Prank called my boyfriend with an app and a woman answered… nearly 10pm. Feeling confused.

[PeaceOverChaos]

Okay, I feel a bit silly even writing this but I need to get it off my chest.

Earlier tonight, I used one of those prank call apps to call my boyfriend — just messing around, nothing serious. We’ve done dumb stuff like this before, but this time when the call went through… a woman answered. It was nearly 10pm.

He lives at home with his dad and little sister (who’s quite young), and I don’t live with him. So there shouldn’t be any other women around that I know of, especially not answering his phone late at night.

I didn’t say anything — I just hung up, completely thrown. And honestly, part of the reason I haven’t brought it up is because it’s kind of embarrassing to admit I prank called him in the first place 🙈 But now I’m stuck wondering what the hell that was about.

Could there be a normal explanation? Or is this a red flag I shouldn’t ignore? I really don’t want to jump to conclusions but it’s eating away at me a bit.

Anyone had something like this happen?

Very judgemental. The OP felt scared and unsure and wanted some help to have the confidence to post. Chat GPT can also really help people who have dylexia/dyspraxia. I use it for reports at work.

No that isn’t weird as it’s mutually agreed. Answering someone else’s phone without prior knowledge to how they feel about it is bad mannered and intrusive.

But what good does it make to answer someone else's phone in normal situation?
The caller knows the called one isn't available to answer the phone (when they don't do that) and the called one knows from the call log that the caller wants to talk with them. If the caller wants to leave the message, they can just write it/dictate it and send over.

Yes, in the time of landlines without unanswered calls log it was different, in that times "tell Johny to call me after 8pm" was a thing, but the technology made it obsolete.

Yes, there are some emergencies, cases like lost phones, sure, but that's something different.

Don’t you understand that it’s difficult to reply because it feels like you’re talking to a stupid robot and not a human being? So sick of this forum becoming more and more fake.

People always say this is the proof but I use dashes all the time and have done for decades! I feel personally affronted that I now have to stop using them in case people think I’m AI :(

Actually, it’ll be a hyphen I use won’t it - this one. Am em dash is longer. Ignore me.

Why don’t you just ask chat gpt to help you?

I worked from my Mum and Dads house at Christmas for a day as we travelled up there I had to cover. I went to the loo and my Dad answered a Teams call from my Manager. That was weird! My Manager thought it was hilarious.

I'm sick of this forum becoming more and more rude.

I’m not sure the ChatGPT bit is the only fakery going on here

OMG I'd have been mortified if my dad had done that! 😂 At least your Manager saw the funny side. Hopefully your dad didn't say 'she's gone for a shit!' 😆

If I saw an unattended phone ringing in a train station, I would answer it in the hope of being able to reunite it with it's owner.

If I was with friends or family, and their phone rang whilst they were out the room, I wouldn't dream of answering it.
How am I to know if it's a welcome caller, or someone they don't wish to speak to?
I would tell them their phone rang, then it's up to them if they want to return the call - that's not my decision to make.

The only time I've ever answered a phone 'without permission' was a few weeks ago. I'd picked DD up from a party late in the evening (a little worse for wear) and she went straight to bed and fell asleep when we got in.
I could hear her phone vibrating in the kitchen over and over. I checked, and it was one of her friends. I answered it to let her know that DD was safely home.
I told DD in the morning, and she was glad I'd reassured her friend.
Under any other circumstances, I would have ignored it.

You don't need to stop using dashes necessarily. It is the excessive use of a m-dashes to introduce subordinate clauses, usually one in every paragraph, which is the current hallmark. It won't be for much longer, however. The model will be trained to stop doing it over time.

Have you met your boyfriend in person ?

I’ve never actually been to his house
We’ve been together a few years

Any chance that was his wife/partner, and you're the OW?

How often do you see him?
Does he stay overnight at yours regularly?
Have you been on holiday together?
Does he share anything about you on social media?
Have you met his friends?
Are you involved in his life at all?

I honestly can’t believe the pile on. I accept that other people don’t do this. But it is completely normal for my family and my friends. I’m actually quite shocked at the aggressive tone of the posts responding to mine . It’s uncalled for. You don’t want people to answer your phone- that’s fine . I don’t care if someone answers mine and that’s fine too!

Given that this call was made through an app, is it possible that there’s something within the app that has answered the call?
The Indian accent is odd but within apps would make more sense like when you call a UK number and get someone who is obviously Indian in a call centre?
Or like those calls on “Scam Inerceptors”
Is it a paid app? Have you given bank details ?

If there are other red flags then that’s something else altogether but this particular incident is just a bit odd 🤔…. Just ask him 🤷🏼‍♀️

…aside from this …. Genuinely want to know how those that could tell it was Chat GPT knew that 😳 I really couldn’t tell

It can also be used to troll and otherwise wind people up with minimum effort.

PS - if you want to call people 'very judgemental', it would be a good idea to try to come across as less judgemental in what you write.

What!? No they absolutely wouldn't.

Having your ringer off can be infuriating. I had to deal with a parental medical emergency from afar because my sister switches her ringer off. She lived a few minutes walk away from parents but I had to make the journey there from another town (at 5 in the morning!) while she slept soundly none the bloody wiser!

In what way was what I said judgmental? I was perfectly polite and offered a different view.

Probably his wife who answered the phone then?! No man who behaves like this and doesn’t allow you to even visit their house is free and unattached ffs! Seriously did you not realise you are probably the other woman?

So interesting, thank you!

maybe you should all stop hijacking this poor girls post she’s asking for advice and you’re just arguing with each other over who answers whose phone

That’s very rude and presumptuous of you. John may not want to speak to that person right now. John may not want to speak to anyone on the phone at the moment and there you are handing him his phone making him talk to the person on the other end. Bloody rude! I have a friend I have to really be in the mood to talk to because she can be emotionally draining, I’d be bloody furious with you if you handed me my phone with her on the other end.

You’ve never been to his house well that answers everything doesn’t it? She’s his girlfriend and you are the side chick. She probably lives with him and it’s comfortable enough because they live together to answer his phone. I will just go round there and introduce myself in fact don’t even bother just get rid