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MN double standards

53 replies

Takesomepie · 15/07/2025 12:45

Ive been on MN for years and its getting worse with the bulling.
The double standards on MN are ridiculous.
Just because you are a woman it dont make you right all the time.

There ive said it.

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2dogsandabudgie · 15/07/2025 12:46

Have some schools broken up for Summer already!

RepoTheGeriatricOpera · 15/07/2025 12:48

So brave op.

Follow your truth.

Takesomepie · 15/07/2025 12:48

2dogsandabudgie · 15/07/2025 12:46

Have some schools broken up for Summer already!

Point being proven already.

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Takesomepie · 15/07/2025 12:48

RepoTheGeriatricOpera · 15/07/2025 12:48

So brave op.

Follow your truth.

Not brave but see it all the time.

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dearymy · 15/07/2025 12:49

Arguing with mummy?

CherryYellowCouch · 15/07/2025 12:50

Takesomepie · 15/07/2025 12:45

Ive been on MN for years and its getting worse with the bulling.
The double standards on MN are ridiculous.
Just because you are a woman it dont make you right all the time.

There ive said it.

People have been making those kind of claims for the entire time I’ve been on MN (nearly 20 years).

If the site doesn’t work for you, give yourself permission to leave.

Or hide AIBU, Chat etc and just use specific boards for your interests which are gentler.

MN isn’t compulsory. There are other chat fora available.

Takesomepie · 15/07/2025 12:50

dearymy · 15/07/2025 12:49

Arguing with mummy?

My mothers dead so no.

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CurlewKate · 15/07/2025 12:51

Takesomepie · 15/07/2025 12:45

Ive been on MN for years and its getting worse with the bulling.
The double standards on MN are ridiculous.
Just because you are a woman it dont make you right all the time.

There ive said it.

As is frequently said. By women! In fact, I reckon men get a much easier ride on here than women. I frequently find myself chewing the carpet about it.

2dogsandabudgie · 15/07/2025 12:52

Takesomepie · 15/07/2025 12:48

Point being proven already.

I thought it was a valid question.

starcloud · 15/07/2025 12:55

MN is a plate of sad sprinkled with sad.
If he cheats kick him out if she cheats shut your mouth.
If you spell something wrong in come the wannabe teachers to tell us off.
If your child or you is a twat lets blame SEN.

Shenmen · 15/07/2025 12:55

2dogsandabudgie · 15/07/2025 12:52

I thought it was a valid question.

No you didn't. It was a nobbish question. The first couple of responses over recent years on AIBU is always by someone wanting to be a bit of a cunt. They hang around desperate to be the first poster. So obvious to spot having been here for 20 years.

arethereanyleftatall · 15/07/2025 12:57

Been on here for decades, never noticed double standards. There is occasionally bonkers references of comparison to completely different situations though.

SriouslyWhutNow · 15/07/2025 12:57

CherryYellowCouch · 15/07/2025 12:50

People have been making those kind of claims for the entire time I’ve been on MN (nearly 20 years).

If the site doesn’t work for you, give yourself permission to leave.

Or hide AIBU, Chat etc and just use specific boards for your interests which are gentler.

MN isn’t compulsory. There are other chat fora available.

This. Every year someone (or ones) come on here saying "I've been 'ere since all this were trees and the bullying's out of control now" followed by some other posters saying "Things Ain't What They Used To Be..."
I can only think they have extremely selective memories. A troll resurrected a ton of posts from 2007 last year or the year before and the nastiness and bullying back then was on another level compared to what it's like now.

starcloud · 15/07/2025 12:58

arethereanyleftatall · 15/07/2025 12:57

Been on here for decades, never noticed double standards. There is occasionally bonkers references of comparison to completely different situations though.

You have never once seen the double standards on here really.
Its every bloody day.

TourdeFrance25 · 15/07/2025 12:59

2dogsandabudgie · 15/07/2025 12:46

Have some schools broken up for Summer already!

I'd say summer school would be a good idea.

🤣

LarkspurLane · 15/07/2025 13:02

If it doesn't work for you, try some other internet forums. There's plenty of places where men are lauded and always right.

I like that people can name change here but I wish it did say how long people have been members. Otherwise I'm inclined to think posts like this are from new posters rather than people who've been here ages.

2dogsandabudgie · 15/07/2025 13:03

Shenmen · 15/07/2025 12:55

No you didn't. It was a nobbish question. The first couple of responses over recent years on AIBU is always by someone wanting to be a bit of a cunt. They hang around desperate to be the first poster. So obvious to spot having been here for 20 years.

Well if you've been on here for that long then you will know that once the schools have broken up we often get a thread, poorly written by a teenager who is bored.

Takesomepie · 15/07/2025 13:28

Well the thread as gone very well.

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RufustheFactualReindeer · 15/07/2025 13:33

The forum doesn’t have double standards

posters could have double standards but unless you have seen exactly the same poster on threads that are the same but with the sexs switched then its very hard/impossible to prove

rumred · 15/07/2025 13:36

Some people have double standards. Some lie and cheat. Some of them are on here. Real life is full of shite. Mn has some of those people posting.

It's a forum, not your living room. I scroll quickly over stuff I find objectionable, suggest you do the same.

TourdeFrance25 · 15/07/2025 16:35

2dogsandabudgie · 15/07/2025 13:03

Well if you've been on here for that long then you will know that once the schools have broken up we often get a thread, poorly written by a teenager who is bored.

Yeah, but it's weird though isn't it. I can't imagine EVER being so bloody bored, especially as a teenager, that I'd resort to it. 🙄🙄🙇🏻‍♀️

TranceNation · 15/07/2025 17:44

I think that thread this morning was perhaps a fake in the end but it did prove the double standards on here. It was really quite eye opening.

cloudyblueglass · 15/07/2025 17:48

Would you like to share what the actual problem is? Are you upset that a chicken doesnt last more than a couple of days? Or that some people hate toilet rugs? Or toilet brushes? Are you raging about there being only two sexed and the Supreme Court has ruled what a woman is because things had become so insane a judge needed to spell it out? Maybe you feel Gina Ford (am I allowed to say her name now or am I going to be nuked???) was much maligned?

JoyDivision79 · 15/07/2025 17:53

Can you be a bit more specific OP?

I've been here over a year. I absolutely love MN. I try avoid the threads where I know it's not my area. I find it really sad how many seem to enjoy being a dick to a vulnerable poster. I now dodge those type of threads as much as possible.

I have found certain threads exceptionally insightful and have helped me to learn so much more than any other sources.

I believe many people will also realise their own kids are SEN and go explore that possibility which is great - thanks to MN discussions. ( I'm saying that in light of the poster who highlights issue with the regular SEN reference - which is often brought up I agree).

So it might be alot to do with the topics? The threads? Sub groups you spend time on.

LittleGreenDragons · 15/07/2025 17:55

Unless you can prove the same posters are posting on all the threads but with opposing. thoughts each time then you cannot claim double standards. It's just different people with different ideas and opinions.

Claiming an actual website with thousands upon thousands of members of having double standards is mind-blowingly stupid. Which I'm hoping you are not.