endless posts about sleep training is just 'teaching a baby that nobody will come when they cry'. This is in spite of the many different ways of sleep training, many of which involve the parent staying with the child or very close by.

I've also seen a few times that posters who take an interest in current trends are perceived as simpletons who take all of their existing clothes and burn them on a big pyre, then replace the lot with a massive haul from shien, every year. No concept of adding in new pieces here and there to adapt to your current wardrobe.

Finally I've also noticed the misconception that it takes half an hour to do your make up in the morning, and many posters would rather have that extra 30 minutes in bed. I've seen posters explain time and again that it takes them 5 minutes to put make up on, but the myth that the poster gets up at 5 am to do her make up because it's so time consuming persists.

Just a little musing I thought of recently. Anyone else notice common conclusions you see people jump to on mumsnet? I'm sure gentle parenting is another!

If DH cooks you a dinner or washes your car without being asked to then he is controlling, abusive and you must leave immediately even if you have nowhere to go. Surely friends and family will rally round.

If you can only afford one holiday a year, or only want one holiday a year, then something is seriously wrong.

If you can’t parent perfectly and never make any mistakes then why not give your child to someone who can because there’s a queue of childless parents who given the chance would parent to 100% perfection while being a stay home parent with a full time job.

Especially when a MNer is stuck abroad with a partner or friend who's being an arse.

'Just change your flight OP!' Like most people have a spare £900 in their bank account to get a flight home.

ETA or 'Can't you move to a different hotel?'

Whenever a woman in her 40s does something forgetful, is angry, or fed up with something, it's always put down to perimenopause.

All builders/ trades are lazy workshy cowboys
Any woman who doesn't have a career is basically fucked
Anything you do for grown up kids (especially boys) is setting them up for a lifetime of failure
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My hubby (yes I said hubby ) is a builder,.has been for 30 yrs. Straight up honest hard working man. I've never really worked done all the child care,.cooking cleaning etc. it's worked for us and we've done very well in life. My youngest son has joined the Navy but when he comes home I cook for him,. wake him up with a cup of tea,. do all his washing and generally spoil him rotten. He seems to be perfectly capable of functioning in the big wide world.

Woops didn't notice my mistake! Yes I have so had so many male colleagues who are good friends and it totally innocent. My DH has a few too.

We are all English, live in England and work term time so are really looking forward to the summer holidays.

You’re an alcoholic, your teen is on drugs and your husband is having an affair

That every possible extra expense of a child with a disability should be covered by DLA.

Even if that’s daily taxis to school and back or a full time specialist nanny or whatever the poster has decided the OP should do, ‘that’s what they get DLA for’

YES to this. The magic ever-stretchable elastic that is £73.90 a week (in our case).

That as soon as a child reaches 12 they should be ‘doing their own packing’ for any holiday they go on.

2 week holiday ‘surely a teenager would be doing their own packing’. Well no, because each suitcase should have a mix of everyone’s clothes in case of lost suitcases, teenagers lob clothes in and don’t pack properly and it’s fucking easier to pack for them.

Assumptions on MN? That everyone holidays abroad all the time.

I don't think you need to mix up suitcases if you're going to Bognor or Scarborough 😂

That all teens, especially girls, are bound to be a nightmare.

No no, the losing of suitcases is just a side note. I still pack for my son whether we’re going to the Bahamas or Bridlington. Still quicker, still easier regardless of where you’re going.

Ah it may be quicker and easier for you but it's not preparing him for the future. Mine have genuinely been packing their own since primary school but with lots of support in the beginning. And a list written by me! I don't want to spend my holiday rushing out to get them undies and a toothbrush 😂

If you cook a chicken it can last for weeks when the reality is after 2or 3 meals it is all gone.

If you prefer to discuss directly with your MIL then you won't be asking for advice on here I guess?

How is it wasteful? DP, DS and I all have your own laundry baskets. When mine gets full I wash it along with whatever's in DS's. DP does the same. We never run a less than full load. I haven't separated colours since the Gordon Brown administration.

We have a lot of white and light coloured stuff, and washing them with dark colours makes them look dingy. So, I separate my whites.

What I refer to isn't so much an OP, but rather responders who seem to believe that because it's the partner's mother, then he should always deal with it, even if it's something the OP would normally address herself. It seems to be a very MN response, that I don't encounter irl.

Huge anti-man sentiment from some to the point that, any small transgression, means he is a coercive abuser and the woman must find an exit plan, immediately.

It's quite alarming.

That sex is something a woman gives to a man.

thats a very accurate assumption and it's users of porn who are in denial.

The relationship issues described on MN are far from small misdemeanours. The men described are absolute Neanderthals