Prank called my boyfriend with an app and a woman answered… nearly 10pm. Feeling confused.

[PeaceOverChaos]

Okay, I feel a bit silly even writing this but I need to get it off my chest.

Earlier tonight, I used one of those prank call apps to call my boyfriend — just messing around, nothing serious. We’ve done dumb stuff like this before, but this time when the call went through… a woman answered. It was nearly 10pm.

He lives at home with his dad and little sister (who’s quite young), and I don’t live with him. So there shouldn’t be any other women around that I know of, especially not answering his phone late at night.

I didn’t say anything — I just hung up, completely thrown. And honestly, part of the reason I haven’t brought it up is because it’s kind of embarrassing to admit I prank called him in the first place 🙈 But now I’m stuck wondering what the hell that was about.

Could there be a normal explanation? Or is this a red flag I shouldn’t ignore? I really don’t want to jump to conclusions but it’s eating away at me a bit.

Anyone had something like this happen?

@housethatbuiltme

Who on earth in this day an age has their ringer on?

Errrr, pretty much everyone. How bizarre to keep your ringer off on your phone. (Like, all the time!)

Some very odd posts on this thread. Bet you hide behind the couch when someone knocks the door too. 😆

You’re saying you can’t see any difference between a landline and a personal phone?

Would you answer a colleague’s mobile phone without checking with them first?

My son does (ringer off) and it’s so annoying! I always keep my ringer on in case extended family or my sons needed to get in touch with me day or night.

Do we mean deluded or disillusioned?

We’ve been together a few years and only recently did he suggest I could come over sometime. But it never actually happened.

Are you sure he’s not actually with someone else?

How old are you? I am older and try not to criticise trends I don't understand. I stuck to the prevailing trends when I was younger and did not appreciate older people's lack of understanding/ignorance.

If you are always pranking each other perhaps he guessed it was you doing a prank and got his sister to answer with an "Indian" accent.

Hello chat gpt!

I don't think I know anyone who would. I wouldn't even do that with my OH's phone. And I'd be pretty put out if anyone answered mine.

So are we meant to have the ringer on our mobile phones off all the time - or this just a MN thing?

Ok your update confirms that you do actually suspect he might have someone else on the go even if you don’t want to admit it yet. How old are you both? Have you met his family?

I did use ChatGPT to help me write it out because I’ve been overwhelmed and didn’t know how to get the words out. But I’m still a real person going through something hard. This isn’t made up.

It's a young person thing. Those of us who aren't young can do what we always did/do.

We’ll make sure if we’re friends you ask me, do not assume I’d want my “friend” to answer my personal phone.

Yep my DD always has her ringer off which is flipping annoying as she loses it all the time and you cant ring it :D. I do answer my DHs phone and he answers mine. Doesnt ring very often and it is usually someone we both know, or the vets, school etc. I dont think that is weird.

She admits that Chatgpt helped. How did you guess? I can't tell.

Yeah… I think deep down I do suspect something, even if I wasn’t fully ready to admit it before. I made the call because I’d already been feeling like something was off and wanted to know what he was doing around that time. It was through a prank call app, so it came up as a completely different number — and I could hear the prank audio playing in the background while the woman answered. So it definitely wasn’t just a mistake or her thinking it was me.

I’ve never met his family in person. I did speak to his dad online once or twice, but that was well over a year ago and there’s been no contact since. I only asked about coming over because I thought I might need somewhere to stay — and even then, he said it would have to be for a short time. It wasn’t exactly an open or welcoming offer.

Looking back, I think I’ve ignored a lot of signs because I didn’t want to believe this was where things were heading. But this situation has brought all those doubts right to the surface.

If some people regularly answer the phone for their partner or family members - if they're out of the room, then good for them, just crack on! But to suggest that it's 'wrong' or 'not normal' to NOT answer 'because everyone does it' is arrogant and presumptuous. No, everyone does NOT do it. I don't and most people I know don't. So don't speak for me and my family and social circle!

But then, according to one poster, no-one keeps their ringer on anyway! 😂

The tell in that post was the m-dash.

An obviously lost phone is fine to answer as you are hopefully helping towards finding its owner.

Exactly. ^

Is it? My DS does this and I thought it was just an irritating 'him' thing! Sometimes he texts me, I ring him back immediately and the bugger doesnt pick up the phone!

Is chat gpt the only way people can manage to write posts now? Is it really that hard to write a few sentences? I worry about our future.

I think that poster mean 'deluded.' I didn't want to mention it though. 😆