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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
mycatismyworld · 25/07/2025 00:11

SadAboutSD · 24/07/2025 23:51

What's with the Sally and Tim reference? Is it a Coronation Street thing?

Also, maybe the reason they ignored OP and her family is because ... they couldn't actually see them <cue spooky music> because they're not really there 👻

It's the Salt Path saga...Raynor and Moth are really called Sally and Tim Walker

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 00:12

NellitheNelephant · 25/07/2025 00:08

If this really was a Netflix drama what do we think is really going on?

I am wondering if this could be yet another new adaptation of The Talented Mr Ripley. Only in this version he also has a psychopathic wife and kids.

Aliens. Aldi chocolate is prized beyond this solar system.

DBSFstupid · 25/07/2025 00:14

TheRoundestRobin · 24/07/2025 22:48

I'm just here for the "this thread is causing problems for the OP IRL so we've taken it down" deletion message...

😂

Whycantyouwhisper · 25/07/2025 00:14

The colleagues DH is still in touch with seem to be the ones who could help? They’d recognise a photo, could have passed his number on?

murasaki · 25/07/2025 00:16

Maybe they've set up a number of very discreet cameras and are now monetising a YouTube channel of your family life. Bedroom and bathroom included. 🤣

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 00:17

HyggeTygge · 24/07/2025 23:08

Did they leave the milk out and put specks of blood on the toilet cistern?
Did you find a random painting under your bed?
Has your ironing board disappeared?!

I want to know if they were given buttered radishes!!!!!!

ZoomingSusan · 25/07/2025 00:17

Assssofspades · 24/07/2025 23:57

My DM has had the same one since her first mobile phone in 1999, now that's unusual!

Me too! I've had 3 different mobile phones since then but kept the number.
I'm probably the same age as your DM.

placemats · 25/07/2025 00:20

How many toilets and bathrooms do you have? That's my first thought.

murasaki · 25/07/2025 00:21

Did they actually leave or are they in the loft and sneaking down at night?

Minniliscious · 25/07/2025 00:21

Ahh yes I’ve seen that film

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 00:22

Also, I’m sure I’ve read a book very similar to this… cannot remember its name though!!

placemats · 25/07/2025 00:26

Please don't delete this thread. It's brilliant 😂

LardoBurrows · 25/07/2025 00:28

Honestly, your husband sounds like a right bungalow.

murasaki · 25/07/2025 00:29

LardoBurrows · 25/07/2025 00:28

Honestly, your husband sounds like a right bungalow.

I'm so nicking this phrase.

NellitheNelephant · 25/07/2025 00:29

TheFinePrintess · 24/07/2025 23:49

Are you sure they all left? There could be one still living in your loft, coming down at night to wee and make a brew… there’s a name for it but can’t remember off the top of my head, squirrelling? Potholing? I dunno something like that

Cuckooing.

NellitheNelephant · 25/07/2025 00:32

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

If so ChatGPT is having a laugh at our expense - especially the detail of the rose wine, Aldi chocolate and half eaten punnet of strawberries.

ShallIstart · 25/07/2025 00:32

Its really weird that theh would have your bumber and remember where you live ten years later.
There is absolutely not a chance in hell that if my holiday accomodation wasnt suitable that I would find a random colleague I worked with ten years ago, and turn up on their doorstep and expect to stay. In fact hell would freeze over before i did this. I just would never. It is so odd. I dont even turn up at family members houses like that.

Southern25 · 25/07/2025 00:35

Op this could honestly be made into a book or a tv drama!

cyvguhb · 25/07/2025 00:35

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

Is it? I can't think of anyone I know that has even given me a new mobile number. Obviously I can't speak for everyone I've ever called but familya and general friends circle no one ever has.

I've only ever had one number, that's not unusual to me at all

Delphiniumandlupins · 25/07/2025 00:36

It's very odd that your DH didn't realise that the man was a stranger and why would the imposter assume that he would get away with this? Your DH could have a brilliant memory for faces, or kept lots of old photos, or simply remembered what his colleague looked like.

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 25/07/2025 00:37

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

I have had the same mobile phone number since my very first brick of a phone in 1998.

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 25/07/2025 00:37

LardoBurrows · 25/07/2025 00:28

Honestly, your husband sounds like a right bungalow.

This is comment of the year!!! Never in a million years would I think of this…. Miles better than my current usage of “sausage” or “plantpot!” Yep, when anyone is doing something daft from now on they shall hereby be known as “a bungalow!” 😂😂😂😂

whitewineandsun · 25/07/2025 00:38

LardoBurrows · 25/07/2025 00:28

Honestly, your husband sounds like a right bungalow.

We really need the laugh emoji back.

Personperson · 25/07/2025 00:39

You let them stay for 3 days? More fool you.

placemats · 25/07/2025 00:39

ShallIstart · 25/07/2025 00:32

Its really weird that theh would have your bumber and remember where you live ten years later.
There is absolutely not a chance in hell that if my holiday accomodation wasnt suitable that I would find a random colleague I worked with ten years ago, and turn up on their doorstep and expect to stay. In fact hell would freeze over before i did this. I just would never. It is so odd. I dont even turn up at family members houses like that.

Howling at bumber😂😂

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