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Need to take my own food to a wedding-WWYD?

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TheVeronicas · 23/07/2025 00:22

I am a last minute plus one.
I don't eat meat or dairy (not really the issue however).
It's a buffet.
Since I was about 6 or 7 years old I have really hated eating in front of people (largely due to being a fat child but that's by the by).
So;
Likely very little on this buffet I can eat.
I probably will not feel able to go UP to the buffet as they're my nemesis, maybe later on when nothing's left and most people haev had enough to drink but... they make me incredibly anxious

So I am going to take a large-enough handbag and find somewhere to sneak off to. I am plus one for the Maid of Honour so I am there from morning until whenever stupid o' clock time she can escape!

I have thought to cook some vegetarian 'sausage' rolls and put them in a sandwich bag?
Crisps
Flapjacks
Any tricks I am missing?
In fairness, MOH is my new partner of 6 ish weeks and she knows about my afflictions and has said she'll go up to the buffet for me but this doesn't solve the issue of probably not being anything much I will eat.
She'll be busy on the morning so will be leaving me (staying the night before) with her family-if I were going alone I would have just eaten a hearty breakfast/brunch and likely not had much of a problem but not an option unfortunaly!

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ClaredeBear · 28/07/2025 22:27

Ah, I see I’m a bit late. I’m so glad it went well.

TheVeronicas · 28/07/2025 23:59

ClaredeBear · 28/07/2025 22:27

Ah, I see I’m a bit late. I’m so glad it went well.

I appreciate all replies. I did well with this one, absolutely fine. Will be employing the same tactic in future!
The last wedding I went to was a formal 'sit down' meal but, those were my friends, partner at the time sitting next to me, I was more comfortable there. It was a combination of being 'new' to everyone and finding it quite daunting plus not feeling able to go up to a buffet that all added up. I am very glad I went, it was a fabulous day and my new DP was fantastic with me despite having other duties. I am on a bit of a high from it all still if I am honest!

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Lifealwaysgetsbetter · 29/12/2025 22:03

TheVeronicas · 23/07/2025 00:22

I am a last minute plus one.
I don't eat meat or dairy (not really the issue however).
It's a buffet.
Since I was about 6 or 7 years old I have really hated eating in front of people (largely due to being a fat child but that's by the by).
So;
Likely very little on this buffet I can eat.
I probably will not feel able to go UP to the buffet as they're my nemesis, maybe later on when nothing's left and most people haev had enough to drink but... they make me incredibly anxious

So I am going to take a large-enough handbag and find somewhere to sneak off to. I am plus one for the Maid of Honour so I am there from morning until whenever stupid o' clock time she can escape!

I have thought to cook some vegetarian 'sausage' rolls and put them in a sandwich bag?
Crisps
Flapjacks
Any tricks I am missing?
In fairness, MOH is my new partner of 6 ish weeks and she knows about my afflictions and has said she'll go up to the buffet for me but this doesn't solve the issue of probably not being anything much I will eat.
She'll be busy on the morning so will be leaving me (staying the night before) with her family-if I were going alone I would have just eaten a hearty breakfast/brunch and likely not had much of a problem but not an option unfortunaly!

Edited as the wedding has passed- doh!

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TheVeronicas · 30/12/2025 11:20

Lifealwaysgetsbetter · 29/12/2025 22:03

Edited as the wedding has passed- doh!

Edited

Aw I'd more or less forgotten about this thread. Still down as a very good memory although it did transpire that my 'new DP' whose sister's wedding it were, only really wanted me for this one thing. She finished with me not long afterward.

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