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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 23:49

cosimarama · 24/07/2025 23:48

Can we see the pics of them from your doorcam. You can blur out faces

What's the point of showing the pictures then?

whitewineandsun · 24/07/2025 23:49

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 23:48

I was thinking Anne Reid and Derek Jacobi as the OP and her husband.

Olivia Colman as the unapproachable wife?

RigIt · 24/07/2025 23:51

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

Is it? I’ve had the same number since the late 90s when I first got a mobile. Just ported the number every time I moved provider. My ex has done the same (we got mobiles at the same time and he still has the same number). I’ve known my DH since the 99/00 and he’s always had the same number. In fact I can only think of one close friend who has changed their number in that time and that was early on. I do think porting came in the noughties at some point, and I do recall there used to be more people who sent out “changed my number” texts in the early days, but if you didn’t change your provider in the non-port period your number would just stay the same surely. In my experience that’s the norm, and it’s more unusual to change it.

SadAboutSD · 24/07/2025 23:51

What's with the Sally and Tim reference? Is it a Coronation Street thing?

Also, maybe the reason they ignored OP and her family is because ... they couldn't actually see them <cue spooky music> because they're not really there 👻

TheFinePrintess · 24/07/2025 23:51

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 23:49

What's the point of showing the pictures then?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 pissed myself!

NellitheNelephant · 24/07/2025 23:52

murasaki · 24/07/2025 23:49

I was thinking Anna Maxwell Martin and Toby Jones.

Ooh, I would definitely watch that. Who would play the imposters? I'm thinking David Walliams as the imposter husband and Matt Lucas as the imposter wife. They could both also double and play the kids.

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 23:53

murasaki · 24/07/2025 23:49

I was thinking Anna Maxwell Martin and Toby Jones.

They could be the other couple. With Emma Watson and Ralph Little as the young couple.

FightingTemeraire · 24/07/2025 23:54

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 24/07/2025 22:37

They weren't called Sally and Tim by any chance?

😀

FightingTemeraire · 24/07/2025 23:54

SadAboutSD · 24/07/2025 23:51

What's with the Sally and Tim reference? Is it a Coronation Street thing?

Also, maybe the reason they ignored OP and her family is because ... they couldn't actually see them <cue spooky music> because they're not really there 👻

No, the ‘homeless’ couple from The Salt Path.

NellitheNelephant · 24/07/2025 23:55

FightingTemeraire · 24/07/2025 23:54

No, the ‘homeless’ couple from The Salt Path.

that is funny!

Gabitule · 24/07/2025 23:56

This reminds me of what happened to me some years ago.

I was living with my boyfriend and my best friend in a 1 bedroom flat. From the bedroom you had to go through the living room to get to the kitchen, so not much privacy.

I was a student and also working in a bar doing shifts. One of my former work colleagues was a young girl of similar age. We’d only meet each-other when we changed shifts so I wouldn’t say that we were friends.

One year my best friend and I went back to our parents’ home for the summer holiday. My boyfriend remained at home. While we were gone, apparently my former work colleague turned up at the door saying that she had been kicked out by her boyfriend and could she stay the night? My boyfriend has a heart of gold so he agreed. Obviously the girl did not leave the following day as she had nowhere to go….As far as I remember, she was working part time at the time but didn’t earn enough to rent somewhere.
Over the following days her mother and dog kept visiting. It turns out the mother and dog also lived with the girl’s ex bf and had also been kicked out. They stayed with some acquaintance for a few nights but could not continue living there. My boyfriend also invited the unemployed mother and dog to stay.

Some days/ weeks later when my best friend and I returned home we found ourselves sharing our 1 bed flat with the girl, her mother and their dog. You can’t imagine how difficult it was to get rid of them… After trying all sort of things one night my boyfriend completely lost it and kicked them out. I have no idea where they slept that night and on subsequent and I do feel a bit sorry for them but omg, they were like leeches, constantly trying to take advantage, going through our things, lying. After they left we found multiple bottles of alcohol under their bed (where did they found the money for it?) and my best friend and I realised that the girl had given us lice, which explained why she was always scratching her head!
The moral of the story is that men are a bit idiotic :)

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 24/07/2025 23:57

WTF?!

Assssofspades · 24/07/2025 23:57

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

My DM has had the same one since her first mobile phone in 1999, now that's unusual!

murasaki · 24/07/2025 23:59

NellitheNelephant · 24/07/2025 23:52

Ooh, I would definitely watch that. Who would play the imposters? I'm thinking David Walliams as the imposter husband and Matt Lucas as the imposter wife. They could both also double and play the kids.

Edited

Hugh Dennis and Tilda Swinton

Globules · 25/07/2025 00:00

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

I've had the same mobile number for 25 years. As has XH.

I reconnected with a long lost friend last month. Turns out I still had her phone number in my contacts from 2004.

Not unusual at all ime

Bigminnie1 · 25/07/2025 00:01

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

Not really- I have had the same number since I got my first mobile phone in about 1998 and my DH has had the same number since 2000. In fact, thinking about it , all my friends have had the same number forever.

DBSFstupid · 25/07/2025 00:02

doodleschnoodle · 24/07/2025 22:39

I am HERE for this thread.

😂

Christmasbear1 · 25/07/2025 00:03

How did they know you lived by the coast?

DBSFstupid · 25/07/2025 00:04

PreciousTatas · 24/07/2025 22:42

If my DH had attempted that, both he and the unwanted guests would have had to find somewhere to stay immediately.

😂

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 00:05

NellitheNelephant · 24/07/2025 23:52

Ooh, I would definitely watch that. Who would play the imposters? I'm thinking David Walliams as the imposter husband and Matt Lucas as the imposter wife. They could both also double and play the kids.

Edited

That's a great suggestion. Especially if Matt Lucas reprises Vicky Pollard.

murasaki · 25/07/2025 00:05

Actually Monica Dolan would make a good imposter wife.

NellitheNelephant · 25/07/2025 00:07

murasaki · 25/07/2025 00:05

Actually Monica Dolan would make a good imposter wife.

She would also be great as the "good" wife aka OP.

DBSFstupid · 25/07/2025 00:07

AnotherDayInParadise43 · 24/07/2025 22:44

WTF am I reading

😂

Come on MNHQ. Bring back the😂Pleeeeease...

NellitheNelephant · 25/07/2025 00:08

If this really was a Netflix drama what do we think is really going on?

I am wondering if this could be yet another new adaptation of The Talented Mr Ripley. Only in this version he also has a psychopathic wife and kids.

Redheadedstepchild · 25/07/2025 00:09

I'm sticking to the foreign spies/shapeshifting aliens theory. Do you live near any military bases? Did your DH work for a company that handled information that could be important to our national security? Any strange lights in the sky lately?

Did you drink any of the wine or eat any of the chocolate or partake of the especially suspicious strawberries?

If anything was going to be poisoned the strawberries would be my bet. Half a punnet. Tampered with.