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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 23:09

Have they taken over your allotment?

SeashellDREAMS · 24/07/2025 23:10

Almost too weird to be real...hmmm?🤨

HyggeTygge · 24/07/2025 23:12

Have you looked up the actual colleague on facebook/ linkedin to see if there are any connections (or even if it is him)?

And as others have asked, how did they know you'd moved to the area you're now in?!

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 23:12

Plinketyplonks · 24/07/2025 22:52

But…if your husband hasn’t seen this guy since the 2000s and they’ve never been in touch since how on earth did he know you’d been to the coast?

did the caravan/chalet park they said they were in exist and was it raining the night they said it was?

DP has stayed in touch with a couple of other colleagues who he worked with on a daily basis and they know we moved, though neither of them have visited us here. That may well be the missing link.

And no, to whoever asked whether they provided food and drink or money to cover their costs. They arrived with a bottle of rose wine, a pack of Aldi chocolate and a half-full punnet of strawberries.

OP posts:
whitewineandsun · 24/07/2025 23:12

This is like something out of a Jordan Peele film.

Your husband is weird for inviting strangers into your house in the first place. I would be very unimpressed.

Happyhandbag56 · 24/07/2025 23:13

OP, you have not written this post then in only 19 minutes decided you aren’t going to dig for more info?!

Where’s the poster who got all those cryptic messages about her DH having an affair a few weeks back? The one that turned out to be her DH’s ex gf from way back? She will definitely help you solve this!

tobee · 24/07/2025 23:13

MandyMotherOfBrian · 24/07/2025 23:06

He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL

Or, alternatively, was the guy in pyjamas and a dressing gown? Statto! Statto!

lol

herbalteabag · 24/07/2025 23:14

How did they know where you were? Did you publish it on social media for everyone to see? Does your DH and this man have mutual contacts still and someone told him that you'd moved there?
Didn't your DH recognise him at all? I see people from way back sometimes, and I still recognise them even if they've changed a lot. Sometimes I recognise a face but can't place who it is or where I knew them from, but I still know I've seen them before.
Is this a real story or a book plot? It could make an intriguing mystery!

outerspacepotato · 24/07/2025 23:15

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 22:42

I hope the woman didn't borrow your Dyson hairdryer.

🤣

Mayflower282 · 24/07/2025 23:15

Do you think they were homeless and are sofa surfing everyone and anyone they can?

deltapanda · 24/07/2025 23:16

Good Lord. That sounds like an episode of Inside No 9!

MascaraGirl · 24/07/2025 23:16

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Definitely! Not convinced this is genuine though?

Endofyear · 24/07/2025 23:17

So many questions!!! How did they know you & DH were living there if he hasn't been in contact with his old colleague for so long? How did he have your DHs phone number if they barely knew each other? And most of all, why didn't you just say absolutely no way to them staying? I'd have been absolutely furious with DH and probably taken myself off to a hotel until he got rid of them!

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 24/07/2025 23:17

They might be after your credit. Have you checked that they haven't been through your filing cabinet for birth certificates/passports/ private pension details.. or just bills with your name and address on like council tax ... documents which they could use to open accounts with? I think you can have post redirected with documents like that.
Maybe check out some of those identity theft websites for advice.

Sweetbeansandmochi · 24/07/2025 23:17

To ring up a colleague from 20 odd years ago and ask to be put up on the spur of the moment, just on their own, would have been cheeky fuckery. He has taken it to the peak…

Your husband needs to apologise to you a lot.

whitewineandsun · 24/07/2025 23:18

Is this a real story or a book plot? It could make an intriguing mystery!

If it's a manuscript, make the partner/husband less wet. He's more annoying than believable.

PandoraSocks · 24/07/2025 23:19

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 24/07/2025 22:37

They weren't called Sally and Tim by any chance?

I thought that too!🤣

Portakalkedi · 24/07/2025 23:19

What kind of idiot would allow this FFS? Someone in a genuine emergency situation would either go home or use their credit card to pay for alternative accommodation.

Catsandcannedbeans · 24/07/2025 23:22

If my husband did this I think I’d divorce him… being that much of a push over is a nuclear level ick.

MeatRaffleRita · 24/07/2025 23:22

Whoever they were they were cheeky cheeky cheeky fuckers.

How can people be so totally shameless?

ALPS100 · 24/07/2025 23:22

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 23:12

DP has stayed in touch with a couple of other colleagues who he worked with on a daily basis and they know we moved, though neither of them have visited us here. That may well be the missing link.

And no, to whoever asked whether they provided food and drink or money to cover their costs. They arrived with a bottle of rose wine, a pack of Aldi chocolate and a half-full punnet of strawberries.

Can your DH send the pics you have of them to his ex-colleagues to see if they recognise him?

Intriguing

It isnt the same but Ex-H and I had regular postcards sent to us from "Brian and Mary" for years, even included our kids names. We have NEVER met a Brian and Mary, and only lived at that address for a few years so they must've met us around that time. We never found out who they were, but it was hilarious keep getting these cards from their holidays! Total mystery 😁

MsMiniver · 24/07/2025 23:23

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 24/07/2025 23:17

They might be after your credit. Have you checked that they haven't been through your filing cabinet for birth certificates/passports/ private pension details.. or just bills with your name and address on like council tax ... documents which they could use to open accounts with? I think you can have post redirected with documents like that.
Maybe check out some of those identity theft websites for advice.

I would be worried about this too. They could be con artists. Incredibly brazen, effective ones.

24Dogcuddler · 24/07/2025 23:25

It’s like the bit in National Lampoon’s European Vacation. The whole family stay with someone they think is a relative. Poor old couple have no clue who they are but entertain them anyway. There’s a language barrier. They only stay one night though.
All so bizarre!

Doseofreality · 24/07/2025 23:25

Bleach all your beakers incase one of the imposter males used them as penis beakers.

ZoggyStirdust · 24/07/2025 23:26

Struggling to believe this is real tbh