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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

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Moveoverdarlin · 24/07/2025 23:26

I just can’t get my head around this. Even if an old colleague I COULD remember turned up in these circumstances I think I’d say ‘Oh god, sorry, we’ve not really got the space and I’m up to my eyes with stress at work, you won’t want to stay here, it’s a mad house, let me book you a local B&B’. They say ‘We haven’t budgeted for that?’ I say ‘Oh dear, I’d get on to the landlord you rented the air bnb from, that’s your best bet, all the best then, cheerio!

SheridansPortSalut · 24/07/2025 23:26

Have you tried searching social media accounts under their names?

HagsterWheel · 24/07/2025 23:27

Well I’m thoroughly convinced.

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 23:28

Mayflower282 · 24/07/2025 23:15

Do you think they were homeless and are sofa surfing everyone and anyone they can?

It's odd you should say that. On day two I went into work and told a colleague what was going on and she said she wondered if they'd been made homeless — but they were travelling with the son's girlfriend. (19 and 20 yo) and that didn't make sense to me. I tried to speak to the wife alone because she seemed particularly unwilling to engage and I wondered whether she was in trouble, being coerced. Couldn't connect with her. Possibly they were just travelling around, looking for anywhere to stay. It would explain the mood.

Going to bed now. I'll get DH to change the locks at the weekend just to be on the safe side, though.

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Globules · 24/07/2025 23:28

Did they share their half punnet of strawberries?

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 24/07/2025 23:30

These days you can scan documents like that with your phone and pdf them and these are accepted by (for example) pension companies.

Even if he genuinely met your DH back in the day... it sounds like they did a bit of research to track you down.

They could pick up notifications etc from an ipad that's been left lying around

I think you should check with your bank etc.

Unless of course they were starring in one of those Hunters programmes and they wanted to throw them off the scent.

KittenyChops · 24/07/2025 23:31

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Profhilodisaster · 24/07/2025 23:31

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 23:12

DP has stayed in touch with a couple of other colleagues who he worked with on a daily basis and they know we moved, though neither of them have visited us here. That may well be the missing link.

And no, to whoever asked whether they provided food and drink or money to cover their costs. They arrived with a bottle of rose wine, a pack of Aldi chocolate and a half-full punnet of strawberries.

If you think the link is other work colleagues, does this mean that weird man called them to tell them about the leak and they then told him that you lived in the area? How else would they know where you lived?

Why on earth didn't they just go home, especially as they sat indoors and didn't do holiday stuff.

AiryFairyLights · 24/07/2025 23:34

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 23:28

It's odd you should say that. On day two I went into work and told a colleague what was going on and she said she wondered if they'd been made homeless — but they were travelling with the son's girlfriend. (19 and 20 yo) and that didn't make sense to me. I tried to speak to the wife alone because she seemed particularly unwilling to engage and I wondered whether she was in trouble, being coerced. Couldn't connect with her. Possibly they were just travelling around, looking for anywhere to stay. It would explain the mood.

Going to bed now. I'll get DH to change the locks at the weekend just to be on the safe side, though.

Thankfully you’re going to change the locks - very weird but you’ll probably never know unless an old colleague of your husband lets on he gave them his number etc!!
I hope your hubby never does this again or I’d be kicking him out the door too 😂

NellitheNelephant · 24/07/2025 23:36

cobrakaieaglefang · 24/07/2025 22:33

That's weird!! 😲

And creepy!

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 24/07/2025 23:36

ALPS100 · 24/07/2025 23:22

Can your DH send the pics you have of them to his ex-colleagues to see if they recognise him?

Intriguing

It isnt the same but Ex-H and I had regular postcards sent to us from "Brian and Mary" for years, even included our kids names. We have NEVER met a Brian and Mary, and only lived at that address for a few years so they must've met us around that time. We never found out who they were, but it was hilarious keep getting these cards from their holidays! Total mystery 😁

Isn’t that a long running Mumsnet Christmas thing? 😆

KaleQueen · 24/07/2025 23:37

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Charliecatpaws · 24/07/2025 23:40

OMG have you checked if any of your valuables are missing ? What a strange situation

Redheadedstepchild · 24/07/2025 23:41

I have two theories:

1.) They were agents of a foreign intelligence service, seeking to quietly bump you off and assume the identities of you, your husband and children.

The plot failed when it was found that your kids were no longer living at home, making the operation too complicated. They gave themselves away by their bizarre gifts. No true born English couple would dare to offer their hosts a half eaten punnet of strawberries.

  1. Very well disguised Extra Terrestrials with more or less the same mission. Again, the inappropriate presents gave them away.

In either case, their somewhat surly demeanour throughout their stay points to them being uncomfortable with our culture and not wanting to blow their cover.

Can you remember all of their visit, or are some periods a blank? Do you feel as if you may have been hypnotised or put under some kind of mind control at any point?

TheFinePrintess · 24/07/2025 23:43

ITV drama, cast consists of:
Jill Halfpenny as OP
Mark Addy as the DH
David Threlfall as the imposter dad!

Redheadedstepchild · 24/07/2025 23:43

*2.

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

healthybychristmas · 24/07/2025 23:45

But what would've been the point in them staying with you rather than going home?

mindingmyown37 · 24/07/2025 23:47

This is how horror movies start 😂

cosimarama · 24/07/2025 23:48

Can we see the pics of them from your doorcam. You can blur out faces

murasaki · 24/07/2025 23:48

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

I've had mine longer than that, just had it swapped over when I changed providers.

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 23:48

TheFinePrintess · 24/07/2025 23:43

ITV drama, cast consists of:
Jill Halfpenny as OP
Mark Addy as the DH
David Threlfall as the imposter dad!

Edited

I was thinking Anne Reid and Derek Jacobi as the OP and her husband.

SixtySomething · 24/07/2025 23:49

I think a lot of us are struggling to empathise with OP. Theres something about this post that doesn't seem quite right ...

murasaki · 24/07/2025 23:49

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 23:48

I was thinking Anne Reid and Derek Jacobi as the OP and her husband.

I was thinking Anna Maxwell Martin and Toby Jones.

TheFinePrintess · 24/07/2025 23:49

Are you sure they all left? There could be one still living in your loft, coming down at night to wee and make a brew… there’s a name for it but can’t remember off the top of my head, squirrelling? Potholing? I dunno something like that