Am I "tiny"?

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I'm not. I've always thiigh of mysefl as a normal healthy build. In a world where a majority are over weight , I'm not that, but I don't think I'm exceptionally thin either.

I've just been for my NHS health check. A bit of a waste of time really, but I hadn't had my cholesterol checked for a while, so I went when I was invited.

I was weight and measured. 5'7", 10st1 in my clothes and 75cm waist. At both my weight and my waist the HCA explained "ooh you're tiny".

What an odd comment!

You sound completely normal and mid size to me.

People are really weird. I did a rope course thing at Center Parcs recently and you have the be weighed and the (youngish guy) running it said I was "as light as a feather" I think it was meant to be kind but it made me feel all sorts of weird. I don't like seeing my weight but it was 8 stone 11.

I got weighed by the anaesthetist when I was being taken down for my C section and got told “Well done! You stayed slim” for weighing 71kg at 5’5” and 9 months pregnant. My pregnancy body type was my usual size 10/12 body with a big beach ball bump. But that wasn’t down to virtue or being clever or good. I felt uncomfortable being congratulated like that but have never put my finger on why.

My x boss was always tell my I was ‘tiny’. I’m not /she was fat!

I have a lower BMI than you and no one has ever called me tiny!

Nobody would have pleased me by commenting on my weight at the end of pregnancy, as I’d spent most of it with my head down a toilet bowl.

It's a turn of phrase.
I've been called tiny hundreds of times. You're slim, people will point it out from time to time. Even health professionals.

They get so use to seeing overweight people that when someone rocks up with a normal bmi, they class it as tiny.

I had the same with a recent hospital stay when they had to get a smaller cuff to take my blood pressure as the one they had for every other patient on the ward was too big. I was called tiny often - bmi 21.

And I had a similar experience at a growth scan... the sonographer mentioned how my DD was measuring small, 'but that would be expected' as myself and DH 'are small'.

The vast majority of the HCPs I’ve been seen by recently have been significantly overweight.

You sound quite large to me. I'm 6"2, with an 18" waist, and weigh 6 stone, and I consider myself somewhat galumphing. Have you considered eating less and moving more?

😂

Another time this happened was at a salsa dance club and I danced with a man whose usual partner was a larger woman. He put his hands on my very normal size 10 waist and went U R TINY!! It was just in comparison.

I think they were trying to make a compliment.

Maybe you're slim, underweight? Maybe you're a healthy weight? Maybe the nurse just says that to everyone?

As long as you and your kid are healthy that's all that matters. And being 'tiny' isn't the be all and end all.

In fact it can seem misogynistic to imply women should be small, weak, fragile, 'tiny', in need of men's protection and about to get hysterical. They all roll into they same thing of subordinate.

Surely she was just trying to make a bit of pleasantly flattering smalltalk. Loads of women like to be told they are slim (which is obvs what she meant) and loads of women want to tell other people what they think the person wants to hear. I'd be chuffed. I'm like Bridget Jones - a sucker for anyone who says I've lost weight etc

I think you said a Mumsnet trigger word. Just nod and back out of the room.

I’m sure HCP was trying to be nice !
most people feel somewhat uncomfortable being weighed in public, it’s quite a personal thing
shes probably seen most people who are overweight as that where society is these days - overweight is the norm, so
at a healthy BMI that is comparably tiny !!

You’re the exact same height and weight as me - bmi 22 so in the middle of the healthy range. No it’s not tiny is it, it’s a healthy weight. I’ve just measured my waist and it’s 70cm so by your hcp’s yardstick I’m minuscule.

it’s concerning isn’t it - perfectly normal weight with visible meat on my bones (assume you look broadly the same) and because c.60 % of the population is overweight or obese the healthy weight people become worthy of comment.

i have a friend who is actually underweight and tiny at bmi 19 or so and she gets an absolute barrage of comments day in, day out. Naturally she never responds about how overweight the commenter is!

You have a BMI of 22 which is in the middle of the healthy range, so you are slim but not excessively thin.

It might be that you have quite a narrow frame so you look smaller than someone with a broad or rangy frame would do at that BMI.

Whatever, you are nicely within the healthy weight range at either end, so don't give the comment any more thought.

Compared to what? Is she a teensy weensy bit bigger than tiny?

On what plant is that tiny?

I’m 5’8.5 and 9 stone 6. I’ve never been called tiny in my life and I used to weigh a lot less until about 10 years ago.

I'm a bit taller than you but if I drop under 10st people ask me if I'm ok, my dad has actually pulled me aside and asked if I'm eating properly, I am plenty! But I have a very straight up and down figure not much of a backside and pretty flat chested and quite broad shoulders so I start looking boney especially around the collarbone . I was in the middle of healthy BMI when I had my wedding dress alterations and the seamstress told me my waist was tiny, it wasn't I was a size 10 , but I guess she compared to my height

A BMI of 19 is not underweight!

My DB and SIL were told this but my DB is 5'6 and SIL is 5'1 my older niece is the smallest one in her school class by a long way.

All of my family are short except me, I'm taller than all of my biological male relatives and I'm only somewhere between 5'9 and 5'10 , DH is 6'4 and therefore a veritable giant at my family gatherings

I love how everyone states that most women are now overweight or obese yet everyone commenting is obviously smaller or the same size as the op ( at a normal bmi) and are positively not tiny with meat on their bones🙄

Well op if you felt good after the tiny comment i bet the mumsnet ‘we’ve lost sight of what a normal weight is’ brigade have beaten it out of you 😂

So predictable.